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My advice to Women

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  1. When I was dating on Tinder, I encountered quite a few, several strange women who did irritating and annoying things during the date, and I wanted to make this video to tell you about them and to warn women to not do them if you're on dates. Okay, so number 1, when a guy asks you if you want to

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  2. go to a hotel, it means that he wants to sleep with you. And if you don't want to sleep with him on the first date or you're not interested in him, then don't agree to going to the hotel with him. I thought this was pretty obvious, but I had one date where we went for a date, you

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  3. know, fairly typical dates, went for a meal, walked around, chatted, and I thought things were going pretty well, so I asked her the question, would you like to go to a hotel? And luckily she said yes, so we went to the hotel And I made her some tea, some coffee, I can't remember which. We sat down, had

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  4. a little chat, and I began to touch her after we finished drinking. I took her hand, I led her over to the bed, and I started to do my moves. You know, I tried kissing her, I tried touching her, and guess what she did? She asked me to stop. She said she wasn't feeling comfortable. She kept crunching,

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  5. curling up into a ball so I couldn't you know, do my moves on her. And after a few minutes of trying to get her to warm up, I gave up and I stopped doing anything because she kept saying, I'm not ready, I feel embarrassed, this is too fast, blah blah blah. She said to me, I don't want

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  6. to do anything on the first date because I want to know that you're serious about me. So we ended up just lying on the bed cuddling chatting for a few hours until we left, and I was so irritated. I kept thinking to myself, if you didn't want to do anything, then why did you agree to coming to

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  7. the hotel? If you didn't want to sleep with me on the first date, then you should have said no when I asked you to come to the hotel. I wanted to leave, to be honest. I just wanted to go. I didn't want to lie there cuddling, wasting time like that. The most I got to do was kiss.

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  8. The most we did was kissing And she didn't even let me touch her boobs. This whole concept that some women have of making the guy wait and not sleeping with him on the first date is just so silly. They think that somehow by, by not sleeping with him on the first date, it's testing how serious he is

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  9. about her, when actually the only thing it's testing is how patient he is. If the guy really wants to sleep with a girl, he'll just pretend and He'll just pretend that he's serious about the girl, and then he'll just wait until the second or the third date until he can sleep with you. So going back to this

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  10. Japanese woman that I had in this hotel room who didn't want to sleep with me, she said to me— she asked me, are you serious about me? Because I don't want to just mess around and fool around. I want a proper relationship. And guess what I said? There's not really much I could have said apart from yes.

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  11. I'm serious about you. I also would like a serious relationship. What else could I have said? I couldn't say to her right then and there, no, I just want to sleep with you once and then never see you again. I can't say that to a woman face-to-face, straight directly to her. That's really rude and doesn't sound very

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  12. nice, and it would hurt her feelings. So as you can imagine, she was very happy with my answer, and we left the hotel. She said that she would message me again. She said she'd like to see me again, and I said I'd like to see her again. But guess what I did? As soon as she was gone,

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  13. I quickly blocked her on my messaging app, and I never spoke to her again because I was so angry and irritated that she came to the hotel with me and she didn't want to do anything when I was— when I was expecting that we would do something in the hotel room. Yes, in hindsight, if I had a

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  14. little bit of patience, I could have continued messaging her set up a second or third date, and then eventually we could have slept together, and then I could have blocked her. But, you know, I don't have the patience for that. I don't have the time for that. I don't want to mess around dating women for several times

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  15. before I get the goods. I want the goods straight away, otherwise it's a lost cause. So my advice to women on this particular topic is Don't go into a hotel room with a guy if you're not interested in— not interested in doing anything. And don't think that by making the guy wait until a second or third date,

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  16. don't think that's testing how serious he is about you. It's just testing his patience. And in my case, I wasn't patient enough and I didn't get what I wanted. Okay, let's move on to the next Tinder date I had with this other Japanese girl. When you're on a Tinder date with a guy, don't ask that guy if

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  17. you can bring your guy friend, your other guy friend, to the date. I'm not joking, this actually happened to me when I was on a Tinder date with this Japanese girl. She asked me during the date, she asked me, would you mind if one of my guy friends comes and joins us? She said, I told, I told

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  18. my guy friend about you, Daniel, and he really wants to meet you. Would you mind if he came and joined us? I can't believe she actually asked me. And I just said flat out, plainly, no, I would prefer it if he didn't join us. I was just so shocked. I was so shocked she asked me that, and

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  19. I wanted to explain to her why what she just asked me was really stupid. But I'm a nice guy in person. I don't like to upset people when I'm with them, and she was a nice girl. I just don't understand why she thought it was okay to bring another guy to a Tinder date. And I felt kind

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  20. of hurt because it made me realize that she didn't think of it as a date. She thought of it as just a friend meeting up with a friend, whereas I was thinking of it as a romantic date where we would get to know each other and then hopefully sleep together. I think there seems to be a little

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  21. bit of a misunderstanding when it comes to Tinder. A lot of Japanese girls don't understand what the purpose of Tinder is. They think it's an app where you can make friends. Yeah, I know on the app description on the App Store it says, a great app so you can make friends, relationships, and maybe more. But come on,

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  22. everyone in the West, in America, in Europe, we all know what Tinder is. It's for hooking up and potentially getting a girlfriend or boyfriend. It's not, it's not for making friends. You don't go onto Tinder to look for friends. And then later on in the date, she started telling me about this other guy she met on Tinder

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  23. and that she's going to meet him later this week. And I thought to myself, why are you telling me this? Why are you telling me that you're meeting up with other guys during our date? Wouldn't it be weird if I just started talking about other girls that I met on Tinder that I'm going to meet later on

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  24. this week whilst I'm on a date with you? When I'm on a date with a girl, I don't want her to bring other guys to the date, and I definitely don't want to hear about other guys that she's about to meet the next day or the next week. Just keep it secret. I don't need to know that

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  25. stuff. Quickly going back to Japanese girls not understanding what Tinder is for, sometimes when you're swiping, you come across a lot of girls who write this in their profile: Not looking for a boyfriend, not looking for hookups, I'm married. And it makes you think to yourself, why the hell are you on Tinder if you're not looking for

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  26. any of those things and you're married? If you're married, you shouldn't be on Tinder at all in the first place. Okay, my next piece of advice is don't let the guy pay for everything if you're not interested in him. Show some common human decency and at least offer to pay for the meals. I went on this date

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  27. with this Japanese girl a few years ago. It was actually last year, and I paid for everything. I paid for the lunch, I paid for the dinner, I paid for the little boat trip we went on to, and all I got out of it at the end was a little hug and a thank you. After shelling out

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  28. at least over $200, all I got was a hug. And then I messaged her later that day And I said, I had a really nice day today. I really like you, and I'd like to be in a relationship with you. What do you think? And guess what she said? She said, sorry, I'm not looking for a boyfriend

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  29. right now. If you're not looking for a boyfriend, then why are you on a dating website? Why did you agree to going on a date with me? And why did you let me pay for everything? If we were just meeting up as friends, then you should have paid for your own half of the bill. I think that's

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  30. all I had to say. So if you're a woman, please, please don't do any of the things that I've mentioned in this video when you're on a date with a guy. So good luck out there, stay safe, and always use protection.

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  31. I got my Amazon, I got my Amazon, I got my Amazon. It's the same man who always comes and he looks kind of fat and I always say thank you to him. A USB cable, charges using USB, no batteries, very convenient. Give it to me, give it

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  32. Uh, sorry. See, Technologic,

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  33. it's not working.

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  34. Oh, oh,

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  35. can you see?

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  36. Oh wow, look, it's over there! Can you see it? Look,

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  37. it goes all the way to the door.

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  38. I'm so happy with this. I'm gonna go outside and blind things. What if I shoot it at the mirror? Does it reflect?

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  39. Wow, it reflects off the mirror.

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  40. Look,

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  41. I'm shooting at the mirror and it's over there. Can you see it? It's behind me. It's there, but I'm pointing it in front of me.

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  42. This is so cool. Why have I never bought a laser pen before?

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  43. Should I point it into the camera?

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  44. Oh, oh, I'm gonna break my laptop camera.

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  45. This is so fun.

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  46. Oh, it burns! I don't know, actually, it might just be my imagination. Does it burn?

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  47. Oh, I think it burns.

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  48. No, it doesn't.

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