Why I regret getting married

Hey, so I want to talk about why I

regretted getting married. Now, when I was

married, obviously I couldn't talk about

this because my wife would have been

pretty upset if she heard me say these

things. But now that we're separated,

I guess I can say anything I want to.

After getting married, the number one

thing that I noticed that I lost was my

freedom. And to me, freedom is one

of the most important things in life.

It's one of the main reasons why I refuse

to get a 9-to-5 job, and that's because if

I had a 9-to-5 job, I wouldn't have the

freedom that I want in life. Wouldn't be

able to just go where I want to when I

wanted to, or do what I wanted to when I

wanted to. And being married was kind of

the same as that. When I was married, I

couldn't just pack my bags and go to

Thailand, or pack my bags and go to a

different city, or pack my bags and come

back home to England when I felt like it.

I couldn't just do what I wanted to do

when I wanted to do it, and that was

pretty stressful. Not being able to do

what I used to be able to do and losing my

freedom was, was pretty

stressful. And I felt— I think the word

trapped is the number one word that comes

to mind when I, when I think of my

marriage. I just felt trapped, as if I

couldn't do what I wanted to do when I

wanted to. And it's not just things like

traveling, um, there's also simple things

like eating the food that I wanted to eat

when I wanted to. I had to think about my

wife and what she wanted to eat. I

couldn't just have convenience food,

convenience store food every day because

she wouldn't want that. And I had to think

about what she wanted as well, not just

me. Another, another frustrating thing was

that around the time that I got married,

my YouTube channel was growing a lot and I

was making decent money from it, which was

great, but it was just a bit annoying

because I finally gained financial

independence, but then I couldn't do

anything with it because I was married and

I couldn't just fly off to Thailand or I

couldn't just meet up with random people.

It kind of felt like I had been given

wings so I could fly, but then someone

just put me into a birdcage so I couldn't

fly anywhere. It just— it was just kind of

frustrating and it felt a bit like a

waste, a waste of of gaining this newfound

financial independence only to just be put

into a birdcage. So you might be

wondering, why did I get married in the

first place if I regretted it so much?

And it wasn't my

idea. I didn't say, let's get married. I

didn't suggest it. It wasn't my plan to

get myself a spouse visa in Japan. I

didn't really care about getting a visa in

Japan. It was, it was her idea. She

suggested that we could get married if we

wanted to stay together. And at the time,

I thought it was a good idea. I thought at

the time getting married and moving to

Japan, finally making my dream of living

in Japan come true, I thought that would

be better than coming back to England and

living with my mum and dad in my bedroom.

Here in England.

I thought it'd be nice if my life was

heading in some kind of direction instead

of just me sitting in my bedroom for the

rest of my life. I imagined myself as a

40-year-old man still here in my bedroom

playing video games on my computer over

there, and that, that scared me a bit.

I didn't want to be like that. I wanted my

own life with a

wife, a lady, a girlfriend, a partner in

my own place. I wanted to be independent,

and that's why I just kind of went along

with it. I just said, okay, yeah, that

sounds like a good idea. Let's get

married. What's the worst that could

But then after I got married, I started

to, to realize that maybe this isn't so

great. I, I escaped

from one birdcage, this room, and just

jumped straight into another birdcage.

And the only difference was that I was no

longer living with my parents. I replaced

my parents with with, with my wife.

And I didn't really feel any happier

in that situation. I didn't feel as though

my life was complete and I could now start

feeling happy. I just kept thinking, oh

no, I can't go to Thailand, I can't meet

up with other girls, and now I have all

this financial independence and I can't

even take advantage of it. And I don't

even know if— I didn't really feel like me

and my wife were that suited for each

other. I didn't feel like we had much in

common. We barely did anything together.

And as the months went on, I kept thinking

to myself, maybe this wasn't such a great

idea. Maybe I should have said no.

Maybe we shouldn't have done this. But I

didn't have the guts to say no, and I was

scared of coming back here.

After experiencing being married, I don't

really know what to think of marriage

anymore. I don't think it's, it's a very

good thing, and I don't think I'd

ever get married again unless by some

miracle I managed to find a girl who's

perfect for me, which is probably very

unlikely to happen. I just can't really

see myself getting married again, and I

definitely wouldn't recommend getting

married so you can get a visa. That's just

a terrible idea. But the visa was the main

problem, because if I already had my own

visa in Japan, we wouldn't have needed to

get married,

and I wouldn't be in this— wouldn't have

had this kind of problem. I don't really

think it's a big problem. It just makes

separating not as easy as

it would have been if we were just

boyfriend and girlfriend, because now we

have to sign some kind of documents, get

it all cancelled. I don't think signing

the document is difficult or expensive.

Actually, I'm pretty sure she said last

time she got divorced, she just paid about

¥4,000, signed her name,

and then it was done. That was it. It was

pretty, pretty easy, pretty cheap.

But she's still the Prime Minister, and

everybody was going to expect— and I do,

I've always said this, I always admire

celebrity like Reuters jumping out and

being resilient, but I felt it would be

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