What worries Japanese Girls about Dating Western guys

Hello and welcome back to a new video.

Today I'll be talking about why Japanese

girls don't really want to date

foreigners. So if you're watching this

video, I'm assuming you are a guy who's a

foreigner and you're interested in dating

Japanese girls and going to Japan and

finding your love there. Well, I've got

some bad news for you because not all

Japanese girls are interested in dating

foreigners, and the ones that are

interested in dating foreigners are

probably the broken, mentally ill ones.

85% of the current Japanese women who are

dating foreign men are either dating the

foreign men because they have some kind of

obsession with foreign men, and maybe they

don't really like Asian men, they don't

like Japanese men. And this isn't a very

good sign. It's not a very good sign when

someone chooses their romantic partner

based on their ethnicity. If you think of

it this way, why would a normal,

attractive young Japanese girl be

interested in foreign men when they could

just find an attractive, successful

Japanese man who speaks the same language

as they do, who shares same values and has

same culture and was raised in the same

society so they have the same values?

That would just be so much easier than

just deciding that, oh, I want to date

only foreigners where We're probably going

to have language difficulties because he

probably won't be able to speak Japanese

fluently, and then he's going to be

different socially and culturally because

he grew up outside of Japan and probably

has different values. Dating is already

hard enough and difficult enough when

you're dating someone from your own

country who speaks the same language.

When you date someone who's from some kind

of alien country like Japan, it just makes

the entire process 100 times more

complicated than it already should be.

It's like, imagine you have to ride a

bicycle. Riding a bicycle can be a

challenge on its own if it's raining and

windy and icy outside. Now imagine you're

riding that bicycle whilst having to

juggle knives and oranges in the air

whilst also reading poetry. That's what

it's like when you're dating a Japanese

girl. Why would you want to do it? Well,

in most cases men such as myself who

didn't find much success in the dating

world back in his own country resorted

to going to other countries to find love.

Now, one of the reasons why I was more

successful in Japan in the dating scene

than I was back home in England was

because, well, although the language

barrier can be a hindrance, it can also be

a blessing. Now, people who speak native

English will probably be able to tell that

my social skills kind of suck. I sound a

bit of— a bit like a weirdo when I speak,

and I'm not the most intelligent sounding

human being. But to a Japanese lady

who doesn't speak English or doesn't speak

English very well, she's not going to be

able to pick up on these cues and these

little signs and red flags that this guy

might be a weirdo. She'll probably just

think, oh, he's a foreigner. They're all

like that. And you can also blame your

lack of social skills or your poor social

skills on just not being very good at

Japanese. It's very easy to just not talk

to people if you don't speak their

language and they don't speak yours. It

gives you a very good excuse not to join

in with conversations if you just pretend

that you don't understand a single word

that they're saying. You can just sit

there in silence. And then if people think

you're weird, then you can just say, oh,

I don't really understand what you're

saying, so I can't really participate in

this conversation. Another reason why

Japanese girls probably don't want to date

foreigners is because they don't really

know if there's a long-term future with

this foreigner. Most foreigners don't live

in Japan for very long. Usually they're

weebs and they love anime and they go to

Japan and they realize that the reality of

living in Japan is not as great as they

fantasized. And they probably just stay

for a few months, maybe a year at most,

maybe 2 years at most. But most

foreigners, 80% of foreigners, go to Japan

and then about a year later they decide

that they've had enough. They don't like

the Japanese work environment. They find

that life is just too difficult and they

end up going home. And Japanese girls know

about this and they don't want to get into

a relationship. If they're looking for a

long-term relationship, they don't want to

get into a relationship where the guy

could just pack his bags and fly back home

and then she's single again. It would feel

like she just wasted her whole time on

that guy and being in the relationship.

So why would she bother? Another reason

why Japanese girls might not want to be

dating foreigners is because unless the

foreigner speaks very good Japanese, the

guy is going to end up relying on the

Japanese girl to do important things for

him, like opening a bank account,

starting up a— creating a phone contract

and getting a mobile phone, going to the

dentist, going to the opticians, and doing

other things where you need to use some

complicated and technical Japanese

language that you don't really use in

daily life. And I experienced this when I

was married in Japan, even though I speak

fluent Japanese, I have to admit that my

knowledge of optical and dental phrasage

is not very good. I don't really know a

lot of the words in Japanese when it comes

to complicated topics, and I really

struggled doing basic things like getting

my own phone contract sorted out or going

to the dentist or having a bank account.

I had to rely on my ex-wife to do all

those things for me. And most women, when

they're in a relationship, they don't want

to feel like they're the guy's mother.

They don't want to feel like they have to

do everything and, and they're responsible

for everything and they have to get

everything sorted. Most women in

Asian societies want the man to

be taking care of stuff and looking after

her. If the man can't even communicate in

her language, then how is he going to look

after her in her country and get things

sorted? When he can't even

order his own McDonald's. Another reason

why Japanese girls might not date

foreigners is because they respect their

parents and they want to make their

parents happy, and they're very scared of

their parents. And unfortunately, a lot of

Japanese parents come from a generation

where they don't really like foreigners,

and they may be a bit scared of

Westerners, especially Black men. They

might be scared of Black men because

there's kind of this negative stereotype

of Black men in Japan where Black men are

thought of as a bit scary, a bit

intimidating. It would take a very

open-minded and brave Japanese family to

be okay with their daughter dating a Black

man or a white man. A lot of Japanese

parents want their daughters to marry

a Japanese man and have Japanese kids so

that it's just easier and they don't have

to get involved with a foreigner and their

weird ways, their weird customs, and their

weird languages. In conclusion, I just

don't think that it'd be a good idea to

date a Japanese lady who's mainly

interested in dating foreigners because I

think that's just a massive red flag. It

just Seems strange. Why does she want to

date foreigners so badly? Why can't she

get a Japanese guy? Is there something

wrong with her? Probably. So if you're

interested in dating a Japanese girl, I

wouldn't say don't do it. I would

encourage you to have a try, but maybe

just keep it at a pump and dump level and

not, not have too high expectations

and not think of it as a long-term

relationship. Just go to Japan, have some

fun, see what it's like, and then, I don't

know, make up your own mind. I'm not your