Thinking about paying for sex

So I want to talk about prostitution, I

guess. You know, paying for sex. There

have been a few times where I've actually

thought about paying for sex. This mostly

happened last year when I was in Japan and

I couldn't find a girlfriend. A few times

the thought of going to some place and

paying a girl to have sex with me did

cross my mind. It's just that as someone

who has social anxiety and is really lazy,

the idea of getting on a train and then

going to some kind of shady establishment

Because it has to be shady, right?

Because prostitution is illegal in Japan.

If it's illegal, it must be run by a bunch

of shady people, and that sounds kind of

intimidating. The idea of getting on a

train and going all the way to that kind

of building and then having to pay

hundreds of dollars just to have sex once,

it just sounds like too much work. You

know, I love having sex, but I'm not

willing to pay hundreds and hundreds of

dollars just to have it Just once.

So a few days ago I was looking up these

buildings called soaplands in Japan, and

the idea is that they give you a massage,

but there's usually several courses. The

basic course just gives you a massage and

that's it, but there's a more expensive

course where you can actually get sex at

the end of it, or during the middle of it,

or at the beginning. I wonder if you can

just pay for the sex and not get the

massage. I don't really see what the

difference is between paying for sex and

paying for a massage. They're basically

the same things, aren't they? You walk

into a building, you pay a woman or a man,

and then they give you a physical—

physically pleasurable activity

experience. It's pretty much the same.

Why is paying for sex illegal but paying

for massage— massages is perfectly

okay. I don't understand it.

I don't see what's wrong with paying for

sex if that's what the woman wants to do

and she's not being forced into doing it,

because both of them get something out of

it. The man gets sex and the woman gets

money. Isn't that how relationships and

marriage work anyway? You just cut out the

faff and the fussing. You know, all the

dating crap, you know, just get straight

to business and have sex. It sounds a lot

easier. But the thing I don't

like about paying for sex is if you pay a

girl to have sex with you, then you know

that she doesn't really want to have sex

with you. She just wants the money, and

that takes away a lot of the pleasure. I

think a lot of the pleasure that comes

from sex isn't just having sex in itself.

But also the fact that this woman or this

girl likes you enough that she would let

you have sex with her. That's like, like

you've won. It's like winning the

challenge of getting someone to like you.

I can have sex with someone that I don't

really like that much, that I don't really

feel like I love. That's fine. But I want

the person that I'm having sex with to be

really into me. And if

you have sex with a prostitute, then you

don't get that. That part of the

experience is missing.

The main thing that really scares me about

paying someone to have sex with me is what

if I really enjoy it? What if I really

like it and I get hooked and I

end up paying someone to have sex with me

every day, every week, 4 times a month?

I'd end up spending all my money on paying

people to have sex with me and I'll end up

running out of money, essentially.

I wonder if I had loads of money, would I

just go to prostitutes all the time? I

guess if I had loads of money, I wouldn't

really need to go to a prostitute because

then I could just attract a sexual partner

naturally because I'd have loads of money.

Isn't that what girls like?

Money. It kind of feels like cheating,

doesn't it? Most people have to work hard

to find someone that will let them have

sex with them. You know, they have to work

hard on their appearance, getting a good

job,

developing an interesting personality. If

you just pay someone to have sex with you,

then you don't have to do any of that.

You just give them some money and they'll,

they'll have sex with you. You don't have

to worry about how you look or if you earn

a lot of money. Well, I guess if you want

to pay for sex, you need to earn some

money. It's kind of like how people used

to buy gold in World of Warcraft. Most

people in World of Warcraft, they would

work hard to improve their characters, to

get new gear, but then you get those

idiots who just pay some money to some

Chinese person for gold and they get

everything without putting any effort into

it. I used to do that. I used to spend

money, real money, on gold in World of

Warcraft. I actually somehow I found out

how to log into my dad's PayPal account,

and I must have spent nearly £500 on gold

in World of Warcraft. I think the website

was called Item Garden.

I bought so much stuff. I bought my epic

mounts, I bought epic items off the

auction house, and then one day my dad

logged into his PayPal account and he

said, Daniel, What are all these payments

to this Chinese person? And I thought to

myself, shit. I knew he was gonna find out

eventually, but I didn't care. I just kept

buying more and more gold. I was

completely addicted. And I just came

clean. I said, that was me. I, I bought

gold on World of Warcraft, and I just, I

paid him the money. He wasn't really

angry. He didn't really say much.

He doesn't say much a lot of the time,

actually. But the thing is,

after I bought all that stuff with the

gold that I purchased with real money,

like my epic mounts and the epic items off

the auction house, I, I kind of felt like

I didn't deserve these things. I didn't

work for these things. I didn't earn it.

And the value of having those items kind

of wore off after a day or two.

If you don't work for something, if you

don't feel like you've earned something,

the value of the thing that you've

obtained isn't as high as it would be if

you had worked for it. I think sex is kind

of the same. Maybe if the whole process

was more automated, I'd be more tempted to

do it. For example, they could have a

website or an application where you just

You go on there and then you choose a

girl, you choose a girl, and then you

choose how long you want to do it for.

And then you pay online and then she comes

to your place, kind of like ordering a

pizza. Or maybe you could go to her place

or go to wherever the company building is

and you just go in, you enter like some

kind of code that you receive from the

app, and then you enter your private room

and then you have sex and then you leave,

you know, zero human interaction. If you

could do it like that, then I think I'd be

very tempted to try it out at least once.

The main thing that puts me off about

paying for sex is, like I said before,

having to go into a shady establishment

and dealing with some guy, explaining to

him why I'm there, and then paying him,

and then I guess he would have to show you

around or explain to you how the system

works, and I just don't want that. It's

already embarrassing enough that I'd have

to pay for sex. I don't want to have to

Talk to some guy in the building or

receptionist. Just make it more automated,

make it more anonymous. Then I'd give it a

try. I don't think I'd feel

ashamed for doing that. It's an