[2024-11-25] Why i wanted an Open Relationship with my Japanese wife [kiowVArUOgo]

So I thought I'd come outside today and

talk about open relationships, something

that's been very interesting to me, an

interesting topic that I've wanted to talk

about.

A lot of people ask me, Daniel, since you

can't stop cheating and you like variety

so much, why don't you just have an open

relationship?

Why don't you ask your wife to have an

open marriage?

And first of all, she would never agree to

that, because if she would agree to it,

then I wouldn't have had any problems with

cheating.

She wouldn't have minded.

But obviously she does mind, and she gets

very upset when I

meet other women and think about other

women and even talk about other women.

So I think it's fairly obvious that an

open relationship is out of the question.

I know lots of people are happy in open

relationships, and for many people, open

relationships are a great idea.

But I think you need to have a certain

degree of self-confidence, and you need to

be able to feel comfortable with yourself

and not be a kind of person who gets very

jealous or insecure to be okay with an

open relationship.

And honestly speaking, I just don't feel

like I'm that person.

My ideal relationship would be— I would be

able to meet and kerfundle any woman that

I would like to.

Oh look, there's a boat.

Yeah, my ideal relationship would be I

would be able to meet up with any woman

that I would like to whenever I wanted to,

and then I would have a main woman and she

would only be able to see me

and she's not allowed to see other guys.

I think that would be the ideal situation,

but that's just fantasy.

That's just like what I fantasize.

I also fantasize about being a

bazillionaire and being the king of the

world and being 6 foot tall, but none of

those things are coming true anytime

soon.

And it's not really the end of the world

if they don't come true.

Sometimes you just have to accept the

facts that we aren't the king of the

world.

We're just regular people who

have to be happy with what we have and

understand that we can't have everything

that we want to have in life.

And it kind of sucks.

Wow, look at all this homeless stuff.

Do you think it's his?

I saw him walking away from this area, and

there's, there's a log,

and there's a load of rubbish over here.

Oh, there's like a weird opening here as

well.

I'm not sure.

There's no one there.

Oh, there's a sign.

What does it say?

It's a warning sign saying you're not

allowed to just set things up here.

Someone just set up a little shelter there

and there's a warning sign saying

something about

The warning sign.

The warning sign says please remove it by

that date, otherwise they're going to come

and remove it for them.

It's kind of nice of them to give him a

warning though.

Please come and collect your rotting

bamboo mat and your plastic box before we

come and do it for you.

Very polite.

Uh, what was I talking about?

Oh yeah, Japanese— I mean, open

relationships.

Even if my wife agreed to having an open

relationship, I don't think I would be

happy with an open relationship either,

because even though it sounds great— I get

to kerfuffle any woman that I would like

to, I can just go and meet anyone I wanted

to without being punished or without being

shouted at or without having her get

upset— that sounds not too bad.

I wouldn't mind that.

But the problem is it would mean that she,

she also gets to meet any guy she wants

to, and she also gets to kerfuffle anyone

that she would want to.

And my wife is a woman, and let's face it,

she's going to have a much easier time

finding other men than I am going to have

an easy time finding other women.

Let's face it, I'm not exactly the most

handsome looking guy out there.

I don't really have very good social

skills.

I'm not good at charming people.

I find it very difficult to get women

attracted to me.

But she's, she's a decent-looking woman,

decent-looking lady.

All she has to do is go to a bar, stand

around for a few hours, and a bunch of

guys would probably approach her and start

talking to her.

And even if no one talked to her, she

would just have to go up to some guy and

talk to them because she's not scared of

talking to strangers like I am.

And

it's not really the same when you compare

women to men.

For example, you could get a woman to go

out on the streets and ask 100 men if they

would like to you-know-what.

But if I did the same thing, if I went out

onto the streets and asked 100 women if

they would like to you-know-what, I would

delete my YouTube channel if even one

person would say yes.

Come on, not even one girl is going to

say, sure, I don't know who you are and

You look kind of weird and you've got

terrible skin.

Sure, let's go to a hotel.

That's never gonna happen.

So, um, what's my point?

My point is that if my wife agreed to an

open marriage, that means she could just

easily get

loads of other guys, guys who are going to

be better looking than me, more

interesting than me.

And I just wouldn't be happy with that.

I know it sounds hypocritical because I'm

saying that I would like to see other

women, but I don't want her to see other

men, but that's just how I feel.

I wouldn't feel comfortable.

I just wouldn't really feel comfortable

knowing that my wife is chatting to a

bunch of other guys.

It would make me feel very insecure and

very jealous, and I don't see myself being

happy with that kind of situation or that

kind of agreement.

So yeah, those were my thoughts on open

relationships.

I think I would be unhappier, more unhappy

in an open relationship than I would be in

a closed-off relationship,

even though I have this desire for

variety.

I think being in a committed, loyal

relationship Even though it's less

exciting, I think in the long run that

would lead to more happiness than an open

one would.

Because imagine if I met some girl and she

was amazing, and then she wanted an open

relationship, and then I had to say yes to

it or else she was going to leave me.

I think that'd just be a very depressing

way to live.

Yeah, not for me.

Not for me.

So yeah, those are my thoughts on open

relationships.

I don't think an open relationship would

be the best thing for me since I have such

a fragile state of mind.

I think I would actually be—

I would be more unhappy in an open

relationship than I would be in

a closed relationship.