I cheated on my wife

Ahem. So I didn't really want to make this

video for obvious reasons, but since

someone else has decided to make a video

revealing my private life to everyone and

it has nearly 5,000 views now, I thought

it'd be a good idea to make my own video

telling my side of the story. So it all

started at the beginning of this year in

January when I made a video retelling my

catfish story.

Retelling my catfish story about this

Japanese woman called Tomoko who lied to

me about her age and tricked me into

thinking she was single and pretty.

I decided to retell the story because it's

been over a year since it happened and I

was out of content, so I decided it would

be a good idea to make that video and tell

all the new people to the channel about a

fairly interesting period of my life. So I

made the video, uploaded it, and then a

few days later I got a bunch of private

messages from Tomoko on Twitter. As you

can imagine, she was pretty obsessed—

upset that I made the video again. She

sent me a load of upset, angry messages

which I mostly ignored. I didn't even read

most of them. I kind of expected that she

would be upset because she doesn't really

want more people to know about the bad

things she did. She said something about

revealing our private conversations to

everyone, and I didn't really take her

seriously, but I decided to take the video

down anyway just in case. I took the video

down and I thought everything would be

okay. Then I wake up the next day and then

I started getting messages from people

sending me links to a video from her

English guy friend who, who made a video

showing those screenshots of me and

Tomoko's private conversations on Twitter.

You might already know who this friend of

hers is. He appeared a few times in her

videos when she came to London. I'm not

going to link his channel or tell you what

his channel is because I don't like him

and I don't want him to get any more

traffic out of this. I take it a lot of

you already know about this already know

what happened and have seen the video,

but just in case you haven't, here's what

he did. He basically made a video calling

me a liar and a cheater, and Tomoko sent

him screenshots of our private messages,

and he shows the private messages on his

video and then makes fun of me. Now, in my

defense, I just want to say that I, I

don't really have a defense. Everything in

the video was— is true. Screenshots are

real, they're not fake, they haven't been

photoshopped. And his translations into

English were all fairly accurate.

So let me try and explain what happened.

Sometime around last year in June, me and

my wife were having another big argument.

Can't remember why, must have been

something silly like something I said in a

livestream. Anyway, we were having a big

argument and I was feeling upset,

emotional, depressed, kind of horny, and I

turned to the only person who I could turn

to at that time, and that was Tomoko. And

I sent her some inappropriate messages

saying that I would like to meet up with

her to have sex cereal again.

Now, to clarify, we never had cereal

again. We never met up. We, we just spoke

to each other for maybe a week or 2 on and

off, and then I kind of got bored, and

then I stopped responding to her. I'm not

trying to make excuses for what I did.

What I did was pretty bad, and I

understand that my wife was very hurt

after she found out about it. In my

defense, I wasn't serious about the

messages. I wasn't seriously thinking

about meeting up with Tomoko again and

having sex. I was probably half-naked in

bed masturbating and pretty horny, and I

just sent those messages just out of the

spur of the moment. I was just releasing

sexual energies onto her because

there was no one else. What I'm trying to

say is that I wasn't seriously thinking

about seeing Tomoko again. Anyway,

I decided to tell my wife about it, and I

sent her the link to Tomoko's friend's

video because I thought it'd be better if

she found out about it from me first

instead of from someone else or her

finding it by herself. She would

eventually— I think she would have

eventually have found the video by herself

anyway. So I decided to take

action first and make sure she finds out

about it from me first. And I explained

the whole situation, I apologized, and she

was pretty upset for a couple of days.

She didn't talk to me, but after a few

days we started talking. I apologized to

her, she forgave me, and everything's okay

now. Now I'm not trying to shift blame,

or I'm not trying to say that because she

did this then it's okay for me to do it.

What I'm trying to say is that before you

judge me too harshly, let's not forget

that my wife also did pretty much the same

thing to me earlier last year in February

with the Australian guy. If you remember

the I found the messed up— I found

something messed up on my girlfriend's

phone video, when I snooped on her phone,

looked at her messages, and I found out

that she was sending naughty messages to

the Australian guy. I miss your dick.

Does that ring any bells? I forgave her

and I didn't think of it as cheating. I

thought, well, we were having a fight,

another argument at the time, so it's

understandable why she would be talking to

the Australian guy like this. She was

upset, she was emotional. And I forgave

her. The thing is, when people have

arguments, they get upset and they do

things and they say things that they

sometimes don't mean or that they regret

saying or doing later. In adult

relationships, we say sorry and we

apologize if we do these things, and we

forgive each other and we move on and we

become stronger and grow stronger as

people. And our relationships become

stronger. Now, a lot of people might think

that this is cheating, and I'm not going

to say that it's not cheating. I believe

that there's a spectrum of cheating,

there's like a scale of cheating, and

right at the bottom of the scale would be

sexting, sending messages, and then the

next level would be going on a date and

then holding hands and then kissing, and

then right at the top, which would be

full-blown proper cheating. That would be

actually sleeping with another person.

And since I didn't actually sleep with

Tomoko again, I don't consider it as

full-blown cheating. I just think of it as

right at the bottom of the scale.

If you want my personal opinion, I didn't

think of it as cheating when my wife

messaged the Australian guy. I was upset

and hurt about it, yeah, but I wouldn't

say that she cheated me. She cheated on

me. Anyway, the point is, the fact is that

we've forgiven each other, we've decided

to move on, and we're still together for

now. And I think it's kind of pathetic of

Tomoko and her friend Connor to, um,

interfere with our marriage and try and

get us to break up. That's the only reason

why they did it, isn't it? I mean, the

only reason why they decided to expose my

messages with Tomoko was so my wife finds

out and so that she leaves me. And I think

that meddling with other people's

marriages, trying to get 2 people to break

up just because you don't like him, it's

pretty immature and pathetic. In Tomoko's

friend's video, he says himself that the

only reason he made the video was because

he doesn't like me and he wants to hurt

me. I mean, how, how How petty can you be?

Grow up, man. If your only reason to make

a video is to hurt someone out of spite

and jealousy, then I think you kind of

have to reevaluate why you're making

videos in the first place. I also think

it's kind of hypocritical of Connor to be

criticizing me of being a liar and a

cheater when he's defending Tomoko, who's

also a liar and a cheater. She lied to me

about her age. And she cheated on her

husband. How can you attack one person for

doing the things that the person you're

defending also did? And when I messaged

him on Twitter asking him about this, he

just said that because Tomoko hasn't said

anything about the situation since it

happened, then, then she's forgiven

and he forgives her. Just because she

hasn't spoken about it since it happened

doesn't mean she shouldn't be held

accountable for what she did. The fact

still remains that she lied and cheated,

and it doesn't matter how many years

passed, nothing's gonna change that fact.

He also accused me of picking on women,

which isn't true because I've made a lot

of videos picking on guys as well.

Nobita, Chris Broad, The Anime Man, Ben

Dean. There's quite a lot of guys that

I've made fun of as well. I don't just

pick on women. I did speak to Connor on

Twitter privately. In DMs, and it didn't

really lead anywhere. It just, just kind

of proved how much of a blockhead he is,

because instead of talking about it, the

only thing he wanted to do was get me to

come to a gym so he could fight me in a

ring. I don't know why he's so obsessed

with fighting me. I told him I'm 5'9, I

weigh 46 kg, and then he tells me he's

5'10 and he's 90 kg. Yeah, I wonder why I

don't want to fight someone who's double

my size. Even if I was bigger than

him, even if I was the same size as him,

I still wouldn't want to fight him because

fighting people physically doesn't

interest me. I don't have anything to gain

from beating someone up. I like to think

that I've evolved past this caveman

mentality of wanting to beat someone up

just because we don't like each other or

just because we have differences in

opinions. There's lots of people in the

world, and there's lots of people who have

different belief systems and different

ways of thinking and different opinions to

me. I don't want to beat them all up just

because I disagree with them. That's just

stupid. Anyway, this Connor guy is pretty

young, and I think he has a lot of

maturing and growing up to do, so we can't

be too harsh on him. I also think it's

kind of funny that his video exposing me

has more dislikes than likes. So thank you

guys very much. I know I did something

wrong. I shouldn't have done it, and I'm

not trying to make excuses, not trying to

lie or deflect or put the blame onto

anyone else. But, um, yeah, if you have it

in your heart to forgive me and you would

like to continue staying subscribed to me

and watch my videos, then that's very much

appreciated. But if you are disgusted, if

you felt disgusted and you don't like me

anymore and you want to unsubscribe,

that's totally understandable. I deserve

any consequences or punishments that are

coming my way for my actions.