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Online dating vs real life dating

2017-01-11 · 7 min

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  1. It's been a long time since I've seen

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  2. this. It's kind of strange seeing

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  3. the outside and it's not

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  4. pitch black for a change. So weird. Do you

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  5. like my new shirt? I got it a few days

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  6. ago. I know it's not a potato, it's a

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  7. carrot, but I think that's the whole joke.

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  8. It's not really much of a joke, but I

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  9. found it funny, so I bought it. Don't

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  10. judge me. I got this as well. No!

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  11. I also got this Star Wars shirt. It's the

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  12. targeting thing when they blow up the

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  13. Death Star. I know I have a weird sense of

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  14. style. I don't know why, but for some

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  15. reason I'm attracted to those silly

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  16. t-shirts. So the time is 8 AM in

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  17. the morning. I didn't sleep all night. It

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  18. was my night off. So what did I do on my

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  19. night off, you might be asking. Um,

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  20. not much.

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  21. I spent about an hour reading about

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  22. Parkinson's disease for some reason. I

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  23. found it really interesting. It's a

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  24. disease where something happens to your

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  25. brain and it's— it loses the ability to

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  26. create dopamine, and then You slowly lose

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  27. control of your body. Oh, it's delightful.

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  28. Not. So recently I've been thinking a bit

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  29. about online dating websites, and about 6

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  30. to 7 years ago I used to be a paying

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  31. member on several online dating

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  32. websites, and people used to think I was

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  33. crazy. What, you spend that much money a

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  34. month on online dating websites? I think I

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  35. was paying around £20 a month. For— I

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  36. think it was just one website I was on and

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  37. I was a paying member. But if you think

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  38. about it, that's a lot cheaper than

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  39. actually going out and going to a club or

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  40. a bar to meet girls. Because if you go

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  41. out, you're gonna have to pay for

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  42. transport, and then you're gonna have to

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  43. pay for drinks and food. Well, you're not

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  44. just gonna go to a bar or a pub and stand

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  45. there and not have a drink or have

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  46. anything to eat. And then if you meet a

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  47. girl, you might have to buy her a drink as

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  48. well. You might have to buy her friends a

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  49. drink. Drinks aren't cheap, they're

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  50. expensive. And you're not really gonna

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  51. meet that many girls. How many girls are

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  52. gonna be in a pub or a nightclub? Not even

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  53. 100, maybe not even 50. And you're

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  54. probably not even going to have time to

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  55. talk to all of them. You might just talk

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  56. to 5 or 10. So you've just spent all this

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  57. money just to talk to maybe not even 10

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  58. girls. But with online dating, you can

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  59. reach out to hundreds of girls all over

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  60. the world. From the comfort of your own

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  61. house. You could even do it on the toilet.

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  62. You could do it half naked. And if you go

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  63. to a nightclub, you're gonna have to dress

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  64. up nicely because they have a dress code.

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  65. You can't just go there in a hoodie. No,

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  66. you have to wear a nice shirt and have

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  67. nice shoes. So you have to pay for nice

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  68. clothes as well, plus drinks, plus food,

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  69. plus transport, just for one night. And

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  70. they think I'm crazy for spending £20 for

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  71. a whole month on the dating website? The

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  72. only downside I would say is that it's

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  73. kind of hard to tell if you're really

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  74. attracted to someone just by looking at

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  75. their photo, even if they send you 50

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  76. photos and videos of themselves. When you

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  77. meet them in real person, they come across

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  78. as very different to the photos and to the

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  79. mental image that you have created of them

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  80. just from the photos and the videos. I

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  81. feel like online dating has a bit of a

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  82. negative image. It's like you've failed

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  83. finding a partner in the real world, so

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  84. you have to resort to the digital world to

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  85. find someone. I get the feeling that a lot

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  86. of people would be kind of embarrassed to

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  87. admit that they use online dating

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  88. websites. I think some people see it as a

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  89. last resort for desperate people, but I

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  90. don't see what's wrong with it. I wouldn't

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  91. mock a person just because they're using

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  92. the internet to find someone. There's

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  93. nothing wrong with that. As for me, I

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  94. found a few people online that I've

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  95. actually met in real life. I dated one of

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  96. them. For 2 months and then we broke up.

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  97. Actually, she just deleted me from her

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  98. contacts and then blocked me from Facebook

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  99. and email. So that didn't really turn out

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  100. very well. And the other people I met, I

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  101. didn't really feel like there was a

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  102. connection. We didn't feel physically

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  103. attracted to each other. For me, I feel

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  104. like I don't really have much choice

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  105. outside of online dating because I can't

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  106. stand nightclubs. I don't enjoy drinking.

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  107. I don't like loud music. I don't like

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  108. dancing. I'm such a fun person! I wouldn't

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  109. even have the confidence to go up to a

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  110. girl that I found attractive and talk to

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  111. her. I wouldn't even know what to say.

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  112. What do you say to girls? Do you need to

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  113. have some kind of cheesy pickup line

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  114. prepared? I don't even know what I'd use

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  115. as a pickup line. Hey, I'm physically

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  116. attracted to you. Can we talk? Maybe one

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  117. day I should actually make a video where I

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  118. go to a nightclub and I get someone to

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  119. film me And I just say to every girl

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  120. there, hey, I feel physically attracted to

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  121. you, and then see what their response was.

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  122. And the whole dress code thing for

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  123. nightclubs is just stupid. I remember on

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  124. the Christmas party night, I went to get

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  125. picked up by my boss, and my boss saw my

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  126. clothes, and I was wearing my uniform

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  127. underneath this hoodie. She said, Daniel,

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  128. you're not going like that, are you? It's

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  129. formal dress code. Why would you want to

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  130. wear your uniform? To a Christmas party.

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  131. And I said, I don't know because I have to

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  132. work afterwards. She said, you take off

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  133. your uniform and then you get changed and

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  134. then you come back and then you put your

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  135. uniform back on. And I was like, I didn't

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  136. know that. Why does it matter anyway? So

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  137. she made me take off my uniform and I was

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  138. freezing cold, and then we went to the

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  139. Christmas party venue and it was really

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  140. dark, so you couldn't see what anyone was

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  141. wearing anyway. It was just stupid.

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  142. What if I wanted to wear my potato carrot

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  143. shirt to a nightclub? Could you imagine

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  144. how popular I would be if I wore this to a

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  145. nightclub? Come on, no one could resist

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  146. this. That's not

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  147. a carrot, it's a potato. My manager said,

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  148. if your mates invited you to go to a

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  149. nightclub, would you go dressed like that?

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  150. And I said, yeah, but I don't have any

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  151. mates to invite me to a nightclub in the

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  152. first place. I don't have friends, so the

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  153. joke's on you. Every time an attractive

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  154. girl comes into the petrol station and I

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  155. have to serve her, after I've served her

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  156. and she's left, my coworker always goes,

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  157. Daniel, you missed your chance! You should

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  158. have asked her if she's single. You should

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  159. have told her that she's beautiful. You

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  160. should have asked her to be your

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  161. girlfriend. No, that would be weird. You

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  162. don't go into a petrol station and then

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  163. expect to be hit on. That's just creepy.

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  164. That's £5.99, thank you. Here's your

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  165. change. Would you like the receipt? Would

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  166. you like a bag? Would you like a

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  167. boyfriend? Would I like a what?

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  168. No, that's totally inappropriate. I'm not

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  169. gonna hit on customers. So, um, those are

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  170. my thoughts on online dating.

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  171. How about you? Have you had any

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  172. interesting experiences? Any humiliating

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  173. stories to share? I feel like I've made a

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  174. video on this subject before.

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