how i get so many girlfriends (as an introvert)

So today I want to talk about how I get so

many girlfriends when I don't really talk

very much, or I'm not very talkative and

I'm not a very good communicator. So one

of the main things that people seem to

find very hard to understand about me is

that how do I get so many girlfriends when

I barely speak much? When I meet people

for the first time, I don't give off a

very good impression, first impression,

because I'm very shy, I'm very anxious,

and I'm not very talkative. And I guess it

makes them question, how can I get

girlfriends when I can barely speak? How

am I supposed to go on dates when really

say much. First of all, you don't exactly

need to say much when you look like this.

But all jokes aside, I think today I would

like to explain some of my secrets and

strategies on how to get girlfriends when

you're not a very talkative person and

you're kind of introverted and don't have

very good social skills. So first of all,

I don't really believe that you really

need to have deep conversations to be able

to form some kind of romantic connection

with another person. I believe that some

talking is required, but I don't feel like

having very extremely philosophical

conversations or complex conversations

about existence and the meaning of life.

I don't really feel like that is very

important when it comes to making

girlfriends. So when I go on a date, I

don't really talk a huge amount. I like to

ask very basic questions like, what do you

like to do for fun? What is your favorite

blah blah blah? What did you do last year?

What countries have you been to? Is

usually one of my favorite questions. And

I just ask these very open-ended questions

and I let the girl do the talking because

girls love to talk and I don't really care

that much if I don't get to talk much.

I'm not there for a therapy session. I

just want to take her to a hotel. I asked

her these questions so that she can talk

and feel like, wow, Daniel is such a great

listener, I love him. So I'll ask these

questions and I'll just nod along and

pretend I'm listening, pretend I care.

And then once they finish talking, I'll

just ask them another question, and maybe

I'll just add in a tiny bit of my own

personal experience into their answer so I

can give some input into the conversation,

but I won't talk too much. Personally, I

don't believe that talking is the most

important ingredient when it comes to

falling in love or creating a strong

connection with another creature or human

being or even an animal. For example, I

was watching a movie last night on Netflix

with Nicolas Cage starring as a truffle

farmer who owns a pig that looks for

truffles. And then someone steals his pig

and then he gets upset and then he says he

wants the pig back because he loves the

pig. And I was thinking, wait, how can he

love the pig when obviously you can't talk

to the pig? And then it clicked. People

have actual genuine feelings of love

towards their pets, and obviously no one

can talk to animals. So the fact that

people have genuine feelings of love and

actually feel bonded and feel a strong

connection with their pets, like the cats

or dogs or whatever, even though they

can't talk to it, kind of proves my point

that talking a lot or having deep

conversations is not really important when

it comes to making girlfriends and falling

in love and creating strong relationships.

It actually kind of annoys me when people

say to me, how does this guy even get

girlfriends? When he obviously has

terrible social skills. He's really shy

and nervous. What does he even talk about?

And then they accuse me of only being able

to get girls because number one, I might

be rich and have a lot of money, which is

not true, I'm broke. Number 2, my parents

are rich and send me a lot of money,

which is also not true. Or number 3, I lie

to girls about having a lot of money,

which I have never done in my whole life,

and I find it extremely insulting to be

even accused of of telling girls that I'm

like this really rich stock trader who

makes thousands every month. I just find

it kind of insulting that so many people

are baffled at the idea of me even being

able to get girlfriends when, in their

opinion, I'm not very good-looking and I'm

not very talkative or funny and I don't

have any money. So it's like really

confusing to them. Maybe just some girls

actually do find me attractive. So in my

own words, I'll try and explain to you how

love works and how human beings create

strong connections and bonds with other

human beings. It has nothing to do with

talking about deep meaningful things like

religion or meaning of life or that

nonsense. It is about chemicals

in the brain, sharing life experience

together. Actually, first of all, it

begins with physical attraction. You see

the other person, they see you, and you

both find each other physically

attractive. That's where it begins. And

then you start to talk You start to

explain to each other what your values in

life are, what your hobbies are, and

either they find you funny or nice to be

around, or they don't, and then they don't

like you anymore and you never see them

again. But if you are with someone for

long enough and they like the way that you

make them feel because they feel

comfortable around you, and maybe you make

them laugh in your own quirky way, and

then you spend enough time together, and

then maybe you share some kind of powerful

life experiences which would create

synaptic nerve responses in your brain

that creates like a positive feedback loop

when you associate that person with

spending time with that person. I don't

really feel like having the ability or

inability to have deep meaningful

conversations really matters because I've

had a lot of girlfriends and had a wife

before, and I don't think I've ever had a

deep conversation about anything because I

don't really care about talking about that

stuff. And usually most of my girlfriends

don't speak English and we have that

language barrier problem. And even if I

wanted to, I can't really express my deep

feelings and thoughts about the universe

in a second or third language. Some people

are talkers, they like to talk a lot, and

maybe to them they feel like they can't

have a serious connection or relationship

unless they can have meaningful deep

conversations on a deeper level. But I'm

not really a talker, I'm more of a feeler.

If I feel comfortable and good around a

person and they also feel comfortable and

good around me, then I feel like that is

all you really need to create a good

relationship that is meaningful and has

strong connection and has emotions of

love. So if you're ever wondering, how do

I get girlfriends even though I don't

really talk a lot and I'm very shy and not

very extroverted? It's because none of

that actually matters when it comes down

to the fundamentals of relationship

building. Being a great talker or a deep

talker and connecting deeply by using

words is not really that important.

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