Recording summary · April 2017
I nearly got married to my ex-girlfriend's Japanese friend
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Overview
Daniel moved to Japan on a working holiday visa in 2011, during which he was dating a French woman and became acquainted with a Japanese bakery worker who was in another relationship, before leaving for Korea and England due to job dissatisfaction and relationship deterioration.
Two years after leaving Japan, Daniel reconnected with the bakery worker via Facebook, traveled to stay at her apartment in Oita City after flight disruptions, entered a romantic relationship, and quickly pursued marriage paperwork so he could obtain a long-term visa.
The relationship developed friction involving severe pain from Daniel's wisdom tooth, sexual expectations, mutual chlamydia infections, and repeated arguments over an ex-girlfriend's photo and other disputes that once left Daniel outside overnight.
Characterizing the relationship dynamic as monotonous, lacking common interests, and marked by frequent emotional breakdowns and silent treatments, Daniel ended the relationship after a public argument, returned home, and ceased contact.
Reflecting on the breakup, Daniel viewed his past conduct as immature and affected by self-described depression and financial concerns, maintained regrets, retained Jinbei shorts she bought him, and was ignored and blocked when attempting to message her via Lang-8.com.
Themes
Past relationship with a Japanese bakery worker in Japan and subsequent reunion.
Marriage application and visa plans in Oita City.
Domestic conflicts, health difficulties, and reasons leading to the breakup.
Personal reflections, self-described depression, career anxieties, and subsequent contact attempt on Lang-8.com.
Developments
Daniel travels to Japan on a working holiday visa in 2011.
Daniel departs Japan for Korea after four months and later returns to England.
Two years later, Daniel receives a Facebook message from the Japanese bakery worker and arranges a visit.
A typhoon diverts Daniel's flight from Oita Airport to Kumamoto Airport, prompting a three-hour bus trip to Oita City.
Daniel and the woman begin an official romantic relationship and initiate marriage paperwork, including ordering a birth certificate from England and submitting city hall documents.
During an argument, the woman ejects Daniel from the apartment, forcing him to spend the night outside until reconciling the next morning.
Daniel ends the relationship, returns home, and breaks off communication.
Daniel sends a message to his ex-partner through Lang-8.com, and she blocks him without responding.