[2018-04-23] My Wife's family REFUSED to meet me! [qjmTQUs7Fe4]

Sometimes people ask me, why don't you

meet your wife's family? And the simple

answer to that is, they refuse to meet me.

So it's been 6 weeks since my wife told

her family that we're planning on getting

married, and since then her family have

made zero attempts to try and contact my

wife. They've made zero efforts to try and

understand my wife's feelings, and they

just flat out refuse to even meet me or

find out what kind of person I am. I could

totally understand them being against the

idea of us getting married if they knew

what kind of person I was and they

disliked me as a person. But they haven't

even met me. They don't even know what

kind of person I am, and they're already

against the idea of us getting married.

They don't even know that we actually got

married, but that's a different story.

About 5 days ago, my wife sent her family,

her mum and her sister, a message saying

that we're going to Malaysia and she's

going to meet my parents. And she also

asked her mum if she would be interested

in meeting me before we left for Malaysia.

Since it's been 6 weeks since they had

that huge argument, we thought maybe her

mum has calmed down a bit and she's,

she's not as angry as she was back then.

And guess what her mum said to that

message? She said absolutely nothing. She

didn't even reply to the message. She just

left it on read. And that was about 4 or 5

days ago now, and she still hasn't sent a

reply. I think that's just so childish.

Why would you refuse to meet your

daughter's potential future husband or

boyfriend. I thought that the reason why

her mum was so against the idea of us

getting married was because it was so soon

and she didn't even know who I was. But

we're giving her the opportunity, the

chance to meet me and find out who I am,

and she refuses. She flat-out refuses to

even see me. It doesn't make any sense.

What are we supposed to do? It kind of

sounds like they're not against the idea

of her marrying me or her being with me as

a person. It just sounds like they're

against the idea of her getting married or

being with someone in general. What do

they want? Do they want my wife to be

single and alone for the rest of her life?

I just— I don't— I find it very difficult

to understand why they don't want my wife

to be happy. It just feels like they hate

me and they haven't even met me yet. And I

have no idea why they would hate me.

Maybe they think that the only reason I'm

getting married to my wife is so I can get

a visa so I can live in Japan, which is

totally not true. So technically I have a

mother-in-law and a sister-in-law, and I

guess a brother-in-law as well. And they

don't even know that we're married because

my wife decided that it would be a better

idea not to tell them that we're married

yet because that might just make things

worse. So I have all of these in-laws in

Japan and they don't even know who I am,

and they don't even know that we're

married, which is kind of funny, I think.

The response between my family and her

family to this whole case, to this whole

matter, It's just completely different.

My family are actually looking forward to

meeting my wife when we go to Malaysia.

My family have seen photos of my wife,

they know her name. I don't even know if

my wife's family knows what I look like.

What if they think that I'm this

6-foot-tall, blonde-haired, blue-eyed guy

from Britain just because they know that

I'm from Britain? Or maybe they're worried

that I'm going to move back to England

with my wife and then they'll never get to

see her ever again. Nope, we're staying in

Japan and I kind of look like a Japanese

person. I don't really care that much

about meeting them. It would have been

nice if they were friendly and supportive

and interested in meeting me as well, but

it's not a big deal because if I did have

to meet them, it would be really awkward.

I just feel like their attitude is kind of

disrespectful. I came all of this way from

England to this country, I put all this

effort into learning how to speak their

language, and they're not even willing to

meet me. I just had all of these

expectations and fantasies of marrying a

Japanese woman, and then she would have a

really cool family who would accept me and

take me in as their son-in-law, and we

would go over to their house. I pictured

going to my wife's family's house, and she

would have a sweet, kind, friendly mother

who makes me Japanese food, and she would

have a cool dad who's impressed with my

Japanese ability, and she would have a

cute younger sister who thinks that I'm a

really interesting person, and maybe she

would have an older brother who takes me

drinking and teaches me how to fish. But I

guess none of that's gonna happen now, is

it? Those are just wild fantasies and

dreams that I had in my head about what my

life might have been like or could have

been like if I married a Japanese person

and I had Japanese in-laws. I thought

maybe we could go on family trips

together, we'd go camping, and, you know,

I'd be integrated into Japanese society

like that. I could have a beer with her

dad, and I could go fishing with her

brother, and we could play Game Boy. None

of that's gonna happen, is it? This is

what my life's gonna be like, stuck in

this stupid apartment every single bloody

day. Fuck is that stupid noise outside?

Jesus Christ, why can't I make a stupid

video without people interrupting my

bloody video? What's all that noise?

They're doing construction work outside,

right outside the bloody apartment, and

it's so noisy. I don't think you guys can

hear it that well, but I can hear it

extremely well, and it's giving me a

headache. And I ordered more drip coffee

pods from Amazon because, as you can see,

I have no more coffee left for my drip pod

coffee machine. I only have Earl Grey tea.

No, I did not buy a coffee machine so I

could drink Earl Grey tea. So I ordered 72

new pods of drip coffee, and it was

supposed to come yesterday. And it didn't

come yesterday. We waited all day for the

bloody Amazon guy, and nothing came. So I

checked the orders page on my Amazon app,

and it says expected— it was expected to

be delivered yesterday. What does that

mean? When is it going to be delivered,

for fuck's sake? I need my drip coffee.

So I don't know if my wife's family are

ever going to stop being angry. And if

they're actually going to ever show any

interest in meeting me. Maybe they'll

change their mind after we come back from

Malaysia and my wife has finally met my

parents, because— because for some reason

her family and friends kept saying, how

can you marry him when you don't even know

what kind of people his parents are? You

haven't even met his parents yet. Because

meeting 2 people that she's only going to

see maybe once a year at most is so

important. So maybe after we've come back

from Malaysia and she's met my parents,

her family and friends will finally shut

up about the whole parents thing. Oh, you

met his parents and they were nice normal

people. What a surprise! Now I can be 100%

supportive of your decision to get

married, and I'm totally not angry

anymore. How do

these people think? How how do these

people function as a society?

Hello, and welcome back to Cooking with

Daniel. Today we're going to be cooking.

Pork chops. For seasoning, we have basil,

rock salt, garlic powder,

and sesame oil.

First of all, open your pork chop package

and take the pork chops out onto the

chopping board. And first of

all, we're going to start by making some

incisions onto the surface of the pork

chops. This helps the seasoning get deep

down into the pork chop and makes it more

flavorful.

Next, pour on the sesame oil. This helps

add some extra flavor to the pork chop,

and it also helps the other seasoning

stick to the meat.

After we finished rubbing the sesame oil

onto the pork chop, we're going to

sprinkle on some rock salt for saltiness,

and then we're going to add the basil and

finally the garlic powder. Now we

can take the seasoned pork chops to the

kitchen and begin cooking.

And there we have it, the perfect pork

chops. You can eat it just like it is,

or if you would like to add some sauce or

ketchup, that's also completely up to you.

If you want vegetables with the pork

chops, I highly recommend raw green

peppers because they just go so well with

the pork chops. Look who it is! It's

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Say hello to my best friend. Hi,

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