My WORST ever tinder experiences

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Hi, today I want to talk about some of the

most irritating Tinder dates that I've

ever been on. Now, to some of you, a few

of these dates might sound familiar

because I spoke about them in a different

video before. Unfortunately, that video

seemed to anger a lot of people and I got

a lot of dislikes, and I decided to take

it down. And I put it up on my second

channel, which you can find in the link

description— in the description below. So

I'm gonna remake that video today, and I'm

gonna try and be a bit more careful with

how I word things so as not to piss off

so many people. So last year when I was

single and I was dating, on Tinder. I had

quite a lot of dates. Several dates were

good, some were bad, and some were really,

really bad. And today I'm going to tell

you about the worst dates that I ever went

on. Okay, so the first date was with this

Japanese woman, and we had

a pretty typical date, you know, went for

lunch, walked around, went to see a movie.

And then after the movie ended, she, she

said, oh, what should we do now? Um, and

we walked around a bit thinking about what

to do, and I just said Should we go to a

hotel? And she said yes, which I thought

was great. I thought, great. It was really

scary asking her if she wants to go to a

hotel. I was really nervous about it. And

when she said okay, I felt great. I felt

like I accomplished something amazing. So

when you ask someone to go to a hotel,

especially a love hotel, you kind of, you

kind of expect that something naughty,

something fun is going to happen in the

love hotel. Why else would you go to a

love hotel? You wouldn't just go to a love

hotel to sit there chatting and watching

TV. That would be silly. It's like when

you go to a restaurant, you kind of expect

to eat something. When you go to the

cinema, you expect to watch a movie. When

you go to a love hotel, you kind of expect

to make love. So we went to this love

hotel that was nearby, and we went in. I

made her some drinks. I didn't want to

jump on her straight away. I wanted to

make her feel at ease, to feel relaxed,

to feel a bit more comfortable. She seemed

nervous, like she wasn't really, um,

very, very comfortable about the whole

idea. Maybe she didn't really want to go,

I don't know. So I sat down next to her

after finishing the coffee, and I started

to make my moves. I tried to touch her, I

tried to kiss her, and she just wasn't

really interested. Every time I tried

to kiss her, she would turn away. She

would turn her face away, or she would

kind of crunch up into a ball to make it

difficult for me to, to access her. And I

tried for a few minutes, you know, I

thought maybe she was just shy. Maybe,

maybe if I was persistent, I kept trying

to kiss her, she would open up. But

nothing was happening, so I decided to

stop. And I asked her, is everything okay?

Is something wrong? And And then she just

said— well, she was laughing, which didn't

help. It's kind of embarrassing when

you're trying to make your moves on the

girl and she keeps laughing at you. And,

um, she said she felt embarrassed and she

was— she wasn't ready and this was moving

too quickly. Everything was moving too

quickly. So I stopped and I just sat down

next to her. She sat back up upright.

And we just talked. She said she didn't

want to do it on the first date. If you

had no intention of doing it on the first

date, then why did you say yes to coming

to a hotel with me? If you're a girl and

you get invited to a love hotel by a guy,

then you kind of have to expect that the

guy is hoping, you know, to get naughty

and do some cheeky things in the hotel,

not just sit there drinking tea and

watching TV. Some of you might be thinking

maybe she changed her mind, and I don't

think she changed her mind. I think she

already made up her mind that she wasn't

going to give me the goods on that day.

Maybe if I was patient and I kept, I kept

seeing her, maybe after the 10th date or

the 20th date she might have finally let

me touch her ass, and then we we might

have done something, but I'm not that

patient, and I didn't have the patience to

jump through all those hoops that she was

going to set up and make me jump through.

So after a few hours of just chatting and

doing a little bit of light cuddling, she

finally warmed up a bit, and she finally

let me kiss her on the lips. And we did

some kissing on the lips, and she even let

me touch her boob, but that was it. That

was, that was all we did. Nothing else

happened, and we got we got ready and we

left the hotel, and that was the last I

ever saw her because I blocked her. And I

blocked her because, number one, I felt

kind of irritated that, that she said yes

to the hotel and I got all my hopes up and

I was getting all excited, and then

nothing happened. And I felt like it was

just a big waste of time, and I didn't

want to waste any more time with her.

Now, in the original video of this, I got

a lot of angry comments from people

accusing me of being entitled. They were

saying, Daniel, you sound entitled to, to

having her. She doesn't owe you anything.

And I completely disagree. I think there's

a big difference between being entitled

and expecting something. I wasn't

entitled. I was expecting something

to happen. It's kind of like taking a

starving man to a restaurant and then

telling him, no, actually, you can't have

anything to eat. Because you're not

allowed, obviously the starving man's

gonna be a bit upset. He's not gonna sit

there and go, oh, okay.

Are you gonna say he's entitled to the

food? No, he was expecting to have food

because he was taken to a restaurant.

I was expecting to make love because I

took a girl to a love hotel. I don't think

that that's that crazy for a guy to be

disappointed and upset. That he didn't get

what he was expecting to get. When, when

you ask a girl to a love hotel, it's kind

of implied in the invitation that you're

asking her if you want to sleep together.

I couldn't just outright ask her directly,

do you want to sleep with me? Well, I

couldn't say, you know, when we get to the

hotel, I'm expecting to sleep with you.

That would be weird. You can't just

directly ask girls if, if it's okay to

sleep with them. That never works. And for

those of you who are thinking, you should

have made your intentions clear when you

were chatting on Tinder. So what do you

expect me to say on Tinder? Hello, it's

nice to meet you. Would you like to go to

a hotel so we can sleep together? You

think that's gonna work? You could ask

1,000 girls that and you won't even get

one yes. Trust me, I've tried. You cannot

ask girls directly if they want to sleep

with you. It doesn't work like that. Even

if they want to, they're not going to say

yes because then that would make them look

like a slut. And women don't want people

to think of them as sluts. They don't want

to be thought of as easy. So you've got to

do the whole process— take them out for a

meal, walk around, talk to them— and then

you ask them. But you don't ask them in a,

in a completely direct way. You have to

ask them if they want to go to karaoke or

a hotel, and then you naturally put the

moves on them. You can't just say Can I

shag you? Can we go to a hotel and shag?

Doesn't work. Trust me, I've tried. I feel

very strongly about this out of my own

personal experience. Asking doesn't—

doesn't work. Just because you ask, don't

expect— you know there's that phrase, you

don't ask, you don't get? Well, in this

particular case, asking does not get

you anything apart from a big fat no.

Now, I know I'm ranting a bit about this,

but I have an experience when I actually

asked the girl if it was okay to kiss her

and she told me no. So I gave up and I

said okay, and then 10 minutes later she

sat next to me and I decided to kiss her

anyway, and she didn't stop me. She

actually kissed me back, and we ended up

kissing and then bamboozling on the floor.

So no. Never ask, just do.

Obviously stop if she makes it very clear

that she wants you to stop. If she tells

you seriously, stop, then you stop.

You don't really need me to tell you that.

And I'm not saying that it's okay to just

randomly go up to strangers and kiss them

on the street because that's just silly.

Okay, so on to the next Tinder date. I

think this story is a little bit funny

because I was on this date with this

Japanese girl from Kyoto And the date was,

you know, typical date. Went for something

to eat, walked around a bit, went to the

Osaka Sky Building, do some sightseeing.

And then whilst we were at the Sky

Building, um, she suddenly asked me out of

the blue, would I mind if one of her— she

asked me if I would mind if one of her

male friends also came and joined us on

the date, which really shocked and

surprised me because I've never been on a

date and then had the girl ask me if she

could bring her guy friend on the date.

If it was a girlfriend, then sure, bring,

bring as many girlfriends as you want.

Let's, let's make this an orgy. I'm not

going to be happy if you bring another guy

on the date because I see the date as like

a romantic thing. Me and you spending time

together, we're getting to know each

other, getting intimate. Maybe something

naughty can happen later in a hotel. But

if you bring a guy to the date, then

Nothing's gonna happen unless you're

interested in bringing 2 guys to a hotel,

which would be weird and I would not be

okay with. So I said to her, no, I

wouldn't be comfortable if you brought a

guy friend to the date. And I also wanted

to ask her, why in the 10 hells would you

think it's okay to even invite another guy

to a date? And it kind of made me feel

sad. It hurt my feelings because I, like I

said before, I saw the date as a date. A

romantic outing between man and woman.

But as soon as she— as soon as

she brought up the idea of bringing

another guy to the date, it made me feel

as though she didn't see it as the same

way. She just saw it as, oh, she's hanging

out with Daniel, her new friend that she

met on Tinder, and she wants to bring

another friend to make it more fun.

And I felt kind of hurt that she only saw

me as a friend. And then she started

telling me about this other guy that she

met on Tinder who she's going to meet next

week, and she called him her other friend.

And it just sounded like she was using

Tinder to make friends. Now I know on the

App Store it says Tinder, a great app for

making friends and maybe more, but come

on, let's face it, everyone knows what

Tinder is. Tinder is for hooking up and

for looking for girlfriends and boyfriends

to be in a relationship with. It is not

for making friends. If you want to make

friends, go on to Meetup or some other

friend-making app. Most people don't use

Tinder to make friends. There's no guy on

Tinder who's just on Tinder to, to make

friends. Every guy who's on Tinder is on

there for one reason: either to find a

girlfriend or to find someone to hook up

with and have some naughty fun with. So I

didn't even ask that girl if she wanted to

go to a hotel because After she asked me

if she could bring another guy to the

date, my confidence was crushed, and I

just didn't really— didn't really see it

happening between us. And we said goodbye,

and I never spoke to her ever again. For

the last, third and final date that I'm

going to talk about today, it was another

Japanese girl in Tokyo a few years ago,

and we went on a date. We went for lunch

and dinner, and we went to some fancy

restaurants. And guess who paid for

everything? Me, I had to pay for every

meal and she didn't even offer to pay.

We got to the cash register, I took out my

wallet, she just stood there smiling, and

I paid for everything because,

well, what else could I do? I couldn't say

to her, well, are you going to pay your

half? That would be really awkward and

really rude and impolite. So I paid for

everything and then the date ended. And we

said goodbye, and all I got was a hug. We

just hugged and she said, see you. And

then later on, I sent her a message saying

that I really liked her and I would like

to see her again, and I asked her if she

would like to be my girlfriend. And do you

know what she said? She said, sorry, I'm

not interested in looking for a boyfriend

right now. Why are you on a

dating website when you're not interested

in looking for a boyfriend?

So I just felt really annoyed because I

wasted so much money on going for lunch

and dinner when I could have just spent

that money paying for you know what,

and I could have gotten what I wanted,

100% guaranteed, instead of just wasting

all this money on lunch and dinner and

then only getting a hug out of it. And if

she only saw me as a friend, if she was

only looking for friends, then why did she

make me pay for everything? Does she

always make her friends pay for

everything? Maybe that's why she doesn't

have any friends and she's on a dating

website looking for friends. It was just

really irritating, and I felt like asking

her to give me my money back. I know a

lot of people think that the man should

pay for the date, and I don't mind paying

for the date if the girl is actually

interested in me. If she sees me as a

potential romantic partner, then I don't

mind paying if I like her as well. But I

think it's kind of out of order to, to

make me pay when you're not even

interested in me in the first place. It

just feels like you're using me to get a

free meal, or 2 free meals in this case.

And yeah, I don't agree that the man

should pay for all of the dates. Why does

the man have to pay for everything? Why

can't the woman pay for her half and then

I pay for my half?