Recording summary · January 2020
Why I Hated My Ex Girlfriend
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Overview
In 2010, Daniel met a Japanese university student on japan-cupid.com while working at his father's company in England, subsequently traveling to Japan to be with her.
Upon arrival, Daniel experienced disappointment regarding her appearance, and the relationship suffered from personality friction, strict rules, criticism, and infrequent meetings while he stayed at a guesthouse.
Daniel began a relationship with a Korean guest at his guesthouse, after which his girlfriend severed contact by ghosting him, amid an allegation that she was seeing someone else.
Ten years later, Daniel checked her social media and dating profile, finding that she had become a flight attendant and appeared to be single, while reflecting on the permanence of past relationships.
Themes
Meeting and planning a trip to Japan via Japan Cupid while working in England.
Initial airport meeting and disappointment over physical appearance.
Relationship conflicts concerning red light crossing and finishing meals.
The Disney trip and emotional fallout on the return flight to Osaka.
Isolation at the guesthouse and limited weekly visits.
Behavioral clashes, including train station antics and throwing a stick in Kyoto.
Starting a relationship with a Korean guesthouse resident and being ghosted.
Investigating the ex-girlfriend's career and status ten years later via social media.
Reflections on the impossibility of erasing relationship history.
Developments
In 2010, Daniel quit his job and flew to Japan to meet his girlfriend at the airport.
Daniel and his girlfriend visited Tokyo Disneyland and DisneySea for Valentine's Day.
The girlfriend cried loudly on the return flight from Tokyo to Osaka.
Daniel threw a stick into Kyoto's bamboo forest, prompting his girlfriend to apologize to bystanders.
Daniel began seeing a Korean woman at his guesthouse while still dating his girlfriend.
The girlfriend stopped answering phone calls and Skype and Facebook messages, severing contact.
Daniel created an alternate Facebook account to view his ex-girlfriend's profile ten years later.
Uncertainties & gaps
Whether the Korean woman told the truth about a Facebook photo showing the ex-girlfriend with another man or invented it as comfort.
The ex-girlfriend's relationship status ten years later, which was estimated from Japan Cupid activity.
Whether the ex-girlfriend ever thought about Daniel in the ten years following their relationship.