[2022-01-15] Dating in Japan - The worst date I ever had [LFLjymqrVpI]

Hello, welcome back to a new video. Today

I want to talk about how I got catfished

by this old Japanese woman about 5 years

ago. So at the time I was dating this

single mother Japanese woman and I was

planning to go and see her again, but then

I started to use this app called

HelloTalk. I thought it'd be a good idea

to brush up on my Japanese language skills

before I go back to Japan. HelloTalk is a

really useful application for learning

languages. You can practice any language

you're learning with hundreds of native

speakers all across the world. I started

to use HelloTalk as kind of like a

personal diary, and I would complain about

my job at the petrol station in Japanese.

So I thought this would be a good idea to

practice Japanese. I was having a really

good time writing these journals. It

really helped me process my thoughts, my

feelings, and it was a big stress

reliever. And then this Japanese woman

called Tomoko started to leave a lot of

comments and replies on my journal

entries. She was really caring and

supportive, and we started talking

privately. She sent some pictures of

herself, and she told me that she was 27,

and I thought she was really cute. So I

decided to put my moves on her, and I used

my best Japanese pickup lines. And as you

can imagine, things got pretty heated

between us, and our conversations

escalated quite rapidly. Unfortunately,

HelloTalk doesn't really like it when

people get flirty with each other, and we

both got several warnings. We weren't

going to let HelloTalk decide for us what

we can and cannot do with our own

genitals, so we took our messages to a

different messaging app. She was really

into me, and I was really into her, and

things got very spicy very quickly. She

said she wanted to meet me and make babies

with me. With me. I didn't know if she was

serious, and I thought to myself, there's

only one way to find out. Unfortunately,

I had already promised the single mother

girlfriend that I would come back to Japan

to see her again. That's when I had to

decide, do I want to see the single mother

girlfriend again, or do I want to go and

see this new girl called Tomoko? I didn't

feel very attracted to the single mother

girlfriend, so it wasn't really a

difficult decision to make. I decided to

ghost the single mother girlfriend, and I

started chatting to Tomoko every night. I

even started to bring Tomoko onto my

livestreams on YouTube. I told her about

my channel and she was really interested

in the idea of making videos and being a

content creator. And the viewers really

loved it. They loved being able to

interact with one of my potential future

girlfriends, and they were really excited

and looking forward to us finally meeting

up and doing stuff together. At the time,

my YouTube channel was starting to grow

and I could feel like I could actually

make something out of this YouTube channel

and I could actually make decent money out

of it. So I decided to quit my job at the

petrol station when I hit 5,000

subscribers on YouTube. I packed my bags

and I booked my ticket and I went to Japan

the very next week. I had these plans to

meet up with Tomoko, but because I've had

experience in the past of meeting girls

online and things not really working out,

I thought I'd make some backup plans,

some plan Bs, some other girls that I

would meet on Tinder. Before I eventually

met Tomoko. And it was my first time ever

using Tinder in Japan, and I wasn't really

expecting to get such amazing results and

to be able to get so many dates so easily.

As someone who wasn't really used to

getting so much female attention, I just

couldn't believe that Japanese women loved

me so much. I ended up getting so many

dates. I think I had about 4 or 5 dates

every single week, and I was meeting all

these different girls, and a lot of the

girls I met up with I ended up doing you

know what with them, and there was a very

high success rate with my dates. And I

stupidly made videos talking about these

dates and these women that I had success

with, and my viewers were very unhappy

with this because they kind of thought

that me and Tomoko were a couple because I

called her my girlfriend in streams, and

they took me 100% seriously. They thought

she was actually my girlfriend. They

thought I was cheating on her by going on

these Tinder dates. Before even meeting

her. And I thought it was a little bit

ridiculous how people expected me to be

loyal to this woman that I never even met

before. And I thought it was perfectly

reasonable to be going on these other

dates before meeting her, you know, just

to test out the waters and to kind of see

what else is available before I plunge

fully and deeply into Tomoko. So after

having some fun on Tinder and going on a

bunch of dates, I didn't really find

anyone that I really, really liked. That I

would ditch Tomoko for, so I ended up

meeting Tomoko anyway. The day came that I

finally had to meet Tomoko, and we met up

in Kobe Station, train station. And when I

met her for the first time in real life,

I was just completely and utterly shocked.

Now remember, she told me she was 27 years

old, so I was kind of expecting a

youthful, young-looking Japanese girl.

But when I saw her standing in front of

me, I thought something was kind of

strange. I couldn't quite put my finger on

it. She just looked kind of fragile and

kind of old looking, and I wasn't quite

sure. It still hadn't clicked to me at the

time that maybe she might have lied about

her age. I just thought maybe she has some

kind of physical disability or handicap

that makes her look older than she

actually is. It was just really awkward

because up until that point we had been

really flirty and really loving to each

other, and I said all these things like we

could hug and hold hands and be romantic.

So I felt like I had to stick by what I

said, and I took her hand and we walked

around for a bit holding hands, and it was

just so uncomfortable. And my whole mind

was just thinking the whole time, how can

I get out of this situation? At one point

when I went to the toilet, I seriously

thought about ditching her when she was in

the toilet. I was waiting for her outside

and I thought maybe I could just slip away

and, and it probably won't even be that

much of a big deal and I can just get

away. Unfortunately, I didn't have the

guts to do that. And the date grinded

painfully on. We just walked around for

hours and hours until eventually I started

to get a little bit bored. And the thing

with me is, when I start to get a bit

bored, my man drive awakes. And I was

thinking, well, if this date is just gonna

drag on and on, I might as well just ask

her if she wants to go to a hotel. Then at

least we could have some fun, because

after all, I did come all this way to

Japan to meet specifically her, and it

would be a bit of a waste if I came all

this way and just went home empty-handed.

So I finally plucked up the courage and I

decided to tell her what I was actually

thinking and feeling. I told her that I

didn't really have any interest in dating

her, but we could go to a hotel if you

wanted to. Honestly, I didn't really think

she would say yes. I thought she would say

no thanks and then we'd just say goodbye.

But surprisingly, she said okay. So I

pulled out my phone, looked up on Google

Maps where the nearest hotel was and

booked us a night. So we went to the

hotel, checked into the room, and that's

when things got a little bit spicy.

Things went from being unbelievably boring

to very hot and passionate. Even though I

didn't really find her physically

attractive and she was definitely way

older than she told me, I still kind of

felt up for it and I was in the mood. So

we had about 4 servings of cereal within a

few hours, and I'm not gonna lie, it was

quite good. It just felt kind of wrong,

and this made it feel exciting and fun.

So after a few hours in the hotel, we

decided to get dressed and leave. We

didn't stay the night. I didn't really

want to stay the whole night with her. I

kind of just wanted to go back to the

guest house and process my feelings

because I had hyped myself up so much to

meet her, and I really seriously thought

that she could be my new girlfriend, but

she just looked really old. She didn't

look anything like her photos, and I

didn't have the guts to ask her what her

actual age was. I didn't have the guts to

question her about it. And I went back to

the guesthouse I was staying at, and I

made a video for YouTube talking about how

disappointed I felt and about how she

looked. And as you can imagine, she wasn't

very happy with this video, and she

finally decided to confessed to me. She

said she lied about her age. She told me

she was actually about 40, 41, or 42, I

don't remember now. And she said she was

worried that if she told me her real age,

I might not have come to meet her. And I

remember feeling just really depressed and

miserable because I had such high

expectations and I was looking forward to

this so much, and it was just a massive

disappointment and letdown. And then to

make matters worse, my audience started to

turn against me. Instead of taking my side

and sympathizing with me, who got lied to

and catfished, they started to defend

Tomoko just because I was being a bit rude

about how she looked. And I was pretty

upset about this because I flew all the

way to Japan just to meet her, and it

turned out she wasn't even who she said

she was. And instead of getting any

support from my viewers, they all kind of

started attacking me just because, just

because I was trying to explain how she

looked way older than she claimed to look.

Anyway, needless to say, we never met up

again, and there was a bit of drama that

happened between us, but I never saw her

again, and I went back to dating on Tinder

until I finally met this other Japanese

woman who I eventually married. And that

is the story of how I got catfished

Pushed by a Japanese woman who lied to me

about her age.