I had a huge argument with my wife

I had a huge argument with my wife a few

days ago. It started off as a perfectly

normal day. She came home from work in the

afternoon and we did the whole hanami

thing. Hanami is when Japanese people go

absolutely crazy over cherry tree blossoms

and they buy food and cheap beer and they

sit underneath a cherry tree that's

blossoming and they have a picnic. So we

did the whole picnic thing and it was

okay, I guess. I'm not that fascinated by

cherry tree blossoms. I guess they look

pretty, but they're not— it's just, just a

bunch of white flowers really. After we

finished our hanami picnic, we went

shopping and I bought some black trousers.

I bought these black trousers, and I think

they look pretty nice. We came back in the

evening and she started watching some of

my really old YouTube videos from October

and November last year, and she saw one

video that she hasn't seen before where I

say something about meeting a Japanese

woman 4 weeks ago. And I said this in

November, so that would have meant that I

met this Japanese woman after I met my

wife, and she wasn't really happy about

this. I had to come clean and I had to

tell her that I did meet up with a few

Japanese women after I met her. As you can

imagine, she wasn't really happy about

this, and we stayed up until 4 AM talking

about things. And I said I was sorry that

I didn't tell you about it earlier, and I

tried to keep it secret. And she seemed

okay, she seemed like she'd forgiven me.

So we went to sleep, and we woke up the

next day, and we had some cereal. And she

left for work, she said goodbye, she gave

me a kiss, and I thought everything was

okay. So I decided to do a livestream on

that day after she went to work, and I

started ranting about things, about the

argument. About things I always rant

about, like the Australian guy. And she

was watching the stream. I don't know if

she was watching the whole stream. I think

she was just watching maybe 20 or 30

minutes of it when she was on her lunch

break. And then she started sending me

messages on WhatsApp, and we had this

argument whilst I was livestreaming. And I

went quiet for a bit because I was trying

to concentrate on talking to her. And then

I ended the livestream because I had to— I

wanted to focus on trying to fix things.

And she was getting more and more paranoid

and suspicious that I was cheating on her

back in October. Or November, and she

demanded that I show her all those videos

that I privated on my YouTube channel.

And I didn't want to show her the privated

videos, not because I had something to

hide, but because I wanted her to trust

me. I wanted her to believe me when I said

that I wasn't cheating on you. And I felt

kind of hurt that she didn't believe me,

she didn't trust me, and she wanted to see

these videos so desperately. And I said,

no, I don't want to show you the videos.

You should trust me. You should believe me

when I say that I wasn't cheating on you

in October. And I said, I don't know how I

can be in a relationship with someone who

doesn't trust me, and you should respect

my privacy. She said that she couldn't

believe that I wouldn't show her the

privated videos, and she was convinced

that I was cheating on her because I

refused to show her the private videos.

And then she went completely quiet. I kept

sending her messages, but she wouldn't

reply to me. I knew she was reading the

messages because there were 2 blue ticks

on WhatsApp, which means she read the

messages. So I thought maybe she's just

busy at work, and I waited until 9 PM,

which is when I thought she finished work.

And I sent her a few more messages and she

read them, 2 blue ticks, and she still

didn't reply. I waited and I waited. It

was half past 9, still no reply. 10

o'clock, still no reply. And I was just

wondering, why isn't she replying?

Where's she gone? Why hasn't— why hasn't

she come home? And I started to get very

angry. I started to get really irritated.

How could you just ignore me when we're

having an important conversation like

this? How could you just ignore me, not

reply to me, and then not even come home

and not even tell me where you're going or

if you're gonna come home late or not. So

I put on my shoes and I went outside. I

went to the train station to try and look

for her because she said last time we had

an argument, she sat outside the train

station for a few hours just moping

around, and I thought maybe she'll be

around the train station. So I searched

around the train station for an hour or 2.

I searched all around the train station

and I couldn't find her. I went to the

park, I couldn't find her. I walked up and

down the streets around the train station,

I couldn't find her. After around a few

hours of searching for her, I finally gave

up and I went to stand in front of the

convenience store which is next to the

train station. And around half past 11, I

finally found her. She walked straight

past me, right in front of me, and she

didn't even notice I was standing there.

And then I started following her, and then

she turned right and she finally noticed

that I was behind her. And I stopped her,

and then we had this argument outside on

the street. I said, why didn't you tell me

where you were? Why didn't you reply to

me? Why— Did you come home so late? Where

have you been? I was so angry. I was so

irritated that she just ignored me and

didn't reply to me and didn't even tell me

that she was going to come home late. I

know we were arguing, but she should at

least say if she was going to come home

late, not just leave me hanging and making

me worried like that. She smelt like

alcohol and she said she was out drinking

with her friends. And I said, why didn't

you tell me you was out drinking? Why

didn't you send me a message or reply to

me? And she said her phone battery died.

Which is a load of rubbish because she

read my messages and she chose not to

reply to them. We carried on arguing on

the way back to the apartment, and we got

home and we were still arguing, and I was

getting kind of fed up, so I just gave in

and I decided to show her the videos I

have privated on my YouTube channel.

After she watched about 5 or 6 of the

private videos, she seemed pretty

convinced that I wasn't cheating on her

last year, and she laughed. She said, why

did you make such a big fuss about this?

Why Why didn't you just show me these

videos earlier? And then we could have

avoided this whole situation. We could

have avoided this argument. And I said

that I didn't want to show you the videos

because I wanted you to trust me. I wanted

you to believe me when I said that I

wasn't cheating on you last year. It was a

matter of principle. I felt kind of hurt

that she didn't trust me. I guess it was

kind of my fault because I put so much

effort into keeping these videos hidden,

and it must have seemed really suspicious.

To her, it must have seemed like I was

hiding something, so I can't really blame

her for not trusting me after I refused to

show her these secret videos for such a

long time. I think everything's okay now.

We made up. She's not angry anymore. I'm

not angry, and hopefully this is the last

time we argue about YouTube.

We're in a park to see the cherry

Cherry blossoms.

It's fast in the evening.

It's not that interesting.

Jesus.

教えて。うん、わかんないよ。うん。 涼

しい。 見

た よね。 や っぱ り 見 た よね。 今 の

行 く わ け ない。 And

I went through 4 pages of search results

on Google looking, trying to find

something interesting about him, and I

couldn't find anything. And I said to my

wife, there's nothing interesting about

him when I Google his name. Why were you

so worried about me Googling his name?

Before I Googled his name, I asked her,

if I Google his name, will I find

something disturbing or shocking about him

or about you. And she said, no, you won't

find anything. So I said, so what are you

worried about? And she said that she's

worried about me finding his Facebook and

contacting him or adding him to my

friends. And she was very serious about

it. She made me promise not to send him a

message or not to add him to my friends on

Facebook. So I said, okay, I won't message

him. It's not like I was planning on—