This Girl Ruined my Marriage...

Hello and welcome back to a new video. So

today I want to talk about the actual

reason why I decided to get divorced from

my side of the story. It seems like a lot

of people think that the reason why we got

divorced was because of the infidelity,

when actually that's not true. I don't

really want to get into why Chihiro

decided to divorce me because that doesn't

really interest me much. I want to talk

about why I thought it was a good idea to

get divorced. Because let's face it, if I

didn't feel like I had better options at

the time, I would have begged and pleaded

not to get divorced. I would have said

sorry, I would have made promises that

I'll try harder in the future. And the

number one main reason why I wanted to get

divorced as well was because of the Essex

girl. So you might remember the Essex girl

from 2019. I went on one date with her.

She used to be a viewer of mine, and she

contacted me on Instagram saying that she

really liked me and would like to meet up.

And this was in 2019 when I was in

Germany, when me and my ex-wife were on a

break shortly after my father had passed

away. We had one date. We met up in London

and we just hung out for a few hours.

Nothing spicy happened. We walked around

the park and I had a hot dog. And we were

supposed to go on a second date, but she

was a very busy person and she could only

do about one date a month. And that's just

not really enough for me. So instead of

waiting for a second date, I decided to go

back to Japan and get back together with

my ex-wife instead. But I still actually

really liked the Essex girl. I found her

pretty attractive and I enjoyed talking to

her, and I kind of regretted the choice I

made to go back to Japan instead of being

a bit patient and waiting for a second

date. I really feel like I missed an

opportunity to date her, and for the rest

of 2019, I was kind of kicking myself over

this decision, and I felt like I made the

wrong choice. And then in the beginning of

January in 2020, just a few weeks before

me and my ex-wife got divorced, the Essex

girl started messaging me again and she

was kind of flirting with me. She was

saying stuff like she was also kind of sad

that we didn't get a chance to be

together. And then we started discussing

traveling to Asia together, to Bali.

And at the time I was just feeling so

bored in Japan. My life in Japan was so

tedious. I would just stay at home all day

and just stream and make videos, and I

didn't really get much chance to go

anywhere or meet new people because of the

whole marriage situation. So the idea of

being able to see the Essex girl again and

traveling around Asia and going to

different countries just sounded really

exciting and really turned me on. I

already thought I blew my chances with the

Essex girl, and the fact that she was

messaging me again and still seemed

interested in me, I thought, wow, I really

need to grab this opportunity with both

hands. So my plan was I would decide to

get divorced, and then I would go to Korea

where I would wait in Korea for a few

months until the Essex girl could come out

and fly to me, and then we would go

traveling around to different Asian

countries. Now, this was pre-pandemic, so

all of the travel options were there

available for us. But then, you know what

happened? The world shut down and all of

my plans were ruined. The Essex girl never

flew out to me. We never got to travel

around Asia or different countries, and

she ended up ghosting me again for months.

And she only messaged me again after I

ranted about her on a livestream when I

was in Korea and I said, some kind of mean

things because, as you might imagine, I

was feeling pretty miffed off that I

decided to get divorced, and I was waiting

in Korea because I was planning on seeing

the Essex girl again, and she just kind of

vanished. So she messaged me whilst I was

in Korea saying that she was upset hearing

the things I said about her and that the

reason why she wasn't able to fly out to

Korea to meet me was because she had some

kind of personal family problem that just

popped up. And you might be thinking, if I

start talking about this now, I'm really

going to blow any chances with her ever

again. And I guess that's kind of the

reason why I'm making this video now, is

because I don't really see that there's

any more opportunities left. I've been

divorced for 2 years now, so she's had 2

years to try and make an attempt to meet

me again, but she hasn't made any attempt

to meet me even though we've been

messaging on and off since 2020. I've

tried to make some attempts to meet her

and she just shot me down every time. So

if you want a quick brief chatting

timeline summary of our chatting activity

over the last 2 years. Basically, we

chatted a lot in the beginning of January

2020 before I got divorced, and then after

I got divorced, she kind of disappeared

again. And then she started messaging me

again around 2020 Christmas when I was

with Mila, when I was living in Rotterdam.

And again, she was being very flirty. She

was saying stuff like how she'd really

like to meet up with me once I get back to

England and stuff like that. But because I

was a loyal and devoted boyfriend to Mila,

I had to reject her invitations. And then

after I broke up with Mida and I came back

to England, we started chatting again and

we started talking about meeting up again.

But at the time, England was in a second

lockdown and we couldn't really meet. It

wasn't possible. So she said, let's wait

until the lockdown ends and we could meet

up in May of 2021. So we were chatting on

a daily basis up until around May, until

the beginning of May. And then finally the

lockdowns lift in England. And I'm getting

excited to be able to see her again. And

guess what? She just disappears and ghosts

me for the entire year up until the end of

2021. She starts messaging me again in

2021 Christmas when I was doing that

livestream when I was pretty drunk. She

started messaging me a bunch back when I

was living in Manchester in that big tower

apartment block, and she said that we were

going to have a proper chat and talk about

things and she'll explain to me why she

ghosted me for such a long time. And why

she wasn't able to meet and stuff like she

had personal problems that came up. So we

chatted for maybe a day or two and guess

what? She never really gives me the full

explanation of what's been going on and

why she ghosted me again. And then she

disappeared again and I haven't really

talked to her since the beginning of 2022.

We messaged for maybe less than a week

after Christmas of 2021, and then she just

stopped replying to my messages, even

though I can see that she's logging on and

she's online almost every day. And she

gave me a very quick explanation of why

she decided not to meet me after the

lockdown in 2021. It was because I slept

with Pia. Remember Pia, that other girl

just turned up at my house at around 2

a.m. in the morning in the beginning of

2021, around March? The Essex girl said

because I lied to her about sleeping with

Pia that she was kind of upset about it

and then didn't want to meet me anymore.

I don't know about you, but I'm kind of

seeing a pattern here. So basically, when

I'm very far away or when I'm in a

relationship, when there seems like

there's obstacles preventing us from

actually meeting, then she will message me

talking to me about the idea of meeting up

again and doing naughty things. And it's

almost as if she doesn't expect me to

ditch everything in order to try and meet

her. I don't think she understands how

desperately I want to meet her again. And

I guess you could say that one of the

reasons why I wasn't really that bothered

about being dumped by Mida was because,

again, I was messaging the Essex girl

around the time that we broke up, and I

thought, well, at least I can go home and

see the Essex girl again. But then

whenever I'm back home and I'm single and

available to meet up and there's no

obstacles preventing us from meeting up,

she just suddenly disappears and ghosts me

again. And when the obstacles are back up,

such as distance separating us or me being

in another relationship, or maybe another

lockdown happens, then she'll be back in

my DMs again. It's just like a cycle that

keeps repeating. I don't know if she's

messaging me during these times when

there's obstacles because she believes

that the obstacles are going to remain in

place, but then she doesn't realize that I

will voluntarily smash down these

obstacles if she gives me a sign or a hint

that we could go on a second date. So I

don't really understand exactly what's

going on because I kind of suck at

understanding women, but I have a few

theories. My first theory is— my first

theory is that her reasons for not wanting

to meet me anymore and the reasons why she

ghosts me several times are actually

genuine and she could actually be telling

the truth. And it's because of me and the

things I keep saying and the videos where

I talk about her are upsetting her and

making her not want to see me anymore. So

basically it's my fault that I keep

ruining our chances of meeting again. Or

theory number 2, she's just messing with

me. She actually has no intentions of

meeting me again and she's not interested

in dating me anymore, but she enjoys

sending me flirty messages and messages

suggesting that we could meet up again.

Because she enjoys seeing my reaction to

the idea of us meeting again. She enjoys

seeing me ditch everything and drop

everything to come back home to England.

So I'm available and ready to meet her.

Maybe in a way she kind of enjoys having

this power over me, and she's kind of a

puppet master pulling the strings. Maybe

she enjoys seeing if she has any kind of

effect on my life and if she has any power

to change the course of my actions. So I

have a few predictions I want to make,

and these predictions probably won't work

or play out if she sees this video,

because then she'll find out what I've

been saying. But I don't feel like she

will see this video because I'm not going

to title it Essex Girl. So unless she's

watching all of my videos, then she

shouldn't find out. And I don't think she

watches my channel anymore. Unless she's

in direct contact with some kind of troll

or hater who's gonna tip her off, then I

feel like it's pretty unlikely that she

sees this. But now that I've said that,

I've probably jinxed it and she probably

will see this. And if that's the case,

then hi Essex Girl, I really miss you.

Hope we can meet up soon. Anyway, so my

prediction is that, well, I'm going to be

going to Malaysia fairly soon. I'm going

to Malaysia for a family vacation. All of

the tickets have been booked, so it's

pretty much set in stone that it's going

to happen. And then I'm planning on just

hanging around in Asia for a few months

until Japan reopens. I'm waiting for Japan

to reopen for tourism, and there's hints

that the Japanese government are hinting

at reopening in June for guided tours,

which sounds kind of rubbish. But I'm

hoping afterwards, maybe July, August, or

later on in the year, they're going to

reopen fully for tourists, and then I'll

be able to re-enter the country. So those

are the obstacles that are going to be

placed. There's going to be huge distance

separating me and Essex Girl, motions set

into stone and set into place that cannot

really be easily changed. And my

prediction is once these obstacles have

been put in place and I'm far away in

Malaysia, or another country in Asia, I

think that the Essex girl is going to

start messaging me again. So she's gone

quiet now because I'm fully available.

I'm quite nearby to where she lives. I'm

down in Kent and it's not very difficult

to get to where she is or get to London.

And I'm single and I'm ready to mingle.

So she's staying quiet. She's not

messaging me at all because she knows that

there's nothing preventing me or

preventing us from being able to meet.

But once I'm in Malaysia, the idea of us

being able to meet is just going to be

pretty much impossible. Unless I just

ditch my family vacation and I fly back

home straight back to England so I could

see her, which I'm just not going to do.

I mean, I like you, Essex Girl, but even

if you offered me the poos, I don't think

I'm gonna ditch my family vacation and

ditch my plans to re-enter Japan unless,

you know, you can actually give me some

solid guarantees. First of all, my demands

are I want a full written contract and

promise of a second date, and I don't want

just a 2-hour short hangout meetup date.

I want a full proper date, at least 6 to 8

hours. Hours minimum, and I also want the

prospect of us going back to a hotel

together at the end of the date to be open

on the table as an option. I also want to

have some kind of physical touch contact

during the date. I want to hold hands and

even hug. We've known each other for 4

years now, and we've met once before, and

we've chatted several times, so I feel

like it's about time we escalate things to

a physical level. So unless my demands are

met, I don't really see that it's very

likely for me to make any big, major,

drastic life changes in order to come back

home to see the Essex Girl, even if she

messages me again. So basically my

prediction is the more my life gets

cemented and fixed down in Asia, and if

I get a new relationship or a new

girlfriend or maybe even a new wife, the

chances of the Essex Girl messaging me

again become higher and higher. And as the

stakes rise and there's more and more

obstacles for me to knock down to be able

to go back to see the Essex Girl again,

the more likely it is for her to hit me up

in the DMs again. But like I said, that's

just a theory. So the reasons why I like

the Essex Girl so much are: number 1,

she's not fat. Number 2, she's pretty

feminine and has a nice hairstyle, and I

like her fashion sense. Number 2, she's

very kind and nice to talk to. I don't

like it when I talk to girls and they use

vulgar words and they're very aggressive

and hostile with the way they talk. I just

find that to be a very big turnoff, and

the Essex Girl is the complete opposite of

that. She's very sweet. And pure and

wholesome and nice to talk to, and I

enjoyed her company. Number 3, I like the

way that she has her own home and she

lives by herself, and the fact that she's

an independent career woman. I also like

the way that she's also into metal music

and we like a lot of the same bands. And I

also like the way that she's kind of nerdy

and a bit introverted, and she's a little

bit weird, but in a good way. And I still

feel like my biggest regret even to this

day is the fact that I wasn't patient

enough to wait for a second date with the

Essex girl, and I just ended up going back

to Japan and getting back with my ex-wife,

which eventually didn't even work out

anyway. I guess I'll just always have to

be curious and wonder if me and the Essex

girl would have been a good fit together,

but I guess I'll never find out. It's just

that at the time, I wasn't sure if I

wanted to sacrifice the marriage for the

Essex girl, and I was worried that if I

didn't go back to Japan quickly, I might

end up losing the marriage for good. But

now after everything has happened, I can

clearly see that I probably made the wrong

choice. So yeah, it would be interesting

to see if she messages me again in 2022

and if my predictions come true or not.

Unless she sees this video and then I've

completely jinxed everything and ruined

any chances.