I think my girlfriend is trying to emotionally blackmail me with her daughter

Hey, so sometimes I feel like my

girlfriend is trying to use her daughter

to emotionally blackmail me. And what I

mean by that is sometimes she says things

like, like she says that her daughter is

really looking forward to seeing me again

and that her daughter really likes me.

And it feels like she's trying to make me

feel like her daughter really likes me so,

so that I feel more welcome in the

relationship, so that I don't feel like

I'm hated by her daughter. Something that

worried me a lot about this relationship

was Is her daughter going to like me?

Obviously, I don't want her daughter to

hate me because that would make things

very awkward. For example, when I told my

girlfriend that I was going back to Japan

in July to see her again, she said that

her daughter was excited and looking

forward to seeing me again. And I don't

think she's lying about this. I think

she's telling the truth, but there was

something inside of me that kind of made

me wonder, is she just saying that? Is she

like over-exaggerating it? To make me

happy, to make me want to go back to Japan

more. The other day when I was speaking to

my girlfriend on the phone, um, her

daughter was also there, so we spoke on

the phone, the 3 of us, and it was quite

fun. After the phone call, my girlfriend

actually told me that her daughter really

enjoyed speaking to me again and that she

wanted to speak to me again on the phone.

And again, I don't believe that she's

lying about this. Maybe she's telling the

truth, but still For some reason, I felt

like she was over-exaggerating, like she

was just saying that to try and make me

feel happy. I think that my girlfriend is

very worried if me and her daughter can

get along well or not. At the beginning of

the relationship, she seemed very worried

whether I would be put off about the fact

that she had a daughter or not, and she

kept asking me things like, are you sure

you're okay with being in a relationship

with a single mother? And I had to keep

reassuring her that I was fine with it and

that it didn't put me off being in a

relationship with her. I feel like she's

trying extra hard to make me feel like her

daughter likes me, and I can understand

that because if her daughter absolutely

hated me and we just couldn't get along,

I don't think I would be able to continue

with this relationship. The thing is,

with this relationship, it doesn't just

involve 2 people. It's not just me and

her. It involves 3 people. That sounds

kind of weird. It kind of sounds like I'm

in a threesome. For some reason, I seem to

have this tendency to believe that people

don't like me or that they dislike me for

absolutely no reason. And I think this is

one of the main reasons that I have low

confidence talking to people and I have

these social anxiety problems. For

example, when I used to go to the

guesthouses in Japan, I used to find it

extremely difficult to approach people and

to join in with group activities and just

like insert myself into a social group of

people. Because I felt like they didn't

like me. I felt like they didn't want me

there or they wanted me to go away, and I

need a lot of persuasion. I need to feel

like I'm being invited to actually be

able to join in with a group of people. I

don't think her daughter actually hates

me. It's hard to tell because sometimes

when she's really grumpy and she's crying

and she's moody, I feel like she doesn't

like me, but then she's in a bad mood, so

I guess it seems like she doesn't like

anyone. But when she's in a good mood and

we're playing, we're laughing, we're

running around, I feel like she does like

me and I feel accepted. It makes me feel

warm and fuzzy inside and I feel

comfortable with her. So when my

girlfriend says things like, my daughter

really enjoyed talking to you, or my

daughter's really looking forward to

seeing you again, it does make me feel

really happy inside and it does make me

want to go to Japan even more. So I guess

the whole emotional blackmail thing is

actually working. It was kind of funny

when we was talking on the phone. At the

time, my girlfriend was picking her

daughter up from school and she was

waiting outside the school, and when her

daughter came out of the school and

entered the car, I said hello, and my

girlfriend said that her daughter

automatically looked behind her at the

back of the car to see if I was in the

back of the car. I thought that was kind

of cute. Anyway, today's video is going to

be kind of short because I don't really

have much else to say about this topic.

So, um, yeah, I wasn't even sure if I was

going to make a video today or not because

my sister's here and my family's here,

and it's really difficult for me to make a

video when there's people in the house and

they're making noise. I really need to be

alone, and I need there to be total

silence to be able to make a video. Times

like this, I really wish I had my own

place, and I start to feel like I'm I want

to move out of my parents' and get my own

place sorted out because I really want

privacy. I don't like it when I can't make

a video, I can't do the things that I want

to do because there's people in the house

and they're preventing me. They're not

physically preventing me from making a

video or doing things that I want, but I

just— I don't feel comfortable doing the

things that I want to do when there's

people around. Anyway, most of the time my

family aren't here and I do get a lot of

time by myself when I'm at home, so that's

one of the reasons why I don't really feel

like it's worth moving out yet. Maybe it's

something I should start thinking about.