I find it difficult to care about other people

Hey, so this might be a bit of a strange

thing to admit to, but sometimes I find it

very difficult to show an interest in

other people's lives or actually care

about other people's lives or what they're

doing in their life. And I think that's

one of the reasons why I find it so

difficult to strike up conversations and

make small talk with, with people.

Because when you strike up a conversation,

uh, you kind of have to ask people about

their lives, you know. You have to ask

things like, how was your day? What did

you do yesterday? What are you doing

tomorrow? What are you doing next week?

Where are you going on the weekend? What

have you been watching on TV? And the

problem is I just, I really don't care

what they've been doing, what they're

going to do, what they're watching on TV.

I just don't care enough to be able to

force myself to be able to make small talk

with strangers. And I feel kind of like

I'm lying to myself when I have to force

myself to pretend that I actually care

about this person. And it's very difficult

for me to to pretend to care, basically.

You might be thinking, oh Daniel, you're

the most boring person in the world. You

don't have the right to call other people

boring when all you do is sit in your

apartment all day long watching YouTube

and playing Hearthstone, not even

interacting with people. And you're

talking rubbish because just because you

think that I'm a boring person doesn't

take away my right to criticize other

people for being boring. I also find it

kind of difficult to feel sad or upset

when other people have suffered tragic

things. For example, if Peter down the

road got hit by a bus and tragically

passed away, sure, that would be very sad

for the people who knew Peter. And, um,

yeah, I could understand why some people

would be upset about it. And if I could

press a magic button to bring Peter back

to life, then of course I would press it.

But for me personally, I wouldn't feel sad

or upset about Peter's passing. I wouldn't

cry about it. I wouldn't lose any sleep

over it. That's because I didn't know who

Peter was. I never met Peter. I never

spoke to Peter. Peter had no effect or

impact on my life whatsoever. So I find it

difficult to, to feel sad about someone

who I never knew. So yeah, I'm sorry,

Peter, but that's the truth. Last year

I used to work in a petrol station doing

night shifts, and I had to work with other

people. I had coworkers. And one day my

boss had a word with me and she said,

Daniel, the other people here have been

complaining about you. They've been saying

that you're unfriendly, that you're not

very nice. You don't say hello, you don't

talk, and you just stand there in silence

looking very miserable. And she asked me

why, and I said, because I don't know what

to talk to— I don't know what to talk

about to those people. I'm a very shy

person. And she said, why don't you try

asking them what they've been doing on the

weekend, if they have any plans for the

next week? What have they been watching on

TV recently? And I said, okay, and I

forced a smile and I said, I'll give it a

try. But really, really what I wanted to

really say was, I don't want to ask them

what they've been doing on the weekend or

what their plans are or what they've been

watching on TV, because honestly, I really

don't care and I have no interest about

their personal lives. I don't come here to

chat to Susan down the road. I come here

to work and earn money. Sure, if Susan

down the road was really into Star Wars

and liked World of Warcraft and also made

YouTube videos, then we would have loads

of things to talk about. We could talk to

each other for hours and hours. I would

talk Susan's face off all night long, and

we would just stand around not getting any

work done. And you could say, well,

Daniel, how do you know that Susan isn't

into World of Warcraft or Star Wars if you

don't actually take any steps or make any

effort to try and talk to her and find out

what kind of person she is? And yeah,

you've got a good point there. And the

reason why I don't make any effort is

because I just automatically assume that

people are boring straight from the

beginning, because in the past when I have

made attempts to try and get to know

people, 9 times out of 10 they were pretty

boring people and I didn't have anything

in common with them, and I just felt like

I wasted my time trying to get to know

them. So instead of making an attempt to

talk to people and try and find out what

kind of person they are, I would rather

avoid the risk of being dragged into a

really boring conversation that I have no

interest in, and I would prefer to just

stand there all night long in silence than

pretending to show interest in Susan down

the road, or any other person who I'm

unfortunately stuck with. I also feel kind

of irritated that my boss was criticizing

me because I wasn't very talkative and I

wasn't interested in chatting to my

coworkers. I felt like she was criticizing

my personality. It's not my fault I'm not

a very chatty person. I'm just not very

interested in chatting to people because

it's boring and it doesn't interest me. I

don't like having my personality

criticized. This is just what I'm like.

If you don't like it, if you wanted a

chatty person, you should have gotten a

chatty person. You should have realized

that I'm not a very chatty person when you

interviewed me. Okay, so after hearing all

that, you might be thinking to yourself,

oh, Daniel isn't a very nice person

because he doesn't care about anyone apart

from himself. And I don't think that's

entirely true because there are a few

people who I do care about. For example,

my family, my friends— I think I have

friends— my loved ones. I do care about

those people. That's because I know those

people on a personal level, and I kind

of have to pretend— I have to at least

pretend to care about them because, you

know, they're family and they're my loved

ones. Also, that brings me on to my next

topic. Several of you guys have been

criticizing me in the comments. You've

been saying things like, oh, Daniel

doesn't care about us. He doesn't care

about his audience. He doesn't care about

the viewers. He only cares about getting

views and getting money. And I think

that's a pretty unfair thing to say

because number one, I don't know who you

guys are. I don't know what you look like.

I don't know what your faces look like. I

don't know your names. I don't know you on

a personal level, so I feel like it's a

bit unreasonable to expect me to care

for all of you on a personal level like I

would care for my family or my friends or

my loved ones. I know there's some

YouTubers who say things like, oh, I love

you guys, you're everything to me, you're

my pineapples, you're my bros, we're one

big family. And that's fine if you're into

that kind of stuff, but for me personally,

I feel like that's a bit deceitful. I feel

like that's manipulative because there's

no way that those big YouTubers actually

care about their audiences. When Alfie

Deyes says stuff like, oh, I love you

guys, see you next time, he's not being

genuine. He's lying. He doesn't actually

love you. He's just faking it so he can

make himself look better. And it works

because people like it. People like it

when the YouTuber they watch calls them

their friends or says that they love you,

it makes them feel good. It makes them

feel like they're part of a community. It

makes them feel like they're part of

something larger than themselves. And

maybe I should be doing that. Maybe I'm

shooting myself in the foot by admitting

that I don't actually love you guys like I

love my wife or my mum or my dad or my

sister or myself. Now don't get me wrong,

I think you're all great and you must be

very nice, interesting people, apart from

some of you who seem to be complete dicks.

Bye! Looking at the comments, but I do

really appreciate you, and I'm really

grateful that you enjoy watching my

videos, that you take the time out of your

day to watch the stuff that I make. It's

just that I don't want to pretend that

we're all best friends and we're a big

family and that I love you, and I don't

want to give you like a weird cute

nickname because I feel like that's kind

of insulting. It's insulting towards you

as a person. It's insulting to pretend

that I have feelings for my audience when

I clearly don't. Maybe if we met in real

life and we had a conversation, then yeah,

we could become friends. Or if we had a

conversation one-to-one over Instagram

using direct messages, then we could

possibly create something that resembles a

friendship. But I'm not going to pretend

and give you nicknames and say, I love you

guys, at the end of videos because I think

that's just kind of pathetic and it's like

pandering to your audience. And it's just

really fake and disingenuous, and I don't

like the way people think that that's how

YouTubers should be. Oh, I watch your

videos, I care about you. That means I

demand that you care about me. How dare

you not care about me? How dare you not

show an interest in me? Doesn't that sound

kind of narcissistic? So what I'm trying

to say is, when a YouTuber says things

like, I love you, I really care about you,

you're my best friend in the world, he's

lying. He's trying to trick you. He's

trying to manipulate you into liking him

more so you watch more of his videos so he

can get more money. So that's all I had to

say for today's video. Um, I'll see you in

the next one, my little watermelons. I

love you all. Take care. Bye-bye. Hello

and welcome to today's Cooking with

Daniel. Today we're going to be making

something extremely exciting. It's called

an omelette, and we're going to be using

bacon, a leek, or half a leek,

and 2 eggs. 1, 2. It's very simple.

And I'm going to show you how to do it.

Okay, so it's extremely simple to make.

First, we have to cut our leek into tiny,

tiny pieces, and the best way to do this

is first cut the leek in half like

this, and then cut it in half again.

And then what we're going to do is just

slice it basically. It's very easy, like

this. You see that?

Now make sure you be careful not to slice

your fingers because I don't have health

insurance and I don't know how much it

would cost if I have to go to the hospital

in Japan. Might be very expensive. Oh, I

dropped lots on the floor, but it's okay

because we can just pick them up.

Okay, so we have the leek sliced up

nicely, apart from this bit which needs

more slicing.

Okay, next we prepare the bacon.

Oh, I dropped Something else. What's this?

Special sachet of chemicals. So just slice

up the bacon into thin strips like this.

We don't want big chunks of bacon in the

omelette. It's better if everything's

a bit smaller. I'm not sure why.

It just, it just is, okay? Don't ask me

why, because I don't know why.

Okay, now we have the bacon nicely sliced

up. We need to get a bowl and we need

to mix up the eggs, scramble up the eggs,

and mix everything together. So I'll be