[2024-12-07] my japanese ex wife reported me too the POLICE [sAtDH0j74DQ]

As some of you may know, I got into some

trouble with the Japanese police earlier

this year when I went to Japan, and it was

basically because I was stalking my

ex-wife, which I still disagree with.

So they actually told me that I'm not

allowed to talk about this on YouTube, but

since I'm not in Japan anymore and they

can't really tell me what to do, I'm gonna

tell the story anyway.

And it all started when I was planning

this trip to Japan and I really wanted to

stay in a guest house, and I found this

really cheap decent-looking guest house

that was just 10 minutes walk away from

where I used to live with my ex-wife in

Japan.

It's basically in the same neighborhood,

and I thought, wouldn't it be funny if I

just moved in down the street to my

ex-wife?

I didn't think she would be so upset or

triggered about it.

I thought she would also find it funny,

but I guess I was kind of wrong.

I thought it'd be a nice trip down memory

lane, and to me personally, that area is

kind of a special sacred holy ground

because a lot of very important things

happened when I was living in that place.

My YouTube channel blew up, I got a visa

to live in Japan, I kind of transitioned

from being a stupid little kid to becoming

more of an adult with a wife and a proper

relationship.

And I feel like when I was living there, I

achieved a lot of my goals in life.

And because of those reasons, that place

will always be special to me.

So I wanted to revisit it.

I wanted to have a look at the place again

after— it's been about 5 years since I was

last there.

And even though I thought it would be a

fun time being back there again, it turns

out it was really not a good idea to go

back there.

And it made me feel incredibly sad and not

really good for my mental health.

It just brought back all those memories of

things like, oh, do you remember when

hundreds of thousands of people used to be

interested in me and my life and my

YouTube channel, and I could easily get

loads of views, 50K views, 60K views, and

now everyone's gone?

Basically 95% of the viewers are gone.

And even though I'm back in the same place

where it all started, everyone's moved on.

It's just me here remaining now.

But there was one person who was still

there, my ex-wife.

And because I felt like she was still

there, it made me feel warm inside in a

way.

But then I started to get worried.

I started to feel like, what if she's not

here?

What if she moved away and she didn't tell

me or didn't tell anyone, and there's

actually no one in that apartment anymore?

So I started to get a little bit freaked

out that maybe I'm still in the place, but

everyone that I knew in the place has now

left.

And I had to confirm, just to make myself

feel better, I had to confirm whether she

was still living there or not because it

was important to me.

So all I wanted to do was swing by the old

apartment and check to see if the lights

were on so I could confirm that she's

still there or not.

And I wasn't gonna do anything weird.

I wasn't gonna wait by the entrance or

wait by the door to confront her.

I'm not that crazy.

I just wanted to check to see if she was

still there or not.

So I went to the apartment around 8 PM

expecting that she would be back from work

and she'd be having dinner or getting

ready for bed because it was Monday and

she would have work the next day.

But I go there and the lights are off, and

I thought, that's kind of weird.

Maybe she's just doing overtime and she's

back late.

So I go to the park nearby and I sit there

and I wait for about an hour.

And then I go back to the apartment around

9 and the lights are still off.

And this is just making me feel even more

freaked out and kind of uneasy about the

whole situation.

So I go back to the park, wait another

hour, go back to the apartment, it's about

10 PM now, the lights are still off.

I do this again, I go back to the park,

come back an hour later, and the lights

are still off and now it's 11 PM.

And I'm thinking, this is kind of weird.

Maybe she's out drinking with friends,

maybe she's on a trip with family and

she's staying the night over there.

Why is she not back yet when it's nearly

midnight and she would obviously have work

the next day, so she can't be doing an

all-nighter?

So I have now waited for about 4 hours

trying to achieve this mission and I'm

getting a little bit frustrated 'cause I

didn't want to have to go home and just

have wasted 4 hours and not have found out

what I wanted to find out.

So I looked up when is the last train

coming because she would definitely be

back on the last train.

And I thought, if the last train comes and

goes and she's still not back, then I have

to give up because she's obviously not

coming home tonight.

And I thought, what if she's at a guy's

house?

What if she spent the night with some kind

of hookup or date, or she's seeing some

guy and she's sleeping the night over at

the guy's house?

This made me feel very upset.

So I decided to look up when the last

train was, and it said something like half

past 12, 12:20, after midnight.

And I see the last train come.

I see the lights of the train come and go.

And I remembered it took about 5 or 6

minutes to walk from the train station

back to her apartment.

So I didn't want to go and check now

because if I was between the apartment and

the train station now and she's coming

home now, she would see me on the road.

So it was kind of risky.

So I wait patiently for about 5 minutes,

which is enough time to give her to get

from the train station back to her home.

So I timed it perfectly actually.

So I waited about 5 or 6 minutes and I got

up from the park, started heading towards

her apartment, and there's no one on the

street.

It's completely dark apart from a few

streetlights.

And I turned the corner to enter the

street that goes straight to her house,

and I see the silhouette of a very small

woman wearing a dress.

And it looked just like her, the way she

walked, the way she moved.

I was 100% convinced it was her.

So I'm very far away from her.

To me, she's like this small in the

distance.

She doesn't turn around and I followed her

for about 30 seconds and I see her go to

the left towards the building we used to

live in and then she disappears.

And I think, oh, that has to be her.

So I walked past the apartment and I see

the lights turn on and I see a shadow

behind the curtains and I think, okay,

that's what I wanted, that's what I came

for, I feel satisfied.

That was definitely her, she's still here.

I thought to myself, okay, maybe I've lost

95% of my viewers, maybe I fell off and my

YouTube career has come to an end.

But at least she's still there.

One of the things that was like a major

part of my life back then, she's still

there.

It gave me this feeling of comfort.

I felt safe in some way that not

everything has disappeared from my

previous old life and there's still

remnants of it that exists in a way.

So I felt satisfied seeing her there and I

thought to myself, I have to keep this

secret.

I can't tell anyone what I did tonight.

And unfortunately I did a stream next day

and I couldn't contain my excitement and I

blabbed about how I saw her.

And that was not a good idea because the

next day I got a knock on the door that

went like this.

And I was just really confused.

I thought it can't be my roommate because

I can hear him talking in his room.

It might be some kind of dangerous

criminal type of people who tracked me

down because I was badmouthing them on my

livestream.

They found out about it and they, they

found out where I lived and they wanted to

come pay me a visit.

I thought maybe it could be dangerous.

And then I thought actually maybe it's

just the guesthouse manager and he's seen

my YouTube

channel and he's not happy with something

I've done or said on my YouTube channel

about the guest house and he wanted to

come and have a chat with me.

So I opened the door thinking, oh, it must

be the guest house manager, and I see

these 2 Japanese people, uh, kind of

short-looking, middle-aged, maybe in his

50s or late 40s Japanese man and also a

Japanese lady who was also around the same

age.

And they say hello in Japanese and they

take out their badges and they show me

their badges and I thought, okay, now I

know who they are.

They're the police.

Why are the police here?

And then they say to me, Daniel, why do

you think we're here?

Do you think you might have an idea about

why we're here?

And I say, is it because of my ex-wife?

And they say, correct.

Would you mind coming with us to the

police station to have a chat with us?

And I'm so scared.

I thought, oh my God, what did I do?

Did I do something illegal?

Am I going to be taken to court or sent to

jail?

Am I going to go to prison?

Am I going to be arrested?

I was so scared I started having this

little mini panic attack where my

breathing became very rapid and very fast.

I felt like I needed oxygen.

I was just rapidly breathing like, like

that.

I could barely speak.

And they just say, just take a minute,

relax, just breathe, calm down,

everything's okay.

And they try and calm me down because I

was about to freak out.

I have never been in trouble with the

police before.

I was very scared.

And they just say, Bring your bag, bring a

few things like your phone, your

documents, your passport.

And they asked me if I have anything

dangerous, like a dangerous weapon, in my

bag.

And the policeman was standing there with

his hands out of his pockets in this kind

of action pose, ready to lunge at me in

case I did pull out a knife or something.

He was watching me very carefully.

He was like 100%— his gaze was on me for

the entire time, and he was like I said,

ready to jump at me in case I was going to

do anything dangerous.

So I could really sense they're really

alert, and it was kind of weird to be

suspected of being a dangerous person

because I'm not a dangerous person at all.

I would never do anything violent.

So they escort me out of the building,

they get me to stand in the middle, and we

walked single file with the lady in front

of me and the man behind me in case I

tried to run away, I guess.

So they take me to the police car.

It wasn't like a black and white police

car with sirens, it was an unmarked police

car because they were detectives and not

police officers, I guess.

So they were quite high-ranking, I guess,

in the police hierarchy.

And then I get into the police car and

they drive us to the police station.

It was quite far away actually, it took

about 10 minutes, 15 minutes to drive.

And they start chatting with me in the

police car, asking me things about my

YouTube channel, about my marriage, about,

you know, what I'm doing in life right

now, what I've been up to, asked me about

my, my time living in Thailand, everything

really, just to try and get to know me, I

guess, or to make me feel comfortable.

We arrive at the police station, and it's

my first time ever being in a Japanese

police station, so it was kind of

interesting.

I was looking around very interestedly,

looking at everything that's happening in

there.

It was pretty cool, I guess.

They take me to this little room down the

corridor.

It's a very small room, and it's got a

little desk and little chairs, and they

sit me down.

And basically, I'm about to get

interrogated in a very friendly way.

They were very friendly.

They weren't being intimidating or scary

or slamming their hands down on the desk

or anything.

They were just very curious about why I

did what I did, and they got me to explain

what happened.

I had to tell them about how I went to my

ex-wife's apartment, I saw her, and I

followed her, and I waited outside and

everything.

I had to explain why I did that and

exactly every single detail, because they

knew all of it.

Because Chihiro, my ex-wife, found out

about it because I talked about it on the

stream, so she obviously reported me to

the police.

Told them what I was doing and that I was

dangerous or I was being a creep or

something and they wanted to find out.

So I told them the entire story and then

they told me basically I have to stop

doing that because what I'm doing is

basically stalking.

And they gave me this little leaflet which

is a leaflet talking about why stalking is

bad and things you shouldn't be doing

because they count as stalking.

So inside of this leaflet it's got these

little boxes and each box is an action

that counts as stalking.

Things like sending rude messages or

harassing her or her family members and

friends or tagging her with a GPS device

all falls under stalking.

So they gave me this pamphlet to educate

myself so I don't accidentally stalk her

again, and they basically tell me, you're

not being arrested, you're just being

warned that what you're doing can be

considered illegal.

And we're just going to give you a

warning, but don't do this ever again.

Don't go anywhere near where she lives.

Don't try and follow her.

Don't try and message her.

They made me delete all my messages with

her that I had.

Some messages on Facebook because we

talked a little bit in 2021, so I had to

delete her from Facebook.

They made me delete every kind of contact

of her that I had, and they also made me

take down all of my live streams that I

did since getting to Osaka because I did

about 10 livestreams where I was just

non-stop talking about her.

So I had to take down all the livestreams

where I was talking about her or walking

around her area or her neighborhood.

That's why about 8 livestreams just

suddenly disappeared, and I couldn't

really explain why because they told me

that I wasn't allowed to talk about it.

I asked them, uh, can I talk about this on

my YouTube channel?

And they just said no, that's probably not

a good idea because it'll just make things

worse.

So I wasn't allowed to talk about the

situation.

Viewers kept asking me, Daniel, what's

going on?

Why are you removing streams?

Why are you being weird?

And I just couldn't explain because I was

really scared that the police were going

to come and knock on my door again and

say, Daniel, you said you weren't going to

talk about what happened and you talked

about it.

We're going to have to have a chat again.

So I was really scared they were going to

come to my room again and knock on the

door, and this time I'd actually get

arrested.

Then at the end of the whole session, they

got out this piece of paper, like a form.

I had to fill out my details.

And there's this box that said, how am I

feeling?

So they asked me to write down how I'm

feeling, which I thought was kind of

weird, and it kind of triggered this

emotional response out of me.

So I wrote, I'm feeling really sad about

the fact that my ex-wife just reported me

to the police when I thought we were kind

of at least not enemies.

I thought maybe we could be friends after

this whole thing, maybe meet up, do a

livestream together, do like a reunion for

content, and try and have a good time and

like re-spark the old days of when we were

married.

But I guess she didn't want any of that

and wanted me to stop it and then got the

police involved.

So I wrote down I felt sad, and as soon as

I started writing down my feelings, I just

started crying.

I couldn't stop it.

All these tears started coming out.

I started crying quite a lot actually, and

they gave me some tissues and they just

asked me why I was crying.

I just said, I just, I can't believe it.

I can't believe she hates me so much that

she would report me to the police.

And I was just in shock, basically.

I was just really shocked.

So anyway, they take me back to the guest

house, drive me back.

He even escorted me out of the police car

back to the guest house entrance and held

an umbrella up for me because it's raining

quite heavily.

And then he just says, keep out of

trouble, Daniel.

Hope we don't see you again.

And I say, yeah, thanks for everything.

Sorry for the Well, the meiwaku, the—

well, I forgot the word in English.

Sorry for causing trouble, I guess.

It was probably one of the scariest

experiences I've ever had in Japan.

To be treated like a criminal, like a

dangerous person, didn't feel good.

I never really see myself as a criminal or

dangerous person.

I think I'm quite an innocent, pure

person.

And it's just kind of a shame because I've

always had such great memories and I've

had great times in Osaka and Japan, and I

always viewed Osaka as a place where I had

a lot of good times.

I made a lot of friends and I met a lot of

people and had a lot of good experiences.

But because of this whole police station

Japanese police thing that happened, it

has now tainted my rose-tinted goggles of

Osaka.

And now I kind of hate Osaka, and I also

kind of hate Japan, and I never really

want to go back there again.

So yeah, basically that is the end of the

Japan marriage saga.

I think that really has bookmarked the

ending of that whole thing, and I was kind

of hopeful that I could maybe bring it

back to life.

That was the whole reason why I went back

there and decided to live there on that

very street.

I thought maybe I could bring it back to

life, bring back 2019 before everything

just went down the toilet.

But that kind of blew up in my face, and

now it is truly over.

I don't really see myself ever going back

there, never going to have any kind of

communication or interaction with Chihiro

again.