Meeting married women in Japan on Tinder

Hey, and welcome to a new vlog. So today I

bought this, this nice new hoodie when I

went to Himeji Castle. Um, this, this

woman, this Japanese woman that I've known

for a while, invited me to go to Himeji

Castle with her, and I had a nice time.

I won't really talk too much about it

because that's not what this video is

about. In— Jesus Christ,

at 1 AM there's still bloody people riding

around. He's coming right behind me.

Why? Why? Of all the roads he had to

choose, all of the times during the day,

he had to ride his bicycle right behind me

right now. Why?

Is he still there?

It's so irritating. I can't even make a

video without being interrupted.

I keep burping. Anyway, so I want

to talk about married women in Japan on

Tinder. So I've spoken to about

3 married women, Japanese women, and

they've, they've matched me on Tinder and

they've all been really interested in

meeting me and they've all told me similar

stories. Their husbands don't love them

anymore, they're bored with their

husbands, they're unhappy with their

husbands Their husbands are cheating on

them and they feel depressed and upset.

And I listened to all their sob stories

and I asked them, so why are you on

Tinder? What are you looking for? And they

all said the same thing. They're looking

for a partner that can help them feel less

lonely, that can make them feel happy.

And I guess they wanted to make me that

partner. And things were going

well at the beginning with these married

women. I was chatting to them, we were

having a good time, they all wanted to

meet me, we were starting to think of

dates, places we can meet up.

And as time went on, things got worse and

worse. 2 of them— no, one of them just

stopped replying to me all of a sudden.

And the other 2, they gave me these long

explanations of why they're not interested

in me anymore. And they both said pretty

much the same thing. They said, um,

you know, I'm married, I have kids,

you're gonna go back to England soon,

it's not gonna work, it's gonna be too

complicated, it's better if we just stop

talking and not meet up.

And I think there's a reason why things

suddenly went downhill. I tracked back, I

went back up, scrolled back on the

conversations, and I tried to find out the

moment when things started to go downhill.

And it was the same every time. Every time

I started to become too pushy, too

forward, when I started to talk about

sexual things or love hotels.

They would start to be really put off

and they would start to say things like,

Daniel, are you a playboy? I don't like

playboys. If you start talking about going

to love hotels and that kind of thing,

it's like they get really sensitive and

they get really upset. They start thinking

that I'm a playboy and that I'm only

interested in having sex. In Japan, the

women, they absolutely hate playboys. If

you give off any hint that you're even

kind of like a playboy, it sends them

running. There's no better way to turn

off a Japanese girl or woman than saying

that you're a playboy and you like hooking

up. I think that's pretty much the same

anywhere in the world. Women are— women

have this inbuilt instinct to be to

be turned off by playboys. They want a man

or a guy who's going to stick around, who

isn't just going to have sex and then

leave them. Because, you know, back in the

caveman days, women would get pregnant

after having sex, and they needed a man to

stick around and to provide for her and to

protect her. When women get pregnant,

they can't look after themselves very

well. So they had this— they had to evolve

this instinct. They had to develop this

instinct which would— Jesus Christ, what

the fuck is that noise? They had to

develop this instinct that warns them

when— to let them know if a man's going to

stick around or if he's going to flee.

And this is kind of like a built-in

warning system that they have to to sniff

out playboys. And if they sniff out a

playboy, they'll say, goodbye, I'm not

interested in you because you seem like a

playboy. And there's one story that

I like to tell on dates or when I'm

chatting to women that kind of makes me

sound like a playboy, and this is the

Amway story. Now, when I told you guys the

Amway story, I had to make some,

some alterations in the details because I

didn't want Tomoko to get upset. You know

I said it was a Japanese guy at the

guesthouse who took me to his friend's

house and that was how it started? That

was wrong. What actually happened was I

met this girl on Tinder and I met up with

her. She looked really nice. We walked for

a bit and then we met up with this other

guy, this old guy who looked like he was

50 or something. He looked really sad and

pathetic. And she took us to her

apartment, and there were other girls

there and other guys. They cooked us a

meal, and then, you know, you know what

happened next— all the soap stuff. So I

like to tell girls this story because it's

kind of like a funny embarrassing thing

that happened to me. And sometimes girls

ask me, so have you been on any other

dates on Tinder? Have you met anyone else?

And when they ask me this, I like to tell

them the Amway story. It usually makes

them laugh. But sometimes if you're

talking to a sensitive girl who, who isn't

interested in like messing around or

hooking up or flirting,

um, it sets off the,

the playboy detection signal because I

tell them that I met this girl and she

asked me to go back to her apartment, and

then they're like, you went straight to

her apartment on the first date expecting

sex? It makes me sound like,

like I wanted to go to the apartment with

the girl and have sex on the first date,

which was what I wanted to do. But you're

not supposed to let the girl know that

because it makes you sound like a playboy.

It makes you sound like you want to have

sex on the first date, which, even if that

is what you want to do, you should never

let a girl know that unless she's

laid-back and casual. About sexual things

and she's not uptight or like,

um,

like a little girl. I don't know how to

explain this properly. I think when it

comes to sex, there's 2 types of women.

There's women who are laid-back and casual

and they enjoy having sex. They don't take

it too seriously. They don't think sex is

this disgusting, dirty, naughty thing that

you shouldn't be doing. And then you have

this other group of women who have this

kind of like childlike way of thinking

where, where you can't just have sex on

the first date, but you have to meet a

nice guy and then fall in love, and then

after the 50th date or something, then you

have sex. You know, you can't even hold

hands until you've been dating for 2

weeks, and they have this like 12-year-old

little girl way of thinking, like a Disney

princess where they have to meet Prince

Charming and then they have to fall in

love and, you know, all that rubbish. And

if you talk to those kind of girls about

going to love hotels and hotels or going

back to apartments on the first date, it

sets off the playboy detection system and

they just— they flee, they fly away, they

run away from you. And I think that's what

went wrong with the married women that I

was talking to. I triggered the playboy

detection warning systems too quickly.

With one of them, I started asking her

about hotels and if she would be

interested in going to a hotel with me,

and I was too direct, I was too pushy, I

was too forward with it. And even though

we were supposed to meet up last Saturday

she stopped replying to me and we didn't

actually meet up. And I think she's

blocked me or unfriended me or something,

but she doesn't talk to me anymore. And

with the other 2 married women, I told

them the Amway story, and I think that was

the main reason why they ended up giving

me this long explanation of why they don't

think that we should meet up anymore. And

I was, I was kind of irritated. It was

really irritating. Because I spent time

building up a relationship with these

women and I was really excited to meet

them and I blew

it. I told them the stupid Amway story

because I thought it would make them

laugh. I thought it would make them pity

me, but it just made me look like a

playboy and they changed their minds.

Women change their minds so easily. One

minute they think They think that I'm

great. They think that I'm this great guy

who they really want to meet and they're

in love with. And then you say one tiny

thing and then everything changes. They

change their mind, they block you, they

stop talking to you, they say they don't

want to meet up anymore. So frustrating.

And I think that's what I was doing wrong.

The funny thing is I told the Amway story

to the other girl that I was in karaoke

with and I kissed her, and she liked that

story. She laughed, and we ended up going

to karaoke. We ended up making out, and

she ended up inviting me to stay over

overnight with her at her apartment,

which I'm going to be doing tomorrow

night, and I'm really looking forward to.

So it's kind of like a double-edged sword,

the Amway story. To some girls, it's

funny, and to other girls repels them.

It's kind of like shooting yourself in the

foot. One of the main reasons why I felt

so frustrated is because— it's because

every time I press the record button,

cars just appear out of nowhere and

interrupt my video.

Can we have silence, please? Come on,

silence. Just give me 2 minutes, 2 minutes

so I can finish this video. Please,

please, is it too much to ask for? It's 1

AM, people. Go home. Go to your houses.

Go to your wives. Go to bed.

Is that silence? Do we have silence yet?

Thank you. Anyway, what was I saying? So

yeah, one of the main reasons that I was

frustrated was because I've never had an

experience with a married woman who has

kids. And I think that's one of

the things, one of the major things I want

to tick off my list. You know, I've had a

relationship with a woman who has had

kids. I've had a relationship with a woman

who, who was married, but I've never had a

relationship with a woman who is married

and has kids. No, I've never had that

combination before, and I think that's

like one of the ultimate taboos that

you're not supposed to do. You're not

supposed to sleep with another man's wife.

You're not supposed to— you're

not supposed to sleep with a married woman

who has kids. And you know, if, if you

have those 2 things and you're having a

relationship with a woman who's married

and has kids, I think that, that would be

amazing sex. That would be so hot,

you know, sex-wise, in the bedroom.

No, I don't think I'm a homewrecker. I'm

not out there trying to destroy families

and to get married people to break up.

These women are unhappy with their

husbands and their lives, and they're

going to cheat. They're going to have an

affair if they want to have an affair.

And if they're going to have an affair,

might as well be with me than some other

guy. I think one of the reasons why I

found the half-American, half-Japanese

girl so bland and boring was because there

was nothing exciting about her. There was

no taboo things, you know. She was younger

than me, she was single, she didn't have

kids, she didn't have a husband or

boyfriend, and that's just boring. I want

at least one exciting thing If I'm going

to have a relationship with a woman,

you know, sex on its own just isn't

enough. Sex is great, and I love sex, but

you need like some kind of backstory to

make it more exciting. You need obstacles.

You need society to be against

your relationship to make it more to make

it more fun.

Basically. Anyway, I think I've learned my

lesson. If I ever get a chance with

another married Japanese woman, I'm going

to be super sweet, super charming,

and I'm not going to tell them the Amway

story. I'm not going to talk about hooking

up and going to hotels on the first date.

I'm not even going to mention love hotels

because from my experience, that just

sends them running. Straight away.

It's just, it's kind of shocking the

amount of married women you can find on

Tinder, and they write on their profiles,

I'm married but I'm looking for friends.

It's just a load of bullshit, isn't it?

They're not gonna write, I'm married but I

wanna— I want to find someone to have an

affair with, but secretly that's what they

really want. I just don't get it though.

If they just want to have an affair, then

why don't Why do they care so much about

playboys? What's wrong

with having an affair with a playboy?

It's not like they're going to have a

serious relationship if they're married

and they have kids. They just want to have

some— I don't know what they want. Do they

want to have fun? Do they want to feel

loved? Playboys can make people feel loved

as well, you know.