My problem with dating Japanese Women

So in today's video, we're going to be

talking about dating Japanese women.

And as someone who's dated at least 11

Japanese women and been on many hookups

with probably over 30 Japanese women and

also married a Japanese woman, I guess I'm

quite experienced when it comes to dating

Japanese women and romancing them.

So when I was a kid, I was never really

interested in girls.

I never dated when I was at school when

all my other friends were dating girls and

talking about girls.

I was more interested in video games and

Warhammer and Pokémon cards and stuff like

that.

It wasn't until I was about 17 or 18 until

I finally started to get interested in

girls.

But it wasn't interest in British girls or

white girls.

I only got interested in girls through

anime.

So I remember my first experience of being

interested in women and girls was through

anime.

So obviously I was interested in Japanese

women because that was what I was

watching.

I was watching the cartoon form of them,

at least in the beginning, until I moved

on to real life shows and Japanese dramas

and TV shows like that, which actually had

real Japanese women.

And I remember thinking when I was very

young, wow, Japanese women, they're so

perfect.

They're not fat, they're so slim, nice and

shorts, which is good for me because I'm

not 6 foot tall.

They've got nice black hair, they look

very feminine, they dress nicely.

I love the hairstyle with the fringe or

the bangs, and they just look like the

perfect kind of women to me.

And I felt that way and thought that way

for probably my entire adult life, all the

way up until maybe you could say a couple

years ago, until I finally realized, yeah,

I don't really care about Japanese women

anymore, or Asian women in general.

And I've actually had the best S-E-X with

European girls.

And when I was about 18 years old, all I

would obsess over was dating this cute

Japanese girl, kind of like, you know,

from AKB48 or Morning Musume or whatever

girl pop group was popular at the time.

I'd always fantasize about dating a

Japanese girl who looked like that.

So I would spend almost all my free time

going on to dating websites and language

exchange websites and trying to chat to as

many Japanese women as I possibly could.

I remember at one time I had like 5

different messaging apps or windows open,

and I was chatting to 5 or 6 women at the

same time.

And then I'd also have phone calls with

different Japanese women, and I just had

like a whole group of Japanese women that

I would constantly be talking to and

trying to find one that I could date or

who would let me date them, because that

was my dream in life, was to move to

Japan, meet some Japanese girl, and get

married to her, and then we'll have this

perfect ever life, and I'd become Japanese

and just ditch my entire UK identity

somehow.

So I would spend all day every day

chatting to all these Japanese women, and

that was what really motivated me to want

to be good at Japanese.

Actually, it was pretty much the only

reason why I wanted to learn Japanese.

Also, I wanted to be able to brag about

speaking— being able to speak Japanese,

because I thought it was really cool at

the time.

So yeah, my Japanese got really good

pretty quickly, and I was using it on a

daily basis to talk to all these women.

And over the next 10 or 15 years, I would

dedicate my whole life to chasing Japanese

women, trying to date them, and eventually

trying to marry one of them, which I

eventually did and achieved that goal back

in 2018.

But ever since I got married and got

divorced, I kind of feel like

I've lost interest in Japanese women.

I feel like I've achieved that goal.

And yeah, it was okay in the beginning, it

was pretty good, but I got bored of it

like with everything else.

And ever since then, I just haven't really

been as passionate about pursuing Japanese

women.

I did give it one last shot last year.

I chased this Japanese woman called

Mizuki, and I thought she sounded really

cute, and I thought she looked okay in the

photo until I met her, and she basically

looked like a short fat man with no hair.

And it was from that point I realized I'm

never really going to get an AKB48 kind of

looking Japanese girl.

All I'm ever going to get is like a

40-year-old, not very good looking

Japanese woman.

And that's the best I can hope for really.

And after realizing that fact, it made me

lose interest in the pursuit of Japanese

women.

And I think there's a few contributing

factors in why I came to this conclusion.

Number one, communicating with Japanese

women is a bit of a chore.

So yeah, I do speak Japanese.

It's not extremely high level, so I can

have daily conversations, but I can never

really get into deep topics or talk about

anything technical like investing or

finance or politics.

I can never really have a conversation

like that easily with a Japanese woman.

So the conversations are always very

shallow and surface level, and I can never

really get into like a deep, interesting

conversation with Japanese women.

So the communication was also a problem.

And also it's hard to make jokes and like

joke around in a second language if you

aren't extremely good at it.

I never really got the hang of joking

about in Japanese like I can do in

English.

So yeah, it's kind of boring having a

relationship that doesn't really have any

joking or any deep conversations.

So that was one of the reasons.

Also, the second reason was because of the

YouTube channel.

It kind of gave me an exposure to Western

women, which I never really had before.

I never really dated Western women before

or had any European girls interested in

me.

And then when I had a taste of it, I felt

like, yeah, this is just so much better

than Japanese women.

I think one of the reasons is the smell.

So as you know, European people have the

body odor gene that gives them some kind

of musk smell.

And I realized I really do like the smell.

And Asian women, Japanese women in

particular, just don't have any kind of

body odor.

I've never had a Japanese woman girlfriend

where she had any kind of smell.

Like, you go jogging and exercising and

then sniff her armpits and there'll be no

smell at all.

It's just weird.

And some people say, oh, that's hygienic,

that's nice.

Who wants to smell disgusting?

Yeah, okay, maybe you don't want to smell

bad, But actually, when you're doing it,

the smell really turns me on.

So when you're making love, it's not just

a physical feeling down there.

I think there's lots of different

sensories that can make it more enjoyable.

So you've got sounds, you got tastes,

you've got smells.

I think smells is probably my second

favorite part after, you know, obviously

the physical feeling of it.

I think the next best feeling is also

being able to smell your partner.

And if they have no smell, I feel kind of

sorry for all the millions of Japanese men

out there who have have only ever dated a

Japanese girl or they married a Japanese

woman.

So all they ever going to know is making

love with a Japanese woman and they'll

never know the experience of making love

and also being able to smell the musk and

smell the odor of your woman whilst you're

nutting.

And that's kind of sad.

And it's kind of weird because for my

whole life I really thought that I just

wasn't attracted to Western women or white

women, and I thought I would only ever

date and fall in love with Japanese women

or Asian women.

And it's kind of strange because actually

the reverse has happened because I have

had probably the most boring serial with

Japanese women and I've had the best

serial I've ever had with Western or white

women, as you want to call it.

And it was just very unexpected.

And after I experienced the best serial I

ever had with white women, I just don't

really know why I would put in effort and

try and pursue a Japanese woman ever

again.

And that brings me to another sad

conclusion.

Because I'm no longer interested in

Japanese women anymore, I'm also not

really interested in going to Japan

anymore.

Because let's be honest, the only reason I

was interested in going to Japan and

living there was because I wanted a

Japanese girlfriend.

Because I thought they would be the

perfect woman for me.

But after realizing that they're not and

they're kind of boring to date and they

don't really excite me anymore, I don't

really want to go to Japan.

And I've lost all interest in living in

Japan.

I've lost all interest in learning

Japanese.

And that part of my life I feel like is

over and it's now time to move on to

something new and just leave that behind

in my past.

Close the book on that chapter of my life.

It was fun.

It lasted for like 10 to 12 years, maybe

13 if you stretch it.

But yeah, it's time to move on.

Life is long.

You can't really be hung up on the same

thing for your whole life.

Things get boring and then you change as a

person and then you get interested in

other things and then you can move on to

those new things.

And I think that's perfectly okay.