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How to get a Girlfriend - My top tips

2020-09-04 · 12 min

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  1. This man has had 16 girlfriends in the

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  2. past. How did he do it? And now he will

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  3. teach you how to get a girlfriend. Listen

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  4. carefully.

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  5. Hi, so I've noticed there's a lot of angry

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  6. single people in the comments section who

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  7. like to insult me and say

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  8. rude things every time I find a new

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  9. girlfriend. And I thought to myself, why

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  10. are these people so angry? Why are they so

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  11. rude? Why are they so upset at the idea

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  12. that I can get a girlfriend and they

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  13. cannot? And I thought to myself, well, I

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  14. could respond to them with hate and anger

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  15. and be rude back to them, but I could also

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  16. share my knowledge and expertise and try

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  17. and help them, because helping people is

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  18. what makes the world a better place. So my

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  19. first tip would be making yourself look

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  20. presentable. The first thing a woman is

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  21. going to notice about you is the way you

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  22. look, and the way you present yourself

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  23. kind of portrays what kind of person you

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  24. are into the world. And the easiest thing

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  25. you can do to start off with would be

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  26. getting a proper haircut and fixing your

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  27. hairstyle. Now, if you're the kind of

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  28. person who spends a lot of time inside at

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  29. home playing video games and you love

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  30. anime, you might have a really stupid

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  31. looking haircut, because I know I

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  32. definitely did have a stupid looking

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  33. haircut between the ages of 17 all the

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  34. way until about 26, I had a stupid-looking

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  35. haircut that I thought looked really,

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  36. really cool. I straightened it, I grew it

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  37. long. At one point in my life, I always

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  38. had my hair from the back. I always had it

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  39. long enough so I could tie it around my

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  40. neck, and I was really scared of cutting

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  41. it any shorter. And I was really into

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  42. anime where they had that kind of spiky

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  43. long hair, and I was into emo bands like

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  44. My Chemical Romance where they had that

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  45. long straight hair, and I thought it

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  46. looked really cool. And don't get me

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  47. wrong, it does look cool on some guys if

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  48. they have a good-looking face. And I'm

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  49. assuming, well, if you're watching this

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  50. video, you probably don't have a

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  51. good-looking face, otherwise you won't

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  52. really have problems with getting a

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  53. girlfriend. So most of us guys look kind

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  54. of stupid if we have long spiky hair. And

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  55. as, as cool as you may think you look,

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  56. um, in reality you probably look kind of

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  57. weird and stupid. I mean, look at the kind

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  58. of hairstyle I had when I was 18. I looked

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  59. absolutely ridiculous, and I can't believe

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  60. I went out in public with that kind of

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  61. hair. And even when I was 22, 23,

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  62. 24, I was still having that long

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  63. hairstyle. It kind of evolved from a spiky

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  64. emo anime hairstyle to a kind of mushroom

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  65. mullet that looked absolutely terrible.

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  66. And it wasn't until I was about 26, 27

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  67. that I finally got the courage to cut it

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  68. short. And I think my hairstyle now just

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  69. looks 10 times better than it ever did in

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  70. the past. And it took a lot of courage

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  71. from me to finally be able to make it

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  72. short and make that change, but I think it

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  73. was definitely worth it. So yeah,

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  74. changing your hairstyle I think is

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  75. something you could easily do for a very

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  76. low price, a very low cost, and it just

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  77. improves your physical appearance by so

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  78. much. You might be thinking, I like my

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  79. long spiky hair that I spent 1 hour

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  80. straightening and using hairspray on.

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  81. Makes me feel unique and special. And I

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  82. don't want to look like everyone else. I

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  83. don't want to look normal. Well, there's

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  84. nothing really wrong with looking normal.

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  85. Looking normal isn't necessarily a bad

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  86. thing. There's a reason why most people

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  87. have a similar kind of hairstyle. It's

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  88. because it looks good and it looks normal.

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  89. Now, my next advice is I think a lot of

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  90. men who are single and find it difficult

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  91. finding a partner might have low

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  92. confidence problems. They might be

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  93. thinking, oh, I don't have a job, I don't

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  94. have a good job, I don't have money, I'm

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  95. not funny, I don't have a house. None of

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  96. those things really matter, though they're

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  97. nice to have and they definitely help,

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  98. but you've got to think of it as kind of

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  99. like a bonus thing. If a girl likes you

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  100. and is attracted to you, she's not really

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  101. going to care if you're homeless or

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  102. jobless or you don't have any money or you

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  103. don't know how to drive. Of those things

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  104. really matter a lot. They're nice little

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  105. bonus things that will make her like you

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  106. more, you know, in a tiny way. But in

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  107. the overall picture, if she likes you,

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  108. she's going to like you. And if she

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  109. doesn't like you because you don't have a

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  110. car or you don't have a good job or you

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  111. don't have a house, then she's not a good

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  112. woman to be with in the first place. If

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  113. she's the kind of woman who's going to

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  114. reject you just because you don't have

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  115. certain things and you can't do things for

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  116. her like driving her around, then you're

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  117. better off without her. She's not a good

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  118. woman. Say goodbye to her and don't be sad

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  119. about it, because if she just wants to be

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  120. with someone because they're able to do

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  121. things for her, then I'm sorry to break

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  122. it to you, but she doesn't sound like a

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  123. very good person to be with in the first

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  124. place. One type of comment that kind of

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  125. pisses me off a lot is when people say,

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  126. of course that girl didn't like you. What

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  127. do you bring to the table? You don't have

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  128. anything to offer her. As if I have to

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  129. offer her anything. Obviously, if I like

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  130. the girl, I'm going to naturally want to

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  131. be able to do things for her, and I want

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  132. to be able to provide for her and do

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  133. things for her. But if the sole reason

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  134. that she rejected me is because I am

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  135. unable provide certain things.

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  136. Well, to be honest, she doesn't sound like

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  137. a very nice person to be with. I don't

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  138. want to be with someone just because I am

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  139. able to drive them around, or I am able to

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  140. provide them with a home, or I am able to

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  141. provide them with money and material—

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  142. materialistic goods. Obviously, I would

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  143. like to be able to provide them those

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  144. things, but if the only reason they want

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  145. to be with me is because I can provide

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  146. those things, then I don't think I want to

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  147. be with them in the first place. I want to

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  148. be with a woman who likes me for who I am

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  149. as a person, not because I'm able to drive

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  150. a car. So as a man, never feel pressured

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  151. into having to offer something or being

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  152. able to bring something to the table. Um,

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  153. it's 2020. The woman can also bring stuff

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  154. to the table. There's nothing stopping her

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  155. from being able to learn to drive herself,

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  156. being able to earn her own money, being

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  157. able to provide herself with a shelter.

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  158. So in response to those idiots who like to

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  159. say, what do you bring to the table?

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  160. Number one, the table doesn't exist. And

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  161. what I bring to it, if there was one, is

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  162. me, my personality, who I am, what I stand

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  163. for. And if that's not good enough, then

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  164. you can pee off. So my point was, after

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  165. that whole little rant, was if you are

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  166. jobless, if you are homeless, if you don't

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  167. have much money, then don't worry about

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  168. it. Those things aren't really going to

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  169. stop you from finding a good partner, and

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  170. if she is a good person, she won't, um,

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  171. she won't let those things stop her from

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  172. wanting to be with you. For the last 10

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  173. years, I've mostly been unemployed, I've

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  174. mostly not had my own home, I've mostly

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  175. not had much money, and that never really

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  176. stops me from finding a girlfriend, and it

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  177. shouldn't stop you. Now the most important

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  178. thing you need to do is you need to get

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  179. yourself out there. How is your partner—

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  180. how is your potential future partner going

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  181. to know about you if they don't even know

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  182. about you? If you're just hiding in your

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  183. room playing video games, there could be

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  184. 20,000 potential future mates for you.

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  185. They won't even know you exist. So you

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  186. have to get your existence out

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  187. there and let people know that you're

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  188. there. And the best way to do this is by

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  189. socializing, networking, going to clubs

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  190. and parties. Now, if you're like me and

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  191. you don't really like socializing and you

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  192. don't like parties or clubbing, um,

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  193. things do get a little bit tricky. But

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  194. don't worry, it's not impossible. My best

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  195. advice would be to follow in my footsteps

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  196. and go and stay in a guest house in Japan,

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  197. because a guest house is a great way to

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  198. live with a bunch of strangers and

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  199. you're going to be with them on a daily

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  200. basis getting to know them. They'll be

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  201. getting to know you, and you never know,

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  202. you might be able to find a girl who likes

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  203. you. And I've managed to find 4 different

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  204. girlfriends by staying in guest houses,

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  205. and I didn't even really do anything to

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  206. attract them to me. I was just there at

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  207. the guest house and I magically got these

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  208. girlfriends without really putting in any

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  209. effort into it. So in just the space

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  210. of a few years, by staying in a guest

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  211. house, I was able to get 1 French

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  212. girlfriend, 2 Korean girlfriends, and a

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  213. Japanese girlfriend. And that's, that's

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  214. pretty good, I think, from considering

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  215. that I'm a pretty withdrawn introvert with

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  216. bad social skills, and I had really

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  217. stupid-looking hair back then. And I was

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  218. able to get these girlfriends just by

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  219. being in a guest house. Now, Um, just

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  220. because you're going to Japan doesn't

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  221. necessarily mean you have to have a

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  222. Japanese girlfriend. They could be from

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  223. any other country, and if you're living in

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  224. a guest house, there's going to be lots of

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  225. other foreigners and foreign girls, so it

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  226. doesn't really mean you have to focus only

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  227. on getting a Japanese girlfriend. You can

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  228. get a girlfriend from any other country

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  229. just by living in a guest house. I think

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  230. it's a great way to meet people. And

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  231. another way to get your presence known is

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  232. by using dating websites. Obviously,

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  233. Tinder, and there's loads of other dating

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  234. websites you need to be on. Just make a

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  235. profile on every single website, take some

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  236. nice photos, write some things about

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  237. yourself. It doesn't matter if it's true

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  238. or not. Basically what you want to do is

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  239. get the attention of a potential future

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  240. mate. And in my personal case,

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  241. in my experience, making a YouTube channel

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  242. really helped. But not everyone has what

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  243. it takes to make a 106,000 subscriber

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  244. YouTube channel. It's not easy. It's not

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  245. something that happens overnight. It takes

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  246. a long time, a lot of dedication that some

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  247. people just aren't able to, to have.

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  248. Having a YouTube channel is kind of like a

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  249. cheat code. It's like living at a guest

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  250. house and being on dating websites, but

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  251. times 1,000. It's like doing all of that

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  252. stuff but on steroids. You've got tens of

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  253. thousands, in some cases hundreds of

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  254. thousands of people knowing about your

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  255. existence, and the likelihood that even

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  256. 0.5% of those people would be into you,

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  257. well, that's, um, that's a likelihood

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  258. that's very possible, and it just makes

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  259. the whole thing so much easier to, you

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  260. know, meet people and find your

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  261. future potential mate. So yeah, in

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  262. conclusion, um, go to Japan, live in a

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  263. guest house, and then make a YouTube

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  264. channel. Although I do understand that

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  265. Making a YouTube channel is not going to

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  266. be for everyone. Not everyone has what it

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  267. takes to make videos on a daily basis

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  268. consistently for years and years and

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  269. years, and it's not something you can just

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  270. do overnight. And not everyone's going to

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  271. be interested in doing it and putting

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  272. their face out there. I understand, you

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  273. know, it's something not everyone's

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  274. comfortable with, but if you are

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  275. comfortable with it, I would definitely

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  276. recommend doing it because it really

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  277. helped me. So yeah, those were my top

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  278. tips. I really believe that getting a good

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  279. hairstyle is very important.

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  280. And very helpful. So if my tips help you

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  281. in the future, that's great. Uh,

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