Why I regret cheating on my Ex-Wife

Hi, so sometimes people ask me if I regret

cheating on my wife when I was married,

and I thought I'd make a video to talk

about why I regret cheating and how it's

changed me as a person and changed my

attitudes towards women and how I've

learned to respect women more as I've

gotten older, and that they're not just

objects and they're not just physical

things in the world. They also have

emotions and personalities and feelings,

so you can't just treat women like they're

toys. And that's an important lesson I've

learned over the last few years, and I

thought I would share my experiences and

my new gained respect for women. I first

started cheating on women when I was about

21. I had a Japanese girlfriend, my first

girlfriend, and I cheated on her because I

wasn't really physically satisfied with

the relationship, and she kind of ghosted

me and wasn't responding to my messages,

and things were getting really spicy

between me and this Korean lady at the

guest house, so I thought, uh, why not?

It's not like my current relationship is

doing very well. And that's when I first

started cheating. And I never really

cheated on all of my relationships, all of

my girlfriends, just a couple. But I think

what most people remember is when I

cheated on my marriage. When I was

married, I did cheat quite a few times,

and people ask me if I'm proud of it, if I

regret it. And I'm not really proud of it.

I don't understand why you would be proud.

Of having cereal. That's just kind of

weird. The idea of feeling pride or

accomplishments just because you managed

to get with a lady, it's just kind of

weird. It's like you're celebrating some

kind of conquest, and I would never do

that. Not now anyway. Maybe when I was

younger, I felt some kind of pride, and if

I got a new girlfriend, I wanted to parade

her all over the place. But these days,

I'm feeling like that's disrespectful

towards women. You shouldn't treat women

like they're some kind of trophy or like a

physical prize that you want to show off

to everyone. That's just really rude, and

you're not respecting the woman's

personality. So if I had to answer the

question of do I regret cheating on my

ex-wife, easily yes. I regret every

single moment that I cheated on her.

Maybe when I was doing the cheating, you

know, during during the cereal having,

which only lasts about 10 minutes— usually

10 or 12 minutes is how long it takes from

start to finish— maybe during those 10

minutes, yeah, it feels great and you feel

like this is the right thing that I'm glad

that I decided to do. After the 12 minutes

are over, and then you don't really feel

like it was a great idea anymore, and I

just felt so much guilt. I just

felt so bad about cheating afterwards

because not only did I disrespect my

loving, loyal ex-wife, I also disrespected

the girl that I was doing it with.

Because to be honest, I didn't do it with

the girl I was cheating with because I

loved her or because I had deep,

meaningful feelings for her. And I wasn't

even physically attracted to her in most

of the cases. Actually, I would say 8

times out of 10 The girls I cheated with,

I wasn't even attracted to them, and I had

to turn the lights off in the hotel room,

otherwise it just wasn't gonna happen.

And I know this is not really an excuse or

a way to justify what I did, but I was

just so young and my man drive was just

completely out of control. I had no

control over my man drive and I wasn't

able to make the correct decisions. I had

multiple lapses in judgment that made me

choose the wrong thing to do and make

all these mistakes that I don't think I

would make now. Now that I'm a bit older

and it's been a few years and I'm now in

my early 30s, I feel like my man drive has

calmed down a little bit, and I don't

think I would do the same thing if I could

go back in time and I could

choose which direction to go in again. I

don't feel like it was worth it because if

you think about it, I ended up losing a

really good relationship that was stable

and loving and it provided me with pretty

much everything I wanted or needed. I kind

of flushed that down the toilet over,

what, a couple minutes, maybe 10 or 20

minutes here and there of stupid

excitement that didn't last. It wasn't

even that fulfilling or satisfying. It was

just forgettable. I didn't have any

feelings or emotions for the girl that I

was doing it with. And what do I have to

show for it now? Nothing really. And I

also think that one of the reasons why I

was so easily able to cheat on ex-partners

was because I've never been cheated on,

so I don't really know what it feels like

to be cheated on. And I really hope I

never have to experience it, but I'm

starting to feel like eventually one of

these days I am going to experience it,

and I won't really have any right to

complain about it because I've done it so

many times. Maybe I even deserve to be

cheated on so I know what it feels like,

since, you know, the whole karma thing.

If you do something bad, then you kind of

deserve to have it happen to you. It

hasn't happened to me yet, and to be

honest, I don't really know what it

actually feels like to, number one, be

truly in love with someone. I have

experienced that, I think, last year when

I was with Mila. I think that was pretty

close to actual love, but she never

cheated on me, which I'm really grateful

for. But I've never experienced being in

love with a person and being cheated on by

that person. So I was lacking empathy

and compassion for my ex-wife and for

ex-girlfriends that I cheated on. I didn't

really think how they would feel if they

found out about it. I didn't really put

myself in their shoes, and that was just

really, really disrespectful of me. I only

thought of myself and how I could make

myself feel good. And I feel like this is

a problem that quite a lot of people have

these days, especially the millennial

generation. They are giving up on trying

to achieve happiness in the long term

because it's too hard, takes too much

time, too much effort, and they're going

for short-term satisfaction, short-term

gains, short-term pleasure. And that's

basically what you're doing when you're

cheating. You're basically saying, I don't

care about this real relationship

relationship I have because I don't know

if it's actually going to last. I'm just

going to sacrifice this long-term source

of happiness for this short-term source of

happiness. And something you learn as you

get older and you get wiser and you get

more mature is that although short-term

pleasures like cheating that feel really

exciting and satisfying in the moment,

although that's fun and everything, it

doesn't last. And you really have to start

prioritizing long-term,

long-term happiness over short-term

excitement. It's kind of like investing in

the stock market. You might be tempted to

get that funny weird coin like Dogecoin

that gets 1,000% gains overnight, but then

you lose like 800%, 900% gains the next

morning. You might be tempted to get that

when really you should be investing in

something stable that has long-term

survivability like the S&P 500 or the FTSE

100 or some kind of diversified

index fund, which might not be very

exciting. You know, you might just get 1%

gain, 2% gain over a couple months, or

even after a couple years you've only got

a 5% gain. That doesn't seem like a lot,

but compound interest says that over years

and years and years and decades You'll

gain more by investing in the S&P 500,

and it's a lot safer and less risk than

just YOLOing thousands on some stupid

coin like Dogecoin. That's just dumb.

In a way, relationships are also similar

because you see so many young men who make

the same mistake I have, and it's just—

it's so heartbreaking as someone who's

experienced this. You see so many young

men who are tempted by that hot

little thing sending them DMs and they

just cheat. And it's like a short-term

thing, one-night thing, two-night thing.

It doesn't last. And they sacrifice

something good, like a loving long-term

relationship, a loving long-term partner

who's actually willing to put up with you

and live with you and stick up for you for

years and years and years. And yeah, it

takes a lot of strength. It takes a lot of

mental willpower to say, no,

I'm married. I'm not interested in

flirting with you. Please stop messaging

me. It takes a lot of maturity and mental

willpower to be able to do that. And

unfortunately, I just wasn't at that stage

of my life back when I was married last

year, a couple of years ago. So those were

my thoughts, and that's what I learned

from my experience cheating. Thanks for