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Why I don’t get matches on tinder… [DCQgx3Bv1_U]
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Overview
Daniel experiences very little dating success since moving to Manchester, contrasting his experience with past dating success in Japan, South Korea, and Thailand.
A Tinder experiment testing a filtered image with a bald head, facial hair, and no glasses produced significantly more matches, though Daniel prefers a clean-shaven, boyish aesthetic influenced by Japanese culture.
Experiencing lower confidence regarding his appearance and difficulty on dating apps in Manchester, Daniel rejects changing his styling to meet local preferences and decides to pause dating until Japan reopens.
Themes
Disparity between dating app match rates in the United Kingdom and East or Southeast Asian countries.
Daniel's Tinder experiment involving bald and beard filters.
Contrasting cultural ideals of male attractiveness between Japanese media standards and Western preferences.
Loss of self-esteem and reduced on-camera appearances due to appearance insecurities.
Rejection of head-shaving or chemical treatments to grow facial hair, prioritizing authentic personal comfort over dating appeal.
Skepticism about the general Western popularity of K-pop aesthetics influencing everyday dating preferences.
Decision to pause dating after continuous relationships since 2010 while waiting for Japan's borders to reopen.
Daniel's frustration with being told he looks young, interpreting it as an implication of immaturity.
Cultural perceptions of hairstyles such as fringes or bangs in Japan and Asia versus Daniel's current area.
Daniel's lack of dating success in Manchester and reasons why matches unmatch him.
Developments
Daniel went on around seven dates in South Korea after getting divorced.
Daniel moved to Manchester nearly four months prior.
Daniel tested a filtered photo depicting himself as bald with a beard on Tinder.
Daniel received messages from other men describing his filtered look as an alpha or Chad.
Daniel had one coffee date upon arriving in Manchester.
Uncertainties & gaps
Whether the popularity of K-pop and BTS in the West meaningfully increases general dating interest for feminine-looking Asian men.
When Japan will reopen its borders to travelers.