Why Japanese Women want to Date Western Men [zo7Y9ygAtXw]

Hello and welcome back to a new video. So

today I wanted to talk about why some

Japanese women only want to date

foreigners. And when I use the word

foreigners, I mostly mean white Europeans

or Americans, because let's face it, most

Japanese women, when they're thinking of a

foreigner to date, they're not really

thinking of dating a Mexican or Hindu man,

are they? So you may have heard of the

term gaijin hunter, and it basically

means— well, gaijin is a Japanese word for

foreigners, and hunter means someone who's

looking for a certain thing, therefore

they are hunting. A gaijin, and it's used

for Japanese women who only date

foreigners for some unknown reason. And

recently I've been wondering, why are

there so many Japanese women who are dead

set on the idea of dating a foreigner? So

I've been doing some pondering and I

thought I would bring to you my

conclusions on this question. So as you

may know, cheating is very common in

Japan. It happens all the time. Japanese

men cheat a lot and Japanese women cheat a

lot as well, in my experience. Maybe you

think it's just a stereotype and it's

over-exaggerated, but As someone who was

married to a Japanese woman, I heard loads

of stories from her about her friends who

were cheating, and she had a lot of male

friends and female friends who were

married that were cheating. At one point I

thought to myself, do you actually have

any friends who don't cheat and are happy

together? If you think about it, Japan is

the only country that has all these love

hotels all over the place, and when people

first come to Japan, they see these love

hotels, they think it's kind of weird,

kind of unusual. Why would you want to

stay in a hotel just for a couple of

hours? And why are these hotels so weird

looking? Well, it's basically there for

one main purpose. It's to facilitate all

of the cheating. Love hotels are basically

just a physical manifestation of how much

cheating happens in Japanese society. An

entire industry sprung up to profit off of

all of the prolific cheating. It kind of

gives you a sense of how messed up this

country is. And if you've ever been to a

love hotel, you'll know how anonymous the

experience is. When you go to check into a

love hotel, there's no interaction with

any staff. You use the touchscreen on the

wall to choose your room and usually pay

inside of the room with a machine, and

then you just check out without seeing

anyone who works there. If you drive there

and use the car park, they'll usually hide

your license plate so no one can identify

you, because most people who go to a love

hotel don't want to be identified and want

to remain anonymous. So I think it's safe

to say that the people who go to love

hotels don't want to get found out because

they're doing something that they

shouldn't be. So my theory is there's

probably a lot of Japanese women who have

been cheated on by Japanese men, and

they've had some kind of terrible

experience that was quite traumatic.

Maybe they got their heart broken, and

they think, oh, all Japanese men are

cheats, and they cheat a lot, and I don't

want to date Japanese men ever again. So

they turn their eyes towards foreign men

because there's this stereotype that

foreign men are very romantic and

passionate and gentle. I think there's

quite a lot of stereotypes when it comes

to romantic European men, such as the

British gentleman who's all classy and

charming, and then there's the Italian

Hispanics who have like open-collar shirt

with a bit of chest hair and red wine,

and they're so fiery and loving and

passionate and romantic. These are the

kind of stereotypes that Japanese women

are fed by the media, and they really buy

into it. It's just really bizarre,

especially when it comes to the British

stereotype of the gentleman. They really

think it's all like Mr. Darcy and Prince

William, and everyone drinks tea and eats

crumpets and plays golf on Sunday. Or the

romantic Spanish man who lives on a

vineyard and sips red wine and champagne

as he enjoys the sunsets in his Spanish

villa. They probably think, oh, these

European men, they're so romantic and

loving and loyal. They would never cheat,

not like my ex-Japanese boyfriend or

ex-husband. Unfortunately, the types of

European men or Western men who end up

coming to Japan are not really the ones

that fit in with this stereotype. The

types of Western men who come to Japan and

find themselves staying there for long

periods of time are usually the failures

and outcasts of society back home in their

own country, and they're usually kind of

weird. And I think it's fairly likely that

these men don't get a lot of attention

from women in their own country, so they

look to move to another country to find

happiness there instead. The problem is,

when they arrive in Japan, they quickly

realize that they have this huge advantage

of just being white or a Westerner or a

foreigner in Japan. They might go from

being completely ignored by women in their

own country to now getting loads of

attention from Japanese women, and this

just completely inflates their ego.

Suddenly they get overconfident, they feel

like they can get any woman they want,

and they think to themselves, why would I

settle down with one Japanese woman when

I've got like 20 who are interested in me

at all times? And I've seen it so many

times, it's just so tragic. You've got

some lonely Japanese woman in her mid-30s,

she goes to some foreign exchange parties

or meetups, and she meets a guy that she

finds very attractive, very cute, and he's

kind of awkward and kind of quiet, but

he's charming in his own way, and she

tries to lock him down by giving him the

poos. Unfortunately for her, it's more

than likely that the foreigner guy has

already had a lot of poose, and he knows

how to get it fairly easily. At this

point, he's just adding notches to his

belt. I think it's safe to say that the

majority of foreign men in Japan are most

likely to be degenerates, because if they

were moral, upstanding, successful men,

they would be in their own country

absolutely slaying and succeeding with

their own local females. So what happens

usually is the foreigner guy, he accepts

the poose and he enjoys it, and he wants

it casually and occasionally. He's not

going to turn down a free meal. He's not

going to say no to it. But the problem is

the Japanese woman, she wants a loyal,

devoted boyfriend. She wants a serious

relationship. She might be enjoying the

excitement for now, but really she wants

something that's gonna last long-term.

She doesn't wanna be his bit on the side.

But when you look at things from the point

of view of the foreigner guy, the Western

man, what are you gonna do? You're young,

you're in your 20s or maybe your early

30s. You're very attractive, you're full

of energy, you're in the prime of your

life. You've got loads of female

attention. You're having different Tinder

dates every single day or 5 times a week.

You don't really feel desperate be locked

down by one woman. And at this point, you

don't even know if you want to live in

Japan for the rest of your life. This

might just be a couple of fun years that

you're going to experience in life, and

then you go back to your home country so

you have some stories to tell when you're

older. And then unfortunately for the

Japanese woman, she'll be heartbroken

again because it won't work out, and her

delusions of European men being so

romantic and caring and passionate will be

shattered. It's just so utterly tragic.

I've heard this kind of situation so many

times before, and every time I hear it,

it still breaks my heart. So there's

another stereotype that Japanese men have

apart from being massive cheaters and not

being very good at hiding it, and it's

kind of true in many cases that Japanese

men are not very romantic. They're very

emotionally cold. They might be very

hardworking and they might be very

diligent and polite and reserved, but

they're not exactly the kind of people who

are going to get down on one knee and sing

a serenade and put rose petals all over

the bed and tell their girls how much they

love them. Oh, I love you, baby. Japanese

men can be very shy, very reserved, and

that results in them being not very

passionate lovers. They wake up in the

morning, they have their breakfast, they

go to work, they work hard, they come back

home late at night, and they're very

tired. They just want to have some dinner

and then go to bed. And it's extremely

common for married Japanese women to

complain about how they don't feel loved,

how they feel incredibly lonely even

though they've got a husband, and that

leads them to either cheat or look towards

foreigner men. And I actually had an

experience with a married Japanese woman

all the way back in 2012, and we kind of

had a thing for for a few months where we

would hook up and get together and stay

overnight in a love hotel almost every

single day. And her husband knew that we

were staying together overnight and he

didn't even care. I just thought it was so

weird that she told him in the first

place. She showed me the message she sent

him and it was like, hey, I'm just gonna

be hanging out with Daniel all night, so

I'll see you tomorrow. And then his reply

was just, okay, see you then, have a nice

time. I can't believe that was his

response. If that was my wife sending me a

message like that saying she's gonna hang

out with a guy all night long, I would

just rage if I even found out my wife had

dinner with another guy, just the two of

them. I would not be okay with that. Some

doors will get seriously smashed in. But

somehow this guy she was married to was

completely okay with us hanging out all

night. Maybe he just didn't really think

we were going to be doing anything. So I

think a lot of Japanese women are very

unhappy with how cold and reserved and

unloving some Japanese men can be, and

they want to be told that they're loved

and they want to be given a rose and they

want to be taken out on a romantic date.

And they think that's what European men

love to do all the time. And I guess you

could say it's partly true, especially

when I think of French men or maybe

Italian men. I can imagine them being

pretty romantic when it comes to dating

and how they express their love. But the

sad truth is, in most cases, when Japanese

women try to have a European boyfriend,

it usually ends in tears. They'll find out

that Western men cheat probably just as

much as Japanese men do, and then they'll

be faced with all of the other problems

that comes with dating a foreigner, such

as language barrier problems and

differences in culture. Surveys show that

8 out of 10 times when a Japanese woman

tries dating a European and ends up in

failure, they usually go back to dating

Japanese men again. And thus, a lesson is

learned the hard way.