All Japan's WEIRDEST things about Dating

Hello, welcome back to a new video. So

I've done quite a lot of dating in Japan,

dating all the way back to around 2010 was

when I first started dating in Japan, and

I first started to use Tinder in Japan in

2017. And I used to have like 4 or 5 dates

almost every week with different women,

and I even had several Japanese

girlfriends at the same time. So I've got

quite a lot of experience in this topic.

So number one annoying thing I would have

to say is when you're on Tinder and you're

swiping through profiles, a lot of

Japanese girls and women don't show their

faces on the profile. They'll put like a

picture of their face, but they'll try and

hide their face like this, or they'll do

the peace sign in front of their face so

you can't really see what they look like.

They'll be like this, or they won't even

put a picture of themselves at all.

They'll just put like a, a little picture

of a cupcake or some ice cream or

something cute like a kitten, and then you

just have no idea what they look like.

But it's kind of silly if you swipe left

on these girls because they might be quite

good-looking. You just have to spend some

time chatting to them and And then if they

feel like they like you, they might send

you a picture of them. And it's just kind

of annoying because you have to spend all

this time building up some kind of rapport

with them. And then if they send you a

picture of themselves and you don't really

like how they look like, then you've just

kind of wasted all your time trying to get

a picture out of them. If they just showed

you what they look like from the

beginning, then you might not have wasted

your time trying to chat to them. I just

don't know why they're so scared of

showing their face. I think they're kind

of embarrassed that their friends or

family might see that they're on Tinder or

on the dating website. And they feel kind

of embarrassed 'cause it's like, oh look,

I'm on this dating website 'cause I'm so

sad and lonely and I can't find a

boyfriend. So they wanna hide their

identity, but it's kind of unfair to us

guys because obviously we wanna know what

they look like. We're not just trying to

date them for their personality. After

dating many Japanese women, I've kind of

noticed that they make big life decisions

very quickly. They're able to make

decisions such as inviting you to come and

live with them or getting married after

just going on a few dates. I even met this

one Japanese woman After only dating her

for about a month or two, she wanted to

marry me, and then she was surprised and

like shocked Pikachu face when the

marriage didn't work out. And that wasn't

just one time. I've had several multiple

Japanese women try to marry me after just

dating for a few months. It happened back

in 2014 as well. I even prepared my

marriage documents and birth certificate

to go to the embassy to get married, but

we had a massive argument and the

relationship didn't really last, so I

managed to dodge that bullet. I've had

other women in Japan just let me move in

with them after only going on a few dates,

and we just lived together for a few

months. It is kind of crazy how they can

just make these massive decisions so

quickly, whereas in the West or in the UK

or America, people date for years before

they make the big decision to move in

together. I remember watching the sitcom

Friends as a kid, and if any of the main

characters decided to move in together,

that would be like a massive event that

took years of dating and building this

strong relationship to get to before they

could make the decision to move in

together. They also seem to cry over very

little things. I accidentally made this

Japanese girl cry on a date. I went on

this date with this Japanese girl back in

2010. I met her online and we went to a

restaurant and we had food, and there's

quite a lot of food. And as you can see,

I'm not a very big guy, I'm pretty skinny

and I don't have a massive appetite, and I

couldn't finish my meal. There was so much

food, I was just stuffed. So I just said,

I'm done, I can't finish this. And The

girl got really upset and started crying

because, because she easily finished her

own food and her whole plate was clean.

And I think she actually had more food

than I had. And she said she felt like she

was fat and she was a pig because she ate

so much compared to how much I ate. And

she said if I was nicer, then I would have

forced myself to finish my meal so that I

wouldn't hurt her feelings. That's like

the dumbest thing I've ever heard. It's

not my fault you eat like a pig. Also,

during the date, because you're the man,

they kind of expect you to be doing

certain things as the man. For example,

if you're walking by the road on a street

by the roadside, you're expected to be the

one walking closest to the traffic because

it's like you're protecting the girl from

oncoming traffic. As if, if a car was

planning to smash into you two, as if you

would be able to stop the car just by

standing in front of it. It's not like

you're Superman. But the most annoying

thing about dating in Japan has to be when

you take them to a love hotel. And if you

don't know what a love hotel is,

basically it's just like a hotel that you

spend a couple hours in to do you know

what in, and then you leave. So I've been

to quite a lot of love hotels, and usually

it's great. But I've had a few dates where

I asked them— I managed to pluck up the

courage to ask them if they want to go to

a love hotel, which is, by the way,

incredibly awkward to be walking and

chatting on like a friendly basis, and

then you suddenly say, uh, so Do

you want to go to a love hotel? And

usually their reaction is like, what?

Stop it. No. But then they kind of say,

well, actually, yeah, I guess we could.

And then you end up going and then, you

know, you know what happens. But there has

been a few times when I took them to a

love hotel. We got there, got inside the

room, had it all paid and everything, and

then they just changed their mind. I don't

know why. Maybe their mood just changed or

they got scared, or maybe the atmosphere

or the setting of the love hotel room made

them scared and then they didn't want to

do it anymore. So then we get to the hotel

room and we're in there and I'm ready to

go, and then all of a sudden she doesn't

feel like doing it anymore and she leaves

and we never see each other again. It was

just like the most blue ball inducing

event I've ever experienced. It was so

frustrating. Another really annoying thing

is when you're trying to date Japanese

women is when they try and bring someone

else to the date. So there's like a social

thing in Japan called gorkon which

basically translates to group dating. And

a lot of dating happens like this within

Japanese friendship circles. They'll just

go on like this massive group date where

there's 4 guys, 4 girls, maybe some of

them know each other 'cause they're

friends and they bring their friends and

they introduce their friends to their

friends' friends. And it's like a big

party where like the guys and the girls

sit opposite each other and they get to

know each other and it's like a big mass

date. And for some reason, a lot of

Japanese women think this is okay on a

Tinder date as well. So I was on this

Tinder date and it wasn't really going

amazingly. It was kind of boring. And then

the girl just suddenly asked me, could my

friend come and join us? And I asked her,

is your friend a girl? And she said, no,

it's a guy. And I just flat out said no.

I wasn't even trying to be nice or polite

about it. I was just very blunt about it.

I just said no. I mean, why would you want

Why would you think that I would want you

to bring a guy to our date? I'm trying to

woo you and get you to come to a love

hotel. How am I supposed to do that if

some random Japanese guy comes and tags

along on our date? How awkward is it gonna

be when it's supposed to be like this

romantic, intimate experience between me

and you, and you've got like your friend

tagging along joining us? How am I

supposed to make my moves? When your

friend's there cheesing my balls. Maybe

she was thinking, okay, this date is not

going very well. I don't really like this

guy. It's kind of awkward. Maybe if I

bring my guy friend with us, then it would

be a bit more fun. But if that's how you

feel, then I think you should just leave.

Like, end the date now. Why drag it on any

longer than you need to? I don't think

bringing a guy would really make the date

any better. One of the weirdest dates I

went on was it was this Japanese woman I

met online and I went to meet her and we

went for dinner. And then she asked me if

she could bring her husband. Obviously,

at the time, I didn't realise she had a

husband because she just told me last

minute. So I said, okay, I guess. So I met

her and her husband. We went to yakiniku

for dinner, and I thought, this is kind of

boring. What's the point? Because she's

got a husband, so there's going to be no

chance between me and her. But after the

date finished, the next day she messaged

me and said she wanted to meet me again,

but this time without the husband. And we

met up again. I thought, this is kind of

weird, but I thought, I would see where it

leads to, and we end up going to a love

hotel and doing you know what, even though

just a day before I was having dinner with

her and her husband. So Japanese people

are pretty strange.