I have nothing in common with my girlfriend [YmcpcuHJul4]

Yeah, I really can't decide if I want to use this camera to make a video or to use my phone to make the video. For some reason, when I use this camera, I just feel really nervous. It's because of the quality. Because it's better quality, it ends up making me feel really nervous. So I don't know if

you noticed, but in my last video, I was kind of low on energy and I seemed a bit depressed. That's— that was because I was depressed. It's just something you're gonna have to put up with if you watch my videos. Like, some days I feel really shit. And then other days, like today, I feel great. I feel

fantastic. And on the days I feel shit, I still make videos. So sometimes you might see videos where I seem like I'm really upset, like I have no energy, like I want to die. I've been thinking about this for a while, and maybe it's better if I don't make videos when I'm feeling shit. If I don't make

a video, it ends up making me feel worse because the idea of losing interest in making videos for YouTube really scares me. So I end up kind of forcing myself to make a video, even if I don't feel so great. I'm currently having relationship problems. My girlfriend is giving me the silent treatment. I speak to my girlfriend

pretty much every day for a few hours on Skype, but the last few days we haven't actually Skyped at all. We've hardly even spoken online using text messages, and I kind of sensed that there was something wrong because we haven't spoken for the last few days, and I asked her, is something wrong? Are you angry? And at

first she said she wasn't angry about anything, And then I said, it's just that it just feels weird because we haven't talked much the last few days. And then just wham, out of nowhere, this huge wall of text appeared that she had written saying, talking about all these things that she wasn't happy about. She said something like

she had only been sleeping for 2 to 3 hours every day and she was really tired and she actually had a car crash a few days ago that she didn't tell me about. She said she was so tired she couldn't concentrate and And she actually drove her car into the back of the car in front of her.

And she said every time we speak on Skype, I just go on about things she doesn't understand and it makes her really sleepy. Like, I start going on about YouTube or George, and I was really shocked and surprised that she wasn't interested in listening to me talk about George for hours and hours. If something exciting happens to

me or something interesting happens, I tend to get a bit excited and I just start rambling on and on. To that person that I'm talking to. I don't— it's not really like I'm talking to them, it feels like I'm talking at them. I don't really take into consideration if they're actually interested in what I'm saying or if

they actually have any idea of what I'm talking about. I just kind of ramble on at them, and that's kind of what I do to my girlfriend. I start going on about YouTube, or back a few weeks ago when I went to London to meet George, I was really excited about that, so I I just kind of

rambled on about that to her, and I didn't just say like, oh, I went to London and I met this guy from YouTube. I go into specific details, like I start explaining everything that happened. I explained like Yes Japan, how I used to watch his show on Yes Japan 10 years ago. And yeah, now that I think

about it, that must have been pretty boring for her to listen to me talk about all these things that happened to me in the past and this random American guy that she has no idea who he is. But the problem is, if I don't say anything when we're Skyping, she doesn't really say much either. She's not a

really talkative person, and I don't know if this is because it's her personality or if it's because it's pretty late in Japan and she's just tired. I think it's a combination of both. Now, this has actually happened a few times before where I've actually given up trying to think of things to talk about, and she actually fell

asleep. She fell asleep for about 50 minutes. And in order to stop her from falling asleep, I try very hard to come up with things to talk about. And when I've run out of things to talk about, I end up just talking about my interests like YouTube or translating or illustration, stuff like that. And I know she

has no idea what I'm talking about most of the time. She has no knowledge or interest about things like YouTube or vlogging or illustration or translation. And the thing is, what other choice do I have? If I don't start rambling on about my interests, then she doesn't say anything, and then I don't say anything, and it just

turns into awkward silence and she falls asleep again. Sometimes I ask her things like, how was your day? How was work? But it's always the same answer. She works in a care home for old people, so it's not like exciting things are gonna happen in a care home full of old people. And to be perfectly honest, I

have absolutely no interest in care homes or old people or nursing in general. I swear, if you go into a Japanese dating website and you look at Japanese women's profiles, 80% of them will have a care worker or nurse written as their profession. And I just don't understand what the appeal of becoming a nurse or a care

worker is. I know it's an important job, especially in Japan where there are so many old people, but I just don't understand why you would want to do that job. It must be a horrible job having to look after people, and I don't know what they do in care homes. I guess they have to bathe them and

help them get dressed. I don't want to see naked old people. Why would you want to be a care worker? I'm not trying to be offensive or rude to people who are in the nursing profession. I'm sure a lot of people enjoy looking after people and helping people and caring for the elderly, and it's a really important

job. I mean, old people need to be looked after because they're frail and disease-ridden, but I have absolutely no interest in that profession or that kind of work. Anyway, when I'm, when I'm old in 50 years' time, I'm pretty sure robots are going to be looking after me. But I guess I would prefer having a nice young

attractive girl looking after me rather than an emotionless robot. That would be kind of depressing. And here's another problem: she has no hobbies or interests. It just seems like she goes to work and then she comes home And then she watches TV. Maybe she keeps her daughter company and she does some cooking. Maybe she eats and then

she goes to sleep, and then she talks to me on Skype for a few hours. It's like she has no goals or aspirations. I asked her, aren't there any things that you want to become good at? For example, I want to become good at speaking Japanese, or I want to become better at drawing and illustrating. And I

ask her and it's like I don't sense that there's anything that she wants to become good at. She's not interested in learning anything. She's not interested in learning English or drawing or artistic stuff. I just, I can't really relate to that. I find it really difficult to relate to people who have absolutely no hobbies or interests and

don't do anything apart from going to work, coming home, sleeping, and just repeating that cycle. My last girlfriend was like this. She had No interests or hobbies, and I found it really boring to talk to her. So that's the problem we have. We have nothing in common. We have no common interests or hobbies. I don't know what

to talk to her about, and if I just start rambling on about my interests like YouTube, she says stuff like, I don't know what you're talking about. I feel really sleepy when you're just going on about those kind of things that I have no idea about. And then I started to think maybe it's normal for couples not

to have much in common when it comes to hobbies and interests. Maybe it's pretty rare to have 2 people who are in a relationship and they have really similar interests and hobbies. I know my mum would go absolutely crazy if my dad came home from work and would just start rambling on about engineering or mechanical stuff because

she wouldn't have any idea what he was talking about. Okay, so here's another problem we have. It's YouTube. She knows that I do YouTube, she knows that I make videos, and she has asked if she can see my channel before, and I said that I don't really feel comfortable with that. I feel a bit embarrassed showing you

my videos. And she didn't make a fuss about it. She just said, okay, that's fine. And the problem is I can't show her my channel because of the type of videos I make. I make extremely personal videos about embarrassing stuff that's happened to me, and I make a lot of videos talking about her. I can't show her

my channel when I have videos like that. I'd have to take down so many videos if I wanted to show her my channel. And I would lose a lot of freedom about what I can say because I wouldn't be able to talk about her anymore. I wouldn't be able to make girlfriend update videos, and I really enjoy

making those. How would you feel if your boyfriend or your girlfriend or your wife or your husband had a YouTube channel where they made videos talking about you? Wouldn't you feel kind of upset about that? Wouldn't you feel angry if they were secretly talking about you to hundreds of random people on the internet? So I I can't

tell her that I make videos talking about her. I'm pretty sure she wouldn't be happy about that. So I am really grateful that she's understanding and she hasn't tried to force me into showing her my YouTube channel. It's just that she doesn't like me talking about YouTube because I'm not willing to share my channel with her. And

this is the problem with doing YouTube. I'm really interested in YouTube in general, and I really want to talk about my channel, the kind of videos I'm making, the response from people who are watching my videos. But when I start talking about my YouTube channel to other people, they ask me, what's your YouTube channel? Can you show

me your videos? And I don't want to show them my videos because in the future I might make a video talking about that person and they're gonna get— they might get upset or angry about the things that I say about them, or they might not want me talking about them to an audience of people on the internet.

So I was thinking, why don't I make a fake YouTube channel where I just put family-friendly videos that aren't about being lonely and depressed and having chlamydia, and I just have a bunch of you guys go over and subscribe to it so it looks like a legitimate channel. And I just use that channel to show people if

they really want to see my YouTube channel, and this can be like our secret channel where I talk about weird stuff. Now that I think about it, it was actually kind of stressful having to talk to her every day on Skype, and I feel kind of relieved today because I don't have to Skype her. It was just

taking up so much time. It was taking time away from making YouTube videos and doing drawings and doing things that I wanted to do, and I wasn't actually looking forward to talking to her. I feel really bored when I talk to her because she hardly has any response to the things that I'm saying, and she has no

idea what I'm talking about, and she's not really interested in what I'm saying anyway. So I feel like, what's the point in talking to her? And And it's starting to make me think, is this relationship a good idea? Is it going to work? Is it a good idea to go to Japan and meet her? Are things going

to be different if I talk to her in person? Is she going to be more responsive and talkative when she's not sleepy, when she's awake? I don't know anymore. I guess it's not normal to talk to your partner every day over the phone for hours and hours, and that's why we've run out of things to talk about.

That's why it's kind of gotten boring, because I feel like we've overdone it. Maybe we need to take a little break from Skyping all the time. So now that we've gotten to the end of the video, I did actually have a question I wanted to ask, and that is, what are you supposed to do when your girlfriend

is giving you the silent treatment? Because in the past, when my ex-girlfriend gave me the silent treatment, I kind of got irritated and I tried forcing her to speak to me, and that just made things worse, and she just ended up screaming at me for about 10 minutes. In the middle of the street in Japan. Everyone was

watching, it was really embarrassing. So I know that trying to force people to talk to you when they don't want to talk to you isn't a good idea. So at the moment my girlfriend is being very cold to me. She's not talking to me much, she's being very slow to respond to my messages, and she's not really

saying much or anything at all. So I get the feeling she doesn't want to talk to me right now. So should I just leave her and ignore her and wait for her to start talking to me again. I don't feel like spamming her with messages like, why aren't you talking to me? I'm sorry, I said I'm