[2021-07-14] I got REJECTED AGAIN (manchester girl blocked me) [1FqaeBFg7gU]

Hey, so I have some pretty bad news.

Um, as some of you may have realized, the

main reason I came to Manchester was not

to experience the culture or the language,

but because I was going to meet a girl.

I've been chatting to this girl from

Manchester since about 2 years ago, and

we've kind of chatted on and off. Last

year we didn't really chat, but then we

started chatting again the beginning of

this year, and we talked about meeting up,

and I said I could come to Manchester and

see you if you're interested, and she

sounded really excited about that, and I

said I'd come in July, and she said,

okay, great, can't wait, and I arrived

here, I messaged her, I told her that I'm

here, and then she just started to reply

less and less. It took her a very long

time to reply, And then 2

weeks passed and I was here and I still

hadn't met her. And I was starting to

think, is she not interested anymore?

Because I've had experience in the past

where this happened. A girl messages me

and she seems really into me and

interested in meeting, and then I arrive

in where— in the place she's at, and then

all of a sudden she kind of goes silent

and then she stops messaging me much. And

that's kind of what happened here as well.

2 weeks passed and I started to get a bit

fed up because she was taking like 5 days

to reply, and I was starting to think,

oh, maybe she's not really interested.

And I decided to go onto Tinder and try my

luck on Tinder, and I had a date on Tinder

last Saturday.

So I went on this date on Tinder with this

really nice woman, and we went for coffee

just for a few hours to chat and get to

know each other. Nothing happened, and I

basically got friend-zoned straight after

the date. She messaged me and said that

she doesn't really feel like anything

would happen between us, and that's

completely okay. And as you can imagine,

I talked about the date on livestream and

in a video on my second channel, and I

guess the Manchester girl saw it and found

out. And then she messaged me yesterday

when I was streaming on Twitch saying that

she's not very happy about knowing that

I've been going on Tinder dates, and then

she said, well, if you're gonna go on

Tinder dates, then I'm not really

interested in seeing you anymore. So I

tried and explained to her that she hasn't

made any effort to come and visit me or

see me even though I've been here for 2

weeks, and I think it's pretty fair and

understandable for me to start

looking elsewhere and start going on dates

with different people because it's not

like— well, why would I be exclusive to

her when we haven't even met? And then

I've been here for 2 weeks and she's made

no efforts or shown no eagerness in coming

to see me. So I kind of just gave up on

her after 2 weeks had passed and I was

looking elsewhere. And then all of a

sudden she starts messaging me again

saying that she's upset about that and now

she doesn't want to meet me Ever.

I just don't know what she was expecting.

Was she expecting me to just sit here for

months and months and months waiting for

her to eventually decide to meet me and

just, just be patient and not meet anyone

else? That's just kind of silly. And as

you can imagine, yeah, I'm pretty

disappointed. I'm pretty upset about this.

I'm also kind of surprised, even though I

kind of tried to mentally prepare myself

that this could be a catfish or a troll,

or she could be just messing me about

because it's happened many times in the

past. But part of me, in, in my heart,

I kind of wanted it to be real and I

wanted to believe in it. Otherwise I

wouldn't have come all this way. So I feel

kind of a bit stupid that I came all this

way, spent all this money, and I've got

no one to meet, I guess, apart from,

well, Tinder dates, I guess, if I get more

dates. But that's not really what I came

here for. I really liked this girl that I

was going to meet here. She seemed nice

and she looked really cute, and I thought

she was interested in me, but I guess I

was wrong. And now I don't know if she was

trolling and stringing me along the whole

way since the beginning of this year,

which is just kind of insane to think of,

or if she was genuinely upset that I went

on a Tinder date and genuinely changed her

mind, or maybe she just never had any

intentions of meeting me in the first

place. I'm not sure which, which option is

more upsetting. So now I don't really know

what to do. The main reason I came here

was to see her, but I guess there were

also other reasons, like I wanted to get

away from my family home. I wanted to try

and get my own place and try coming to a

different city. And then people keep

saying stuff like, oh, you should have

made sure that she was real. You should

have FaceTimed her and phoned her. And the

thing is, we did. We did do video calls

and video stuff.

And there's not really any way that you

can make them prove that they're real.

They could say anything. They could— they

can actually be real, real people and show

their face and show their video. But it

doesn't really make a difference because

they can just be lying, basically. They

can just say, oh, I changed my mind, or

they could just be stringing you along.

It's just always really shocking though,

because from my point of view, my

perspective, she seemed really sweet and

kind, and then all of a sudden that

sweetness and kind facade just kind of

melts away, and then you can see what kind

of person they really are, which is just

like a horrible troll. Just feels so

deceiving because you kind of build up

this image of the person in your mind

because you've never met them before.

You, you can only build up this image of

them in your mind based off of the

interactions you had between them. And she

seemed like such a nice, nice person.

It's just really shocking. It's like the

nice person The nice version of her has

just disappeared and now it's replaced

with this kind of horrible, spiteful

person. So what is the plan now?

Another disappointment. Another

disappointing trip, just like Germany all

over again 2 years ago. Why does this keep

happening? Why do girls keep messing me

around? I feel like half of them are

trolls and then half of them were sincere,

but then they changed my mind, changed

their minds when I arrived. So now I

have to look for a place to live, which is

what I've been doing. So as you can see,

I've been doing some planning.

I've got some options. I'm looking at

Greece. Maybe in autumn

I could visit Greece. Thinking about Korea

again. I don't know if they're opening up

yet, but number one, stay in Manchester,

get apartment, seems to be the best idea.

I've been looking at some apartments,

been trying to compare them, pros and

cons. I actually found a really nice one

the other day, and you can even see the

building from my building. So you see this

building? Where's my finger? That

building. Yeah, they've got some really

nice rooms at the top floor, and it's

got an amazing view, and the rent isn't

too expensive. So I'm going to be doing

some apartment viewings in a few days.

Hopefully that goes well. Honestly, if

lockdowns were gone, I would just love to

go straight back to Japan because it's

really cheap. I don't have to get a lease,

a contract apartment. I can just book one

of those apartment hotels that are really

affordable, and then I like being in Japan

anyway. But I guess being in Manchester

will have to do because I don't really

want to go anywhere else, and then I can't

really easily go to any of the countries I

actually want to go to, like Korea or

Thailand. I feel like traveling for 2021

is just going to be a bit of a nightmare,

a bit of a hassle, and I think the

governments are making it a nightmare on

purpose to try and prevent people, to try

and make people not want to travel. They

actually just want people to stay at home,

I guess, so they can get this thing under

control. I think for travel, 2022 will be

much better. So my plan is I want to get

some place to live that's not too

expensive focus on my income

streams, try and save money for when Japan

eventually reopens. Yeah, it's unfortunate

I got tricked again by this girl, but you

know what they say, you have to risk it.

You have to, um, risk it for the gains,

or whatever the saying is. If you don't

take a gamble and put yourself at risk,

then you'll just be stuck at home. So if I

never came here to find out if she was

genuine or not, then I would never have

found out, and I would have always just

been wondering. So sometimes in life you

just have to step out your door,

see if things go well,

and, um, yeah, that's it really.