Recording summary · December 2016
I messaged my Ex Girlfriend
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Overview
At 2 AM, Daniel recorded a video after unexpectedly discovering the lang-8.com profile and comment of an ex-partner from Japan whom Daniel had previously almost married.
Daniel sent the former partner a message inquiring how she had been and apologizing for past behavior during the relationship.
Daniel reflected on the relationship's difficulties, emotional volatility, lack of common interests, unrealistic partner ideals, loneliness driving unsatisfactory relationships, and fears regarding marriage, financial responsibility, and job prospects before returning to parents' home in the UK.
Daniel recalled a painful parting at the train station in Japan, crying during departure, and the lonely flight back to the UK.
Daniel explained the habit of wearing Japanese jinbei shorts over trousers as a comfort blanket, recounting how the set was purchased at Don Quijote for a fireworks event during an earlier trip to Japan.
Themes
Finding an ex-partner's profile and comment on lang-8.com while browsing diaries concerning Japan's Northern Territories.
Sending an apology message and reacting to the coincidence.
Reflections on emotional volatility, unmet expectations, relationship responsibilities, and marriage anxieties in Japan.
Recollections of parting at the train station and the return journey to the UK.
The origin of the jinbei set bought at Don Quijote and wearing the shorts over trousers for comfort.
Ambivalence regarding whether the former partner will remember Daniel or respond.
Developments
Daniel visited Japan and attended a fireworks festival during the first week.
Daniel and the former partner went to Don Quijote and bought a jinbei set.
Daniel wore the jinbei to make the former partner happy, kept the shorts, and left the top behind with her.
Daniel and the former partner parted ways at the train station on the morning of Daniel's return flight to the UK.
Daniel found the former partner's profile and comment on lang-8.com.
Daniel sent a message to the former partner apologizing for past behavior.
Uncertainties & gaps
Daniel questioned whether sending the message to the ex-partner was a good idea.
Daniel questioned whether leaving the relationship was the right choice or if another partner with that level of love would ever be found.
Daniel does not know whether the former partner will reply to the message.
Daniel is uncertain about what outcome is wanted from sending the message.
Daniel does not know whether the former partner still remembers him or will act as if she does not know him.
Daniel does not know whether the feeling is sadness or simply that the situation is weird.
Daniel assumes the former partner threw away the jinbei top left behind.