How to find a Japanese girlfriend [vnghaLokVws]

Hey, so one of the questions I often get

asked is, how do you get a Japanese

girlfriend? Daniel, please help me. I want

to go to Japan and get a Japanese

girlfriend. How do I do it? So I've had

around 9 Japanese girlfriends over the

course of the last 7 years, so I think I'm

qualified to speak about this. I think I

have enough experience and knowledge on

how to get a Japanese girlfriend, or at

least how I get Japanese girlfriends.

Okay, so the first thing you have to do is

you need to learn Japanese because the

majority of Japanese women do not know how

to speak English. Sure, you could find a

Japanese girlfriend without knowing how to

speak Japanese, but you would only be

limited to the Japanese women who can

speak English. And there are quite a few

Japanese women who know how to speak

English, but there's also a lot more

Japanese women who do not know how to

speak English. So if you want to gain

access to the women who do not speak

English, then you're going to have to

learn how to speak Japanese. Maybe you'll

be able to hook up with a Japanese girl

who doesn't speak English, but it's not

going to turn into a relationship. It's

very hard to be— it's very difficult to be

in a relationship with someone if you

don't understand each other or you can't

have a basic conversation. So here's how I

learned Japanese. This is how I taught

myself how to speak Japanese. Firstly, I

watched a lot of anime. You need to watch

something in Japanese so you can listen to

what natural Japanese sounds like, and for

me it was anime. I watched years and years

of anime non-stop every single day for

hours and hours, and I also used several

websites which you can Google, but the

most important thing I found was To have a

girlfriend, a Japanese girlfriend who

doesn't speak English, you need to find

one who can only speak to you in Japanese,

who isn't interested in speaking to you in

English, or doesn't have any ability to

speak to you in English. Because if they

can speak even a little bit of English,

you'll start to get lazy and you'll just

end up talking to her in English the whole

time. And that's not how you learn

Japanese. You can only learn Japanese by

actually using it, by speaking it on a

daily basis, and By having a Japanese

girlfriend— it can be an online Japanese

girlfriend, it doesn't really matter— by

having a Japanese girlfriend who you can

talk to in Japanese every day on a daily

basis really helps. And I

know some of you are going to say it

doesn't have to be a girlfriend, the same

thing can work just with friends, but

that's not true. It needs, it needs to be

a girlfriend because Trust me, if you have

a Japanese girl and she's cute and she's

sending you messages in Japanese, you're

going to want to find out what that means.

You're going to be 100% more motivated to

learn what she's saying and remember what

she's saying just because she's a cute

girl. If you're just talking to some guy

who's your friend, you're not going to

give a shit about what he's going to say

or what he's talking about. And don't give

me that rubbish about you can't speak— you

can't learn how to speak Japanese because

you're not in Japan and there's know

Japanese people where you live. If you

have the internet, then there's no

excuses. I managed to teach myself

Japanese before I even went to Japan. I

was fluent in Japanese before I even set

foot in Japan for the first time because I

spent years and years watching anime and

talking to my online Japanese girlfriend

on Skype every day for about 4 to 5 hours.

Okay, so here's the next thing. You've

learnt Japanese, you've watched a shitload

of anime, so So the next step is you need

to get onto dating websites. You can try

out japancupid.com or Tinder. For me,

Tinder works the best. So here's a trick

with Tinder. If you upgrade to Tinder

Plus, you can actually change your

location. So it doesn't matter where you

are in the world, you can change your

location to Japan or Tokyo or another

Japanese city of your picking. And I

recommend you choose the city that you're

going to. And I recommend going to either

Tokyo or Osaka.

Tokyo because there's more people there,

or Osaka because people usually in

general, they're more outgoing and I guess

friendly. That's what a lot of people say,

but I don't really see much difference

between the people in Osaka and Tokyo, so

it's up to you. So you go onto Tinder and

you need good photos. You need photos that

make yourself look good. And lighting is

very important. Natural lighting. Sit by a

window, have the light cover half of your

face, casting a shadow on the other half.

It creates a dynamic effect and it makes

your face look a lot more attractive than

just having the, the light, the lighting

straight in your face, or not having any

lighting at all and just having your face

covered in shadow. You need at least half

of your face lit with some kind of

lighting, preferably sunlight.

Okay, so now you have a profile on Tinder

with some nice photos. You need to write a

description. Just keep it short, keep it

fun. Don't write an essay describing your

personality or your hobbies because then

you'll have not much to talk about when

you do talk to someone. So this is the

best thing to do on Tinder. You just need

to search for girls and then swipe right

on everyone. Or you could press the button

at the bottom which has a heart sign and

you just tap the shit out of it and like

as many people as you possibly can.

Tapping the like button is a lot quicker

than swiping right because when you swipe

right it does this stupid animation and

that takes up valuable seconds. You need

to be hammering that button as fast as you

can. You can also get boosts which make

your own profile more visible to many more

people. So I recommend paying some money

to get some boosts now and then because it

really does help boost your profile. And

yeah, just type— I mean, just swipe right

on pretty much everyone. It doesn't matter

if you don't really like them because

you'll never actually talk to them unless

they also swipe right and match with you.

And if they do match with you, you can

just easily unmatch them. You don't have

to talk to them if you didn't actually

find them to be attractive. Just swipe

right on as many people as you can and

then check back in a few hours later or

the next day and see if you have any

messages or matches. Okay, so let's say

you logged back onto Tinder the next day

and you have some matches and you have

some people saying hi to you. Um, this is

what I usually do. If they haven't said hi

to me first, then I usually just say hi to

them and then I say How are you? I usually

start the conversation in English even

though I can speak Japanese because it's

kind of funny seeing them struggle to talk

to me in English, and then I reveal later

to them that I can actually speak fluent

Japanese, and then they, they act all

surprised and they laugh and they say,

oh, why didn't you tell me? I was

struggling in English! And it becomes like

something funny to talk about. So I

usually start off by saying hi and then

how are you? And then I usually ask

questions like, where do you live? Do you

live nearby where I live? How long does it

take you to get to where I live? Do you

live far away from where I live? I also

like to ask questions like, do you have a

boyfriend? Are you looking for a

boyfriend? What do you think about dating

foreigners? And if you want to ask other

questions like, what kind of work do you

do? Or what are your hobbies? Or what did

you do today? You can ask those, but In my

experience, those questions don't usually

lead into interesting conversations. So

after you've been chatting for a bit, if

you feel like the conversation is going

well and she's friendly and open to you,

then you can ask her for her LINE ID.

Now, if you're going to go to Japan and

you want to chat to Japanese people, you

really need to download this app called

LINE. It's basically the Facebook of

Japan, Japan's equivalent of Facebook.

It's the main messaging app that everyone

uses here. And it's really good to get

girls off Tinder and then onto LINE

because for Japanese girls, talking to

someone online is more of a personal

experience. They don't usually just hand

out their LINE IDs to any stranger. It's

kind of like the modern-day version of

asking a girl for her phone number. If

you've gotten to the point where you're

friends with the girl online, where she's

given you her ID online, then there's an

80% chance, a very high chance, that she's

interested in meeting you. So you need to

express your interest in meeting her

fairly soon, otherwise it might seem to

her that you're not interested in her. So

I think you need to ask her pretty soonish

if she's interested in meeting. Don't

pressure her though, just ask it casually.

And if she says yes, then that's great,

and you need to think about what kind of

place are you going to go to. Are you

going to go for a meal? Are you going to

go shopping? Are you going to go to

karaoke? Now, in my experience, most of

my dates have been at restaurants, and I

really hate restaurants because I find it

very awkward. I don't like being

surrounded by strangers whilst I have a

conversation with a stranger.

Also, sometimes I get worried about

spitting food out of my mouth when I'm

talking whilst eating or after eating.

That kind of worries me because it would

be very embarrassing. So I don't really

like going out to eat when I'm going on a

date. One of my favorite things to do for

a date is to go shopping. For example,

you could go to a shopping mall or a

shopping center and just walk around

there, go to, go to the shops, look in the

shops, and just look around.

There's lots of things to talk about

because you can talk about the things that

are being sold. If you find a shop that

sells interesting things, then that's

great because it takes the pressure off

having to find things to talk about

because you have loads of things right in

front of you to talk about. Also, you

could try going to a clothing shop and you

can try trying on the clothes with the

girl and you can ask her what she thinks,

if she likes the way it looks or not, or

if it suits you. And I think that going

shopping as a date, for a date,

is a pretty good idea and it It's a lot

more easier to do than going to a bar,

which can be very noisy and full of

people, or going to a restaurant, which

can be very noisy or full of people. I

don't think making a move during the date,

during the first date, is a very good

idea. I don't think trying to kiss the

girl or trying to hold her hands on the

very first date straight away is a good

idea. So what I usually do is I don't

attempt to do anything on the first date

and And after the date's over, I'll send

her a message asking her if she likes me

or not, if she wants to see me again. And

sometimes I'll say something like, next

time we meet, can I hold your hand? Or

next time I meet— next time we meet, can I

touch you? And if she says yes, then

that's great. If she says no, then it

doesn't matter because she's not

interested in you. I think it's very

important to be flirty and give her the

impression that you're interested in her

sexually whilst texting her or messaging

her before you meet or after you meet.

Because if you, if you're just really

friendly and polite all the time, it might

just seem like— it might seem like you're

not interested in her in that way. She

might think that you're only interested in

her as a friend. So what I usually do is I

try and be as flirty and pervy as I

possibly can in messengers and whilst

chatting to them online. And if they like

it, then that's great. That means they're

interested in you as well in that way.

But if they're disgusted or they, or they

end up blocking you or ghosting you

because they don't feel comfortable with

your, with your pervy chat-up lines, then

it's better to know that they're not

interested in you and just move on to the

next one then. Have it drag out. It's just

such a waste of time to be chatting and

meeting up with girls who aren't

interested in you. And the way to find out

if they're interested in you or not is by

being really pervy when you talk to them.

And if they respond in a pervy way, then

you'll know that they're interested in

you. There was this one time when I was

chatting to this Japanese girl, and I met

up with her several times, and I was never

pervy. I was always really friendly and

nice. And I was like a gentleman, and she

wasn't interested in me because after

meeting her for about 4 times, we met up,

we did shopping, we did dates, I asked her

if she wanted to be my girlfriend and she

said no, she's not interested in that. So

I just wasted all this time talking to her

and meeting up with her and she wasn't

even interested in me in that way.

And if I was just more pervy with her from

the beginning. If I asked her that

question from the beginning, then I would

have found out if she was interested in me

or not much faster, and I wouldn't have

had to waste so much time. Anyway, those

were just some of my tips for how to find

a Japanese girlfriend. Maybe I'll make a

part 2 to this video because I feel like

I've missed out a lot of things I should

have said. I don't have any more time. I

need to finish the video right now. My

girlfriend's coming home soon, and I still

haven't finished doing the laundry.