How to get laid

Hi, so I wanted to talk to you about how I

went from being a 20-year-old virgin to a

30-year-old person who's able to get laid

pretty easily now.

Um, okay, so I wanted to make this video

because in a few weeks I'm going to be

entering my 30s, and as I leave my

20s behind me— behind— I would like to

pass on some knowledge, some wisdom that

I've acquired over the past decade on

women and basically how to get laid. Now,

before I start this video, you have to

keep in mind that all of the things I'm

gonna say are based off of my own personal

experiences, and I'm not trying to talk

for everyone. I'm just talking from my

own, uh, stand, my own viewpoint,

my own experiences.

So let's, um, let's imagine that you are a

young guy who's in his early 20s, maybe 18

or 19, you're a bit of a loser, you're a

bit awkward, you don't have very good

social skills, you've never really

interacted with women much, and you feel

like you have no hope. You feel as though

you'll never sleep with a woman ever

because you're such a loser. Well, you

don't have to worry too much because if I

managed to do it, then I'm pretty sure

anyone could manage to do it. And if you

follow my steps Follow in my footsteps,

you'll be slaying left,

right, and center. Okay, so first of

all, you want to get yourself to an Asian

country. Any Asian country. I personally

picked Japan, and I recommend Japan over

any of the other Asian countries, but you

know, any Asian country is good. I heard—

I hear that Thailand's pretty good as

well. But since I've never been to

Thailand, I can't really talk about

Thailand, so I'm going to talk about what

I know best, and that is Japan. Now, the

reason why you want to pick an Asian

country over, let's say, a European

country or America is mainly because of

the fact that you are probably going to be

white or Western, or you'll have Western

features, or you'll at least be able to

speak English as your native language, or

you should be very good at English. And

all of these things give you a very big

advantage when it comes to getting laid in

Asia. Okay, so we've booked our ticket,

we're going to Japan, and where are we

gonna stay? We have to pick our

accommodation. Are we gonna go and stay in

a hotel, an Airbnb, an apartment all by

ourselves? No, no, and no. We're gonna go

to a guesthouse. Now the reason why you

want to go to a guesthouse is because,

well, it's basically a big building full

of a lot of lonely and desperate people,

and more importantly, lonely and desperate

women. And, um, it's just a really good

way to meet people and become friends and

to get laid. I personally have stayed in

several guest houses. I've stayed in a few

pretty big ones and one fairly smallish

one, and I would recommend going for the

pretty big ones because the bigger the

guest house is, the the more people there

are. And the more people that live in the

guesthouse, the more opportunities and

chances you are going to have to get

lucky. If you stayed in a small

guesthouse, for example, when I stayed in

a small guesthouse, there were only about

10 or 12 people, and I thought it would be

a better idea at the time because I

thought there'd be a closer community

feeling to it. And there was kind of. The

only problem is there was only one cute

girl, and I messaged her asking if she was

interested in me, and she said no. And

then I moved out the very next day. The

thing is about guest houses is it's very

luck dependent. Sometimes you get very

lucky and there's a lot of fun,

good-looking people in the guest house,

and then sometimes you're just kind of

unlucky and it's full of boring men who

just sit there not saying much. Or maybe

there's only one cute girl and she's not

interested in you. So my advice would be

just do what I did, and if you feel as

though the guest house is boring and the

people at the guest house aren't really

that interesting, there's no cute girls

that you're interested in, I would say

just move out. Just give it a few weeks at

that guest house. If nothing changes,

move out and move to a different guest

house. Okay, so we're in a guest house

and we've just moved in. There's a lot of

people, a lot of strangers. We don't know

anyone. It's a little bit scary, isn't it?

I was very scared. I actually wet myself

on my first night in Japan when I was

about 20. And it took me

about 4 weeks until I could even make

friends. I sat in the dining room waiting

for people to come up to me, and that does

work, but it just takes a very long time.

If you don't have much time, you really

need to start making friends on the very

first day. As soon as you get there,

start saying hello to people, and then

you'll become friends. And the important

thing is you want to become friends with

the women. And as you start to get closer

to the women at the guest house, Um,

that, that's when you really start to,

uh, get close to them, and then you start

to have a chance with them. Now, there's

going to be different types of women at

the guest house. There's going to be,

number one, there's going to be a lot of

Japanese women. These women are usually in

their late or mid-30s, and they're kind of

lonely and desperate because they probably

don't have a Japanese boyfriend. That's

why they're at the guest house, because

they're lonely. Or you might get younger

Japanese women who are in their early 20s

who are just going to university. Maybe

they want to learn English and they want

to meet foreigners at the guesthouse. But

then you also get this other group of

women who are not Japanese, they're

foreigners, and they might be visiting

Japan or they might be working in Japan.

And the, um, the good thing about the

foreign women is because since you're also

a foreigner, you kind of have something in

common because you're both foreign people

in this strange country. And it kind of

gives you a connection. I felt as though

it was easier to befriend the foreign

women than it was to befriend the Japanese

women at the guesthouses. When I was

staying at the guesthouses in Japan, I

managed to get lucky with a total of 4

women, and out of that 4, only one of them

was Japanese. 2 of them were Korean and

one of them was French. So you can kind of

see my point that it's a lot easier to get

closer to the foreign women than it is the

Japanese women. I'm not sure why. Maybe

that was just my own personal experience.

Maybe for you it will be different.

Who knows? Okay, so, um,

since you're a Western guy, hopefully,

and you can speak English, this gives you

2 significant advantages. Number one, you

probably look kind of, kind of foreign

compared to an Asian guy.

And you can probably speak English, which

is a good thing because a lot of the

Japanese girls in guesthouses are mainly

there because they want to study English.

And if you're a native English speaker,

they will flock to you like flies to

shit. They will. They'll go, oh, hello,

can you teach me English? And then

they'll be sitting there in the living

room with their textbooks, and then you

can sit next to them and say, oh, hello.

What you learning today? And then you can

sit next to them and help them out,

pretend to show an interest in helping

them learn English. And then day by day

you'll get closer and closer, and then

maybe you'll get so close that you'll end

up sleeping together. That is— that would

be great. So I've talked— spoken—

that's not even a word.

So I've talked a lot about guest houses so

far, and you don't want to make the same

mistake as I did. In the first couple

of years of my 20s, I would rely 100%

on the guest house. And there was one

time, 2016, I went to a guest house and it

was a complete failure. I couldn't make

friends, there were no cute girls, no one

was interested in me. I fell into this

horrible state of depression. I was so

depressed I ended up becoming nocturnal.

I woke up at 6 or 7 PM, and then I was

staying up all night and then going to bed

at 6 AM. And I was just so depressed

because I couldn't— I couldn't get close

to any of the girls there, and I couldn't

really become friends with anyone there

because they were all from Thailand or

Vietnam or something, and I just didn't

really feel as though I could get into

their friendship circle. I was

such an idiot, and for some reason, 2016,

I didn't even use Tinder. I didn't even

use any websites. I just went to a guest

house, didn't have any luck, and then

became very depressed. You want to avoid

that. So don't just 100% rely on a guest

house. You have to be doing everything you

possibly can whilst you're in Japan

because you might not be there for very

long. You might only be there for a few

weeks. You might only be there for a few

months. So time is very important. You

don't have a lot of it. It's very limited.

So what you need to be doing alongside

with being in the guest house, you need to

be on Tinder and you need to be using

several dating websites Now, I recommend

japancupid.com. I actually met my first

girlfriend on Japan Cupid, and the single

mother girlfriend, I also met her on Japan

Cupid, and a couple of others. It's a very

good website. In some ways, it's better

than Tinder because I feel as though the

people who use Japan Cupid are more

serious, whereas on Tinder you get people—

people kind of flaky on Tinder, and they

don't really take it that seriously. But

Tinder is very good as well, and for some

reason I avoided using Tinder until

several— no, 2 years ago, and I felt like

such an idiot for not using it sooner. I

have no idea why in 2016 I just sat in

the guest house moping around like a

complete loser when I should have been on

Tinder. Anyway, you really need to get on

Tinder, take some nice photos And well,

I was— I wasn't amazingly successful on

Tinder. I wasn't a complete failure. I did

manage to meet maybe a dozen women on

Tinder, and I'd say about 70% of

those dates resulted in getting laid.

Okay, so now I'm going to move on to

dating in Japan. Maybe you've met a few

women, matched a few women on Tinder, and

they agreed to seeing you. And this is

what usually happens when I went on a

date. So first we would meet, say hello,

and then we'd walk around a little bit,

have a little chat, which is nice. And

then you have to go to a restaurant, have

lunch. And this is the worst part. I hated

it so much. I absolutely

hated going to restaurants and sitting

down and having to make conversation. It

was so awkward. But you, you kind of have

to just grit your teeth and bear with it

because that is the most important stage

where you basically get a girl to lower

her defenses and become comfortable with

you. Women, they're very skittish and they

usually have this defense wall or some

kind of barrier. It depends on the woman.

Some women are very open, some are more

shy, but in general I'd say they have this

kind of barrier And you have to get them

to lower the barrier by talking to them,

making them feel comfortable, making them

laugh. And making her laugh is pretty

important because once she's laughing,

she's feeling comfortable with you, then

you're halfway there. Her barriers should

be down quite a lot.

Okay, so after you've gone through lunch

and Um, you've finished eating, you leave

the restaurant, and then you have to

decide what to do next. And my

recommendation would be walk around for

about 10 or 20 minutes just chatting. And

what you really want to do is you want to

try and get her to karaoke. Doesn't have

to be karaoke, it could also be a Ferris

wheel. I've found that Ferris wheels are

pretty good as well. Basically, it just

has to be a private space where

you can be alone with her, unless, unless

you feel comfortable trying to kiss her in

the middle of the street, which I never

did. That's kind of weird. Or maybe you

can take her to a nice secluded park, sit

on a bench, and then try it there. But I

would, I would go for a karaoke.

Now you have to invite her to karaoke,

and any girl in Japan who has half a brain

should know that when a guy invites a girl

to karaoke, it's not because he wants to

sing Bohemian Rhapsody, it's because

he wants to touch her up. And any Japanese

girl who has common sense should know

that this is what the guy wants to do if

he invites her to karaoke. So once you get

to karaoke or Ferris wheel— oh, the other

thing with Ferris wheels is you have to

make sure the girl isn't scared of

heights. There's one date I went on and I

took her to a Ferris wheel and she seemed

kind of nervous about it. And she said she

was afraid of heights, but I didn't think

it was too bad. I didn't think she was

that scared of heights, so I managed to

persuade her to get onto the Ferris wheel

anyway. And she was having some kind of

panic attack on the Ferris wheel. It was

terrible. But as the,

as the little capsule thing came back down

to the ground, she calmed down a bit, and

I managed to put my arm around her, and I

kissed her, and we went to a hotel.

Okay, so let's go back to karaoke.

Karaoke is a very good place because it's

basically a very small dark room where you

get to be alone with the girl or the

woman. And it's really unfortunate that

most countries don't really have these

karaoke places, and it really, really

helps if you're a nervous shy guy like me

because it's so easy once you get into the

karaoke room. You just need confidence.

The problem I had the first few times when

I went to karaoke with women was that I

had no guts and I was so scared and I

would just sit there waiting for hours and

hours for something to happen. And

obviously nothing happened because 9 times

out of 10, the woman is never gonna make

the first move. You, you as the man, you

have to make the first move. Can't be

scared, you can't be a coward, you can't

wait. For the woman to make a move because

she won't. You have to make the move. And

it took me a very, very long time until I

managed to be brave enough to start making

the first move. And you should never be

afraid of making the first move because,

yeah, being rejected after making the

first move is scary, but it's 10 times

worse if you just sit there waiting and

then you don't do anything, and then you

end up regretting not doing anything and

then wondering what might have happened if

I did have the guts to make the first

move, which is the situation I'm in

because I had so many chances where I

could have made a move but I didn't

because I was too much of a wuss.

So anyway, you're in karaoke. First thing

you have to do is make sure you sit next

to her. Don't sit opposite because usually

there's a table in the middle and there's

seats on either side. If you sit opposite

her it becomes very difficult to then get

up and sit next to her. And if you're

opposite her, you can't really do

anything. So try and sit next to her.

Imagine the screen of the karaoke is

there. You kind of want her to sit close

to the screen, and then you're further

away, kind of behind her. That way she's

looking at the screen and you can get up

to some sneaky moves whilst her back is

turned.

And, um, I know this is all over the

place, but going back to making the first

move, don't be scared of making the first

move because most of the time it will

work. I, I think I've made the first move

about 6 or 7 times and I only got rejected

twice. One time was after we went to the

cinema. We were holding hands in an

elevator and I thought this would be a

great time to kiss her, so I turned to her

face to kiss her, and she just turned

away. And I just stopped trying to kiss

her because obviously she didn't want to,

and it was really awkward. Doors opened,

we walked out, said goodbye, and we had a

second date when we went to karaoke. We

made out, and that was it. Then she

ghosted me. And then the second time I got

rejected was— when

was it?

Oh yeah, the second time I got rejected

was when I invited a Japanese woman to a

hotel, and she came to the hotel, and then

I started trying to make my moves, and

then she stopped me and said she wasn't

interested in doing anything. And then I

was kind of pissed off, and I wanted to

say, if you don't want to do anything,

why did you come to a hotel with me then?

Anyway, I think that's a pretty good

success rate— 2 times rejected out of 6 or

7 times. And when you make the first move

in a karaoke, what you have to do is you

wait until she's looking the other way,

preferably towards the karaoke screen.

When her back is turned, you start

touching her hair, and then you move down

to her neck, and then you just move your

face, lean into her, and then you try and

get closer. And maybe you just kiss her on

the cheek or on the neck. She's going to

be surprised. And then you make your move

towards her lips. And then if you can kiss

her on the lips and she doesn't stop you,

then you've basically won. It's basically—

you've basically got it in the bag.

I'll give you an example of one time I

went to karaoke. We went to karaoke and I

sat next to her. I made the mistake of

sitting opposite her at the beginning,

but then she went to the toilet, and then

when she came back, I got up and And I sat

down, and then she sat down, then I sat

down next to her. And then I started

touching her hair, and I asked her if she

dyed her hair or something, and then I

smelt her hair, and then I touched her

neck, and then I kissed her on the lips,

and then she kissed me back. Then we

kissed for about a couple of minutes, and

then I asked her if she wanted to go to a

hotel, and she said yes. After you start

kissing, you always have to escalate by

inviting her to a hotel. This is another

great thing about Japan.

They have love hotels, and not many

countries have love hotels. Love hotel is

basically a hotel where you make love,

and you can just go there for a couple of

hours, and it only costs about $20 or $30

for an hour or 2. So instead of booking an

entire night at a proper hotel, which is

what you might have to do if you don't

have love hotels in your country, you can

just go to a love hotel. And after I

figured out this technique, I, I used it

several times, about 6 or 7 times I think,

and it worked every single time apart from

that one rejection. The second rejection

technically worked because she did come

back to a hotel with me, it's just that

nothing happened. So 6 times out of 7,

that technique worked every single time.

Meet, lunch, Go to karaoke,

make the first move, kiss her, invite her

to a hotel. Worked every single time. I'm

not joking. It's so simple. All you need

is confidence. Just do it. Don't think

about it too much. Don't sit there in

karaoke going, what if she— what if she

doesn't want to kiss me? What if she

rejects me? What if it's awkward? Don't

worry about all that stuff. Just do it.

And after I did it, made the first move

and was successful a couple of times, I

felt so stupid for being so scared of

making a move, and I felt so stupid for

wasting all these past opportunities I had

in the past. Even to this day, I'm kicking

myself over all the times I went to

karaoke with women and I just sat there

like an idiot for the entire hour or 2

hours, just singing and waiting for

something to happen. No,

that's not gonna work. Women are never

gonna make the first move. Okay, so here's

another tip. If you get rejected the first

time, if you invited her to a hotel or you

tried to kiss her and she rejected you the

first time, don't worry about it. Just

because she rejected you the first time

doesn't mean it's completely over. Let me

give you 2 examples. There was one date I

went on and This is something else you

should never do. Never ask her for

permission to kiss her because it never

works. So I went on one date and I asked

her, can I kiss you? And she laughed at me

and said no. 15 minutes later, she sat

next to me and then I kissed her anyway

and she didn't stop me. So we started

kissing and then we ended up doing it on

the floor.

Second example was I went on a date with a

girl. We went for lunch, walked around,

and I invited her to a hotel straight

away, which is also another mistake. You

should never invite her to a hotel before

making your move, which is the kiss.

Always make your move, kiss, and then

invite. If you invite before you make out,

then she's probably gonna say no. And I

asked this Japanese girl, would you like

to go to a hotel? And she said no, and she

laughed at me. So we walked around a bit

more, and then we went on a Ferris wheel,

and then I kissed her, and then we went to

karaoke, and then I kissed her again, and

then I asked her to a hotel, and then she

said yes. So just because she rejects you

the first time doesn't mean that it's

completely game over. You still have a

chance if you play things smoothly

afterwards. I think I'm gonna end this

video here because it's getting really

long, 20 minutes. More than 20 minutes,

and I've probably missed out a lot of

stuff. And if I remember any of the stuff

that I missed out that I forgot to talk

about, then I might make a part 2 if this

video does well. So if you found my

tips helpful, leave a like, and if you

have any questions, feel free to ask.