why i had to move back in with my mum at age 35 [UpdEXyTk7_k]

Every time I come back home after

traveling for years across Asia and I come

back home to move in back with my parents,

I always get some idiots in the comments

section whining about how I'm a loser for

living with my parents. There was this guy

in my last video in the comments section

having a big whinge about how I'm a

parasite and how I'm a man-child because I

live with my parents. And he was bragging

about how he's been buying houses since he

was 19 and renovating them and selling

them for profit. He was saying how he's

the same age as me and when he was he

learned carpentry and he started flipping

houses, and why can't Daniel do the same?

Number one, I couldn't care less about

carpentry or renovating houses. It sounds

so boring and uninteresting to me, so I

wouldn't be able to do it, mainly because

I just don't care. If you're lucky and

fortunate enough to be able to find your

calling in life at such a young age, and

you can find something that you're really

interested in and that you're good at and

you can make good money from and turn it

into a profitable career for the rest of

your life, then congratulations. But most

of us really struggle to find that thing

that we feel really passionate about and

we can dedicate our entire lives to and

turn it into a massive career that could

support ourselves for all of our lives.

That's like a really difficult thing for

most people to find. And if you found

that, then well done, but I don't think

you should be bragging about it and

putting other people down just because we

haven't been so fortunate like you. When I

was younger, around 18 or 19, I wasn't

really interested in learning a trade and

building a career and doing that kind of

stuff. I was more interested in traveling

the meeting people, chasing love

interests, learning languages, having

experiences in life. That was more what I

was interested in. It is kind of

frustrating that I'm now in my 30s and I'm

kind of broke. I don't have much money. I

don't have a booming, successful business

or career, but I made my life choices when

I was younger, and I kind of expected that

this would be the consequences. But I

think it's kind of unfair to say that I

live with my parents. Number one, I don't

live with my parents. How come when I say

that I live in Asia or I live in Japan or

I live in Thailand, all these people have

a big whine saying, Daniel, you don't live

in Japan, you're just there as a tourist

because you're only there for a few

months. But when I move back into my

family home with my parents just for a few

months, all of a sudden I'm living with my

parents. How come I can't say I'm living

in Japan, but according to these people

I'm living with my parents when

technically I haven't permanently lived at

my home with my parents since 2010? I've

always moved out and gone to Asia for

about 6 to 9 months of the year, and I've

only spent about quarter of the year, or

maybe at most half the year, at home

living with my parents since I was about

20 years old. I've always moved out, gone

to Asia, lived with girlfriends, lived in

guest houses, and then come back home for

a few months or maybe for Christmas. So

this guy, he wrote another stupid comment

where basically everything he says in the

comment is factually wrong and doesn't

make any sense. So he says, my issue is

Daniel isn't living at home because he's

saving for his future. Uh, yes, I am. I'm

living at home so I can save money so I

could do things with the money in the

future. I'm saving up money so I can

travel and go and live with my girlfriends

or go and do this and go and do that in

the future. And then he says he's a

parasite who uses people for his own gain.

You just described basically everyone in

the whole world. Everything everyone does

is for their own gain. Life is really

short. We don't have much time here. Why

would you waste your precious time doing

things where you don't gain anything from.

That's just kind of stupid. People help

other people because it makes them feel

good, and they also hope that in the

future that person would help you do

something as well in return. I am fully

happy to admit that everything I do and

every person I meet, I'm only doing it

because I'm expecting or seeking something

very specific from doing that thing. The

only reason I do anything I do is because

I want one of two things. I want either

money or I want physical affection and

love from women. And I'm pretty sure most

people are the same. Why are you doing

anything you're doing? Why are you

studying hard? Why do you want to get a

good job? Why do you want to make lots of

money? Because you want the same thing

that I do. Let's not pretend that Mr. Oh,

I've been flipping and renovating houses

since I was 19 years old— you're only

doing that because you want money. You

don't do it because you care so much about

providing nice quality homes for the good

people of the world. There's no such thing

as a selfless good deed. Everything you

think you're doing that is helping other

people, you're only doing it because it

helps you as well. For example, if you

say, oh, I want to make lots of money so I

can help my family and friends, you only

want to help your family and friends

because in some way it benefits you as

well. If you think there are selfless good

deeds and you want to prove me wrong,

then just send me some money on PayPal.

You'll get nothing out of it, I'll

financially gain and you'll financially

suffer. So I just think it's kind of

stupid to say that I only use people for

my own gain when that's basically what all

of humanity does. And then to also call me

a parasite is just so bizarre. I really

don't understand why so many people think

I'm a leech or I mooch off other people or

I'm a parasite when I've never parasited

off of anyone out of any of my

relationships. I've never had a girlfriend

who paid for everything, looked after me

in every single way. So let's go as far

back as 2016, I was working in a petrol

station. I made my own money. I bought my

own food. I paid for my own things, even

though I was living with my parents. I

wasn't a parasite. And then I got married

in Japan where I was living in Japan from

2017 until 2020, which is nearly 3 years.

And when I was married, I was not a leech.

I wasn't parasiting off of my wife. I paid

for half the rent. I paid for half the

food. If we went traveling, I would pay

for my tickets and my portion of the

hotel. And I'd also buy gifts like I

bought her an Apple Watch 6 for her

birthday. I bought her Apple AirPods. I

bought things for the apartment like

furniture, coffee machines, cooking stuff.

So I definitely wasn't a financial burden

or parasite when I was married. Then my

next relationship with Mila, she didn't

pay for anything. She didn't have any

money. She had like -€800 in her bank

account. I paid for everything— the

Airbnbs, the trips, the trains, the buses,

the restaurants. Went traveling around

Germany. Guess who paid for everything? I

did. And then with my Thai girlfriend, I

paid for all of the rent. I paid for all

of my food and some of her food. I paid

for the majority of travel expenses like

hotels. She would pay for a bit like the

internet, the electricity, the utility

bills, petrol for the car. Sometimes she'd

pay for a bit for the hotels, but I think

I was definitely paying for at least 60 to

70% for everything together. So I really

don't understand how you can label me as a

parasite. The first thing I did when I got

back to the UK a couple days ago was I

ordered my own groceries from Tesco's and

I got my own food. So I'm paying for my

own food. I got some other things like

this really nice 67 times folded Damascus

steel chef's knife. I got this air fryer

and this fancy rice cooker a couple years

ago as well, which everyone in the house

now uses. So I think it's kind of unfair

and also completely factually wrong to

label me as a parasite when you can't even

give one example of a woman or girlfriend

or some kind of relationship where they

supported me 100%. I don't even have any

relationships where they even provided 50%

of the finances. I always provided at

least 50%, and in some cases more than

50%. And then he also says living at home

even into your 20s is understandable, but

not when you're approaching 40. You don't

think it's understandable because you

don't understand my life situation. I came

back to the UK to move back in with my mum

because my sister is getting married very

soon, and I kind of ran out of money and I

have a lot of debt to pay, so I need to

stay at home for a bit, save up money so I

can pay off my debts. It would be

completely financially irresponsible if I

came back to the UK and instead of moving

back in with my mum because I had some

kind of silly pride ego thing where I

was embarrassed to live with my parents,

if I had some kind of stupid ego thing and

I was like, oh, I need to rent my own

apartment in Maidstone, then I'd be

wasting all this money paying for rent

for, I don't know, half a year to a year

when I could be using that money to pay

back my mum and pay off my credit card.

It just makes no sense to rent my own

place when I've got this massive house

which is definitely big enough for 2

people to live in just because someone on

the internet thinks it's lame to live with

their parents when you're in your 30s.

Now the only time I would agree that it's

lame to live with your parents when you're

in your 30s is if I had a girlfriend in

the UK and I wanted to live together with

the girlfriend. If I invited the UK

girlfriend to come and live with me in my

mum's house then yeah, I agree, that's

kind of weird. And I would definitely want

to rent my own place so I could live

together with the UK girlfriend and we

would have our own privacy and we would

have full control over things like

furniture and decorating our house

together. But that's just not my current

situation. And if you understood that,

you wouldn't be saying stupid things like

you did in the comment. My current

situation is I am very low on money. I

need to be very financially responsible

and try and rebuild my finances after that

whole tax situation, which was completely

not my fault. It was completely Completely

unexpected, and I didn't realize I had to

pay so much taxes plus the penalties. So

that was a bit of an unexpected,

unfortunate thing that happened that my

mum helped me out of, which I'm really

grateful. And now I'm dedicated towards

raising money to pay her back. I don't

know how long I'm going to be in the UK.

I would probably bet that I won't be in

the UK for longer than a year. So when you

look at things that way, it makes perfect

logical sense to do what I'm doing right

now. I think the main problem is that

these comments of people hating on me and

whining at me because I live with my mum,

I think they're mostly Americans. And I

think that in American culture, moving out

when you're 18 and building your own life

and career, standing up on your own 2 feet

and having independence is a massive

important aspect when it comes to American

culture. But I'm not American. I don't

live in America. I have an Asian mum. So

I've got heavy Asian influences on my

personality and upbringing. In Asia, it is

very normal for adults to live with their

family and parents even in their 30s. And

if they're single, they would try and save

money by living with their parents, and

they would only move out if they're going

to get married or they have some kind of

serious relationship, or they have like

important work to do in Tokyo and their

parents live in the middle of nowhere

countryside. This whole stupid American

notion of I've got to stand on my own two

feet, I'm a real man, I don't need anyone

to depend on. This whole macho bravadoism,

which I think is kind of toxic, is just

ridiculous. And it doesn't exist outside

of America. In Asia, financial

responsibility and focusing on saving up

money, building assets and financial

assets, that's more important, even if it

means having to live with your parents in

your 30s. It's just another example of

stupid American people pushing their

belief system and way of life and values

onto other people in the rest of the

world, thinking As if the whole world is

America when it's not. You Americans, you

think you're such hot stuff just because

you're the world's global superpower with

the world's biggest military, but you

haven't won any wars since World War II.

You've lost literally every single war.

You got a stalemate in Korea, you lost

Vietnam, you lost Afghanistan, you're

losing Ukraine. You basically suck as a

military superpower. Your fancy flagship

aircraft carriers are getting attacked and

harassed by ragtag rebels in Yemen, which

you have no power to stop. Don't Think you

can assert your belief system onto other

people and berate other people just

because we don't live the way you do.

Sometimes the arrogance and hypocrisy of

Americans never fails to baffle me. You

think you're so great with your democracy

and freedom when your elections are all

fake and rigged and you meddle in other

countries' democratic elections, and then

you have the audacity to say, oh, we

support and believe in free speech. No,

you don't. You only believe in free speech

when it suits you. Hello, welcome back to

another episode of Cooking with Daniel.

Today we're going to be making the perfect

steak and vegetable stir-fry but without a

frying pan. We're going to be using the

air fryer. It's going to be a very easy

and clean way to make a stir-fry and also

much healthier because we're not going to

be covering everything in oil. So first of

all, what you want to do is get your 67x

folded Damascus steel pro chef knife,

which I got off Amazon for only £65, and

then we're going to very carefully slice

our vegetables— the asparagus and celery I

like to slice them diagonally into chunks

like this and drop them straight into the

air fryer. Next, take your Tesco steaks,

which I definitely purchased with my own

money, slice them into strips so they cook

more evenly, and then place it into the

air fryer.

As for seasoning, I like to use this Knorr

Stockpot All-Purpose General Seasoning

Powder. Sprinkle some of that onto the

vegetables for some extra flavor. You'll

notice that I placed aluminium foil inside

of the air fryer, and I'm going to place

the food inside of the foil. This is just

to make it easier so I don't have to clean

the air fryer. Otherwise, you get all oil

and stuff stuck to the air fryer and you

have to wash it in the sink, which is kind

of annoying. So a little tip is to use

foil. That way it keeps everything nice

and clean. You just put the foil straight

into the bin after you've finished. And

we're going to air fry it for 6 minutes at

205°C. Just wait for a

bit for that to finish cooking. It won't

take too long because it's beef. It won't

take too long to cook. And as you can see,

after 6 minutes, it looks great. The

celery is crunchy, the asparagus is crisp,

and beef is not too overcooked. It was a

pretty good meal. I'd rate it 6.2 out of