why i gave up on my dreams to live in Japan [_2cm8ZnTmeU]

Inspired by J-vloggers, Daniel sought from ages 17 or 18 to live, work, and start a family in Japan, studying Japanese for two years before spending five months in 2010 attending a language school and staying at an international guest house.

Daniel returned to Japan the next year on a working holiday visa but struggled with employment, enduring high anxiety and making mistakes at a Lawson convenience store before abandoning the job after three months without notice, quitting a kitchen dishwasher job, finding private English tutoring awkward, and leaving Japan after four months for South Korea with an ex-girlfriend before returning to the UK in 2013.

In 2013, Daniel enrolled in an A-level computer science college course in the UK to qualify for university and English teaching, but found the coursework dull, disliked the environment with younger peers and older teachers, and dropped out after four weeks, which caused parental disappointment and led to abandoning university degree plans.

Daniel subsequently decided against permanent residence in Japan, opting instead to travel there for up to six months annually to date women in pursuit of marriage and a spouse visa while earning money online, despite also evaluating and rejecting work, student, and spouse visa paths due to education hurdles, costs, or loss of freedom.

After meeting a woman on Tinder, marrying her, securing a spouse visa, and earning income through YouTube in Japan, Daniel found living there permanently miserable, expressed envy toward YouTubers with long-term visas while acknowledging an unwillingness to expend required effort, and concluded that permanent residency should be abandoned for multi-country travel because long-term stays demand unacceptable sacrifices.

Daniel's initial aspirations, language preparation, and first 2010 trip to Japan.

Working holiday employment difficulties at Lawson, dishwashing, tutoring, and departure to South Korea.

UK college computer science studies, teacher disillusionment, and dropping out.

Evaluation of visa categories, recurring travel to Japan, dating, marriage, and subsequent disillusionment with permanent residency.

In 2010, Daniel traveled to Japan for the first time, staying for five months to attend language school while living in an international guest house.

In 2011, Daniel returned to Japan on a working holiday visa, worked at a Lawson convenience store, and stopped going after three months without notifying management.

Daniel quit a kitchen dishwasher position in Japan.

Daniel left Japan after four months, relocated briefly to South Korea with an ex-girlfriend, and returned to the UK.

In 2013, Daniel enrolled in an A-level computer science course at a UK college.

Daniel quit the college computer science course after four weeks and notified his father.

In 2013, Daniel abandoned plans to reside in Japan permanently and resolved to visit annually for up to six months.

Over four to five years, Daniel repeatedly traveled to Japan and dated Japanese women.

Daniel met a woman on Tinder, married her, and obtained a Japanese spouse visa.

Whether the college teachers were born around 1945 or lacked childhood electricity.