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My Obsession with Japanese Women is OVER [3Dp9u0oMj4E]

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  1. So it's 2022 and the idea of Japan

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  2. reopening for tourists this summer has

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  3. started to become more and more of a topic

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  4. that people are talking about. And after

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  5. waiting 2 long years for Japan to finally

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  6. reopen to tourists, you might think that I

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  7. would be very excited at the idea of being

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  8. able to finally get back to Japan. But

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  9. unfortunately, I just don't really feel

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  10. very interested in going to Japan right

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  11. now. 2 years is quite a long time, and

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  12. over the course of 2 years, I feel like

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  13. I've changed quite a lot as a person. The

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  14. things I feel interested in has taken a

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  15. dramatic shift over the past 2 years, and

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  16. I think that might be quite understandable

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  17. for most people. Most people don't have

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  18. the same interests or hobbies for their

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  19. entire lives, and as the years go on, we

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  20. mature and grow as people, and so do our

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  21. interests. So as many of you may know,

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  22. for most of my adult life, I've been very

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  23. obsessed with Japan and the idea of living

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  24. in Japan and dating a Japanese woman. But

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  25. now when I think of the idea of going back

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  26. to Japan and living there semi-long-term

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  27. for a few months, the idea just kind of

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  28. bores me because I can kind of imagine

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  29. what's going to happen. I'll go there,

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  30. I'll get some kind of apartment hotel,

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  31. and then I'll just sit around in the hotel

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  32. feeling pretty bored. I might get some

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  33. dates on dating apps and then I'll go on

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  34. dates, but these dates are probably going

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  35. to be pretty rubbish and not really up to

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  36. my standards. I won't really feel

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  37. attracted to any of the women I get dates

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  38. with, and it'll just be in general pretty

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  39. lacking in lustre and dull. 6 months will

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  40. go by, which is the longest amount of time

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  41. I can stay as a tourist, and I would have

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  42. wasted all that money on apartments and

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  43. hotels and food and stuff. And after the 6

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  44. months is over, I'll have to leave Japan,

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  45. and I basically would have achieved pretty

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  46. much nothing during those 6 months unless

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  47. I somehow managed to get a visa by getting

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  48. married again, which is probably going to

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  49. be very unlikely. I just look back at all

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  50. the times I went to Japan, all of the

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  51. trips, all of the months I spent in Japan

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  52. just messing around with women and going

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  53. dating and going to restaurants and

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  54. meeting people, and sure, it was fun at

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  55. the time, and sure, I made some nice

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  56. memories, but in the end, it didn't really

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  57. amount to anything that's helping me right

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  58. now in this very moment. I could have

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  59. spent that time or money learning new

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  60. skills, gaining new qualifications or

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  61. certificates, but instead of getting new

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  62. skills, I just got chlamydia and divorced.

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  63. I think the idea of settling down in

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  64. England and just living in England

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  65. long-term really scared me. For a very

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  66. long time, and the idea of running away to

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  67. a cool country like Japan always seemed

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  68. more magical and interesting to me as a

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  69. young adult. But now in my 30s, I'm

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  70. starting to rethink a lot of things. I'm

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  71. starting to think that maybe I could get

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  72. more happiness and fulfillment in life if

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  73. I just stayed put in one country, my own

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  74. country, which is the easiest country to

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  75. stay in to do stuff since I speak the

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  76. language and I don't have any problems

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  77. with visas. The main appeal of Japan for

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  78. me when I was younger was Japanese women.

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  79. I kind of had this obsession, maybe even a

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  80. fetish you could say, for Japanese girls

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  81. and Japanese women. But as of right now,

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  82. I kind of lost all interest in Japanese

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  83. women, and kind of just women in general

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  84. have been very uninteresting to me

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  85. recently. And I feel kind of bored with

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  86. all the dating stuff and the relationship

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  87. stuff. I want to do something else in

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  88. life. I don't even know why I was so

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  89. obsessed with Japanese women. I think it's

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  90. because of all of the anime I watched

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  91. where the girls look really cute and they

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  92. look really fun to be with, and I thought

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  93. they would just make perfect girlfriends,

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  94. and that was the kind of girl that I

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  95. wanted to be with. But then I went to

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  96. Japan and I realized that real-life people

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  97. don't really look as beautiful and pretty

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  98. as anime characters, or even as actresses

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  99. in TV shows do. I mean, some of the girls

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  100. over there are very pretty and very

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  101. attractive, but let's face it, they won't

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  102. ever be interested in a guy like me, and

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  103. the vast majority of people over in Japan

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  104. are just kind of either average or very

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  105. unattractive. It's the same as any other

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  106. country. It doesn't matter which country

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  107. you go to, there's going to be a small

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  108. percentage of very attractive people who

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  109. won't give a damn about you unless you're

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  110. also very attractive, which I'm not, and

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  111. you probably aren't either. And after

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  112. experiencing several relationships with

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  113. fairly moderately attractive Japanese

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  114. women and some very unattractive ones and

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  115. some very old and ugly fat ones, I have to

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  116. say that in conclusion None of the

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  117. relationships were very great. That's why

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  118. they all ended. There's not even one

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  119. relationship that I had with a Japanese

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  120. girlfriend that I actually regret losing

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  121. or that I miss being with. They all just

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  122. kind of sucked, and I preferred being

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  123. alone instead of being in them. I tried so

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  124. hard to make this dream of dating the

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  125. perfect Japanese anime girl to come true

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  126. and become a reality. And after all my

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  127. sacrifices and all of my efforts studying

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  128. Japanese and studying the Japanese culture

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  129. and trying to find out how I could move

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  130. there, all of it was all in vain and

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  131. didn't really matter because in the end it

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  132. was all just a waste of time. I think the

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  133. problem is if you're feeling bored and you

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  134. don't know what to do in life, just moving

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  135. to Japan is not really going to fix the

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  136. problems. Sure, in the beginning it'll be

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  137. exciting because everything's fresh and

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  138. new and you're with someone new and you

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  139. can go on cute dates, but when the

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  140. honeymoon phase is over, and it will be

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  141. over fairly soon, you'll just be back to

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  142. feeling bored and you don't know what to

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  143. do in life anymore. And that's exactly

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  144. what happened to me after getting married

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  145. and settling down in Japan. I just started

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  146. to feel bored and didn't know what to do

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  147. anymore again. Dating a Japanese woman is

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  148. also kind of boring because number one,

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  149. if they don't speak good English, then you

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  150. have to speak in Japanese all the time,

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  151. which wasn't really too much of a problem

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  152. to me since I passed level 2 of the JLPT

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  153. and I nearly passed level 1, so my

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  154. Japanese was up to a fairly decent

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  155. standard. But still, even for me, I

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  156. started to get very tired and exhausted

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  157. having to communicate in Japanese all the

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  158. time. Also, Japanese women have no idea or

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  159. knowledge about meme culture or internet

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  160. stuff or trending popular topics that

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  161. might be trending and popular in the West.

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  162. So good luck having any kind of

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  163. conversations about Elon Musk buying

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  164. Twitter or the Will Smith slap thing with

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  165. Japanese people because they probably

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  166. won't have any idea what you're talking

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  167. about or they won't even care in the first

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  168. place. So after you get bored of the

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  169. bedtime activities, which you will get

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  170. bored of pretty soon because Japanese

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  171. women aren't that exciting or adventurous

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  172. in the sack, then there's not really much

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  173. else to keep you stimulated emotionally or

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  174. intellectually. What are you going to talk

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  175. about? I guess you could talk about how

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  176. sunny it is and how cute the little bunny

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  177. rabbits across the road are. In almost

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  178. every relationship I had in Japan, I just

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  179. started to get really bored after a few

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  180. months, and I would start going to see

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  181. different women and then cheating and then

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  182. coming back home and didn't really care if

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  183. the relationships blew up and ended. So if

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  184. I'm not really feeling very interested in

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  185. Japanese women anymore, What is the point

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  186. of going to Japan? That's basically the

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  187. main appeal point of going to Japan is for

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  188. the women. I guess there's also the food

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  189. and the culture, but you can get Japanese

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  190. food anywhere in the world. If I want to

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  191. eat sushi or ramen, I can just go on to

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  192. Uber Eats and there's a lot of restaurants

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  193. that sell Japanese food. You don't need to

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  194. go all the way to Japan to eat Japanese

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  195. food. And the culture stuff, I don't

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  196. really care much about that. Now that I

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  197. don't really care much about the women

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  198. either, I just don't really see much point

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  199. or appeal in going to Japan. Because what

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  200. would I do when I get there? And right now

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  201. I'm just really enjoying learning to

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  202. drive. It's been such a long time since I

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  203. really dedicated myself to learning a new

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  204. skill, and it's very challenging, but I've

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  205. had about 6 lessons so far, 2 hours each,

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  206. so about 12 hours of driving lessons I've

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  207. had so far. And I'm actually really

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  208. enjoying operating the car and driving it

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  209. around town and doing the different

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  210. maneuvers, and it's actually been a great

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  211. learning experience, and I can't wait to

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  212. be able to get my driving license and then

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  213. start getting into the world of cars. And

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  214. I think I've really changed the way I

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  215. think when it comes to challenges and

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  216. trying to do difficult things. It all

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  217. started when I was playing Elden Ring, a

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  218. game that I thought I would never like and

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  219. I thought I'd really hate it. But after

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  220. playing Elden Ring and getting really

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  221. addicted to it, I started to learn the joy

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  222. of doing something difficult. And even if

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  223. it takes you 600 times to take down a

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  224. boss, when you eventually get better and

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  225. better and you finally get to take down

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  226. that boss and you get that sweet XP and

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  227. gear. It feels so great overcoming a

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  228. challenge, and I think that's really

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  229. shifted my way of thinking when it comes

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  230. to taking on difficult tasks, which in the

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  231. past I would just avoid doing. I would

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  232. just avoid anything that's difficult and

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  233. then find a way around it so I wouldn't

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  234. have to learn anything new. In the past,

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  235. I had such a bad mentality where if

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  236. anything became too difficult, I would

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  237. just give up, and then I'd start creating

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  238. all of these excuses to justify giving up.

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  239. When I first took driving lessons when I

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  240. was 18, every time it got really

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  241. difficult, I just thought, oh my god, I

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  242. can't do this, I'm gonna give up, this is

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  243. a waste of time. But now I'm embracing the

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  244. challenge in true Elden Ring fashion. If

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  245. there's something difficult, I'll just

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  246. keep trying and trying until I get better

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  247. and better, and I can see the

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  248. improvements. For example, I used to be so

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  249. scared of the clutch in a car, in a manual

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  250. transmission car. I used to be so scared

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  251. of stalling it and feeling embarrassed at

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  252. traffic lights. When the engine cuts out.

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  253. But I'm getting really good at the clutch

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  254. after all these lessons practicing clutch

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  255. control. I feel like I'm really getting

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  256. the hang of it. And you should have seen

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  257. me yesterday. I was using perfect clutch

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  258. control going up this hill in traffic,

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  259. and I was slowing down and slightly

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  260. speeding up just by using tiny little

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  261. adjustments on the clutch, pressing it

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  262. down slightly, lifting it up slightly.

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  263. And it just felt really satisfying to

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  264. finally get good at something that I was

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  265. very scared of in the past. So in

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  266. conclusion, now that I don't really feel

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  267. very interested in dating Japanese women

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  268. anymore, I also don't really feel very

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  269. interested in just going to Japan and

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  270. sitting around doing nothing like I used

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  271. to. I'd rather spend my time and my money

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  272. trying to learn some kind of new skill

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  273. that I really want to become good at. For

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  274. now, that would be driving. And then after

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  275. driving, I guess I have to find something

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  276. new to challenge myself with. And that's

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  277. basically life, isn't it? You just keep

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  278. doing one challenge after the next

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  279. challenge after the next one to keep

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  280. yourself stimulated. If you don't have

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  281. anything to do that challenges you,

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  282. that's difficult, that you really want to

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  283. do, then you just become really bored

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  284. because there's no obstacles to try and

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  285. take down. You just feel like there's

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  286. nothing to do all day, you don't know what

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  287. to do with your life anymore. I guess you

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  288. could say after getting married to a

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  289. Japanese woman and sleeping with many, I

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  290. don't really feel like that's a challenge

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  291. that I care much about anymore. I guess

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  292. you could say I feel like I've conquered

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  293. Japanese women, and I want to go into

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  294. something else now.

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