I had a huge argument with my wifė

So me and my wife are currently in silent

mode, which means we're not talking to

each other. It's been about 2 days and

we've barely spoken a word to each other,

and that's because on Saturday we had this

huge argument because of— because of the

same silly things as usual. So remember a

while back I made a video talking about a

girl, a Japanese woman, that I bamboozled

in karaoke? Well, my wife saw that video,

and at the time she thought it was a

made-up story, and I just went along with

it and I said, yeah, it was just a made-up

story. But it turns out she's been lurking

in my Discord server spying on me, and I

was talking about this karaoke woman in

Discord, and she found out

that it was a true story because it was a

true story. It's not like it— it's not

like it happened recently. It happened

before I met my wife, so it's not like I

was cheating on her. And the reason why

she was so upset was because she said I

lied, which is technically true, I guess.

I guess I did lie because I said it was a

made-up story instead of saying it was a

true story. It's just that at the time,

at the time, I thought it'd be simpler. I

thought it'd be easier if I just said,

yeah, it was a made-up story, instead of

telling her it was a true story. I thought

that would be a better option, a better,

a better thing to do, because if I told

her it was a true story, then she might

have gotten upset. I didn't think she

would find out. I didn't think she would

be on my Discord server. I guess the

argument wouldn't have been that bad if I

just apologized, but I didn't feel like

apologizing because I think it's kind of

silly to get upset over something that

happened before we met. It was just one

Japanese woman I had a one-night stand

with before I met my wife. I don't think

it's very important. She said she's mainly

upset because I'm— I was hiding things

from her. And yeah, I have kept a few

things hidden from her, like the number of

women that I slept with before I met her.

I just don't really feel like it's

necessary to tell her every single thing,

and it's not like she hasn't done the same

thing before. She lied— she didn't lie,

she just— she hid things from me, and then

I found out about them later. For example,

she told me that she never brought a guy

back here before, and then later on she

told me that actually she did bring back a

few. And then there's another thing she's

upset about. I looked at her phone again

because she left it unlocked, And she

left— she leaves it unlocked so many

times, and most of the time I just lock it

for her and I resist the temptation to

look at it. But a few nights ago, I looked

at it and I looked at her messages, and

she was chatting to some guy about sexual

things. And I don't really mind that as

long as the sexual things aren't between

her and that guy. As long as it's like

sexual things about someone else, then

that's fine. But the thing that irritated

me was that She had a big go at me. She

was really upset and angry at me because

she found out I was chatting to girls

online when she's chatting to guys online

as well herself. I find that a little bit

hypocritical. And then she gets angry at

me because I was hiding things when she's

also hidden a few things from me. It just

feels like it's one rule for her and then

another rule for me. How come it's okay

for her to hide things and talk to guys,

but when I do the same thing she

completely flips out and starts getting

really upset and angry. I think that's

really dumb. When she caught me chatting

to girls online, she got really angry and

she accused me of cheating, and she

accused me of talking about sexual things

with that girl. And then I checked her

phone, and then it turns out she's doing

the exact same thing with this other guy.

This guy was sending her pictures of

prostitutes that he had paid for, and

used. He was sending actual naked photos

of, of Japanese women that he fucked the

last night and was saying stuff like,

this one cost me ¥50,000 tonight, this one

cost me ¥30,000, I love Japanese girls, I

love fucking Japanese girls so much. And

then my wife's response was something

like, hahaha. I didn't get the chance to

see what else they were talking about

because I only looked at it for about 2

seconds before I shut it down. Before I

started to get angry. I honestly,

honestly, I don't really care that much if

she's talking about sexual things to guys.

Like, fine, talk about prostitutes and

that to other guys. I don't care. But

don't start criticizing me and complaining

that I'm talking to girls when you're

talking to guys about sexual things

yourself. And if you don't want me to see

your phone, then maybe lock your phone or

put a lock on all of your messaging apps.

Try and be a bit more careful because I'm

a nosy person. And yes, I know I shouldn't

be spying on people's phones, I shouldn't

be secretly looking at people's phones,

but if it's just lying there in the open

unlocked, I'm gonna have a quick sneaky

peek. And I'm pretty sure you would too if

you found my phone just lying there

I'm not sure how much longer the silent

mode is going to go on for. Maybe this

video will will just make things worse.

Hopefully by the time I've uploaded this

video, everything's back to normal again.

That would be great. And yes, I forgive

you for talking to another guy about

prostitutes. I'm not angry at all. In

fact, you could even say that I don't

really care. It's just very tiring. Every

single argument has been about YouTube,

something I said in a stream, or something

about a woman that I had relationships

with in the past. I don't think I've even

told most of you about this other argument

we had when, when my ex-girlfriend, the

single mother, sent me a random message on

Skype when I was doing a livestream and my

wife saw. Yeah, we had a huge argument

about that as well because I joked about

something I said. I said jokingly, damn,

my wife saw. Now I can't secretly talk to

my ex-girlfriend. And I said that in a

joking manner. And I also said to everyone

who was watching, I said, guys, don't tell

my wife about this. And my wife heard both

of those jokes and she thought I was being

serious. And I said, I wasn't serious.

Why would I be serious about that if, if I

knew that there might be a chance that you

were watching me? I thought it was pretty

obvious that I was joking. Why would I not

be joking if I knew she might be watching?

And she said, can't you stop joking? And I

said, can't you stop watching my

livestreams? Why do I have to stop joking

around just because you might be watching

and you might misunderstand? She just

doesn't get it. She doesn't understand

when I'm being serious or when I'm joking.

And, um, it's just kind of frustrating.

It's very difficult to, um, explain humor.

If you don't get it, then you're just not

going to get it. Even native speakers of

English don't— a lot of you guys don't get

it when I'm joking around or when I'm

actually being serious. She says she

understands about 80% of what I'm saying,

but I'm pretty sure she doesn't understand

when I'm joking or when I'm being

sarcastic. I find it a little bit

upsetting that my own wife doesn't really

understand my sense of humor and tells me

to stop, stop my sense of humor because

it's upsetting her. That, that hurts me a

little bit inside. I guess I should be

more understanding. She is from a

different country. She's from a different

culture where they have no sense of humor

and they take everything too seriously and

they can't take a joke. So, um, I guess I

should try harder.