[2018-11-21] My experience dating a Japanese single mother [rT1it_bUHeE]

Hello. Hello and welcome to today's video.

As you may already know from the title,

we're talking about the single mother

girlfriend that I dated earlier last year.

Now, if you've been following my channel

since then, you may already know about her

and you might not be interested in

listening to the entire story, so you can

feel free to click off this video if you

so desire. So why am I making this video?

Well, I guess the main reason is because I

want to summarize the, the relationship.

It happened quite a long time ago. I think

it feels like it's a long time ago, a year

ago, more than a year ago. And at the time

when the relationship was happening, I

made a series of videos, but that's a lot

of videos to get through, and I wanted to

make one simple, concise video summarizing

the entire relationship. From beginning

until the end and then concluding with my

final thoughts on the relationship.

Also, if you're new to the channel, you

might not have heard about this particular

relationship, so this is the video for

you. If the clicking sounds get annoying,

let me know. Okay, so where do we begin?

I guess we begin at the beginning in 2017.

This the start of 2017. What was I doing?

Well, I was working at a petrol station,

and up until then I hadn't had a

girlfriend for about three years. My last

girlfriend was in 2014,

and I thought it was about time to look

for a new girlfriend. So I decided to go

onto the internet, onto dating websites,

and I found. A girlfriend after a few

weeks. I met this lady, she was a single

mother. She told me she had a daughter of

9 years of age and she was divorced. Now

you might be thinking, whoa, whoa, those

are a lot of red flags there, Daniel.

And yeah, I guess in hindsight those were

a lot of red flags. She was about 8 years

older than me, she was divorced, and she

had a daughter. But I was very lonely,

you could say desperate, and I thought she

looked nice in her photos. She sent me

photos of herself, we did Skype,

FaceTime video chats, and I thought she

looked attractive. I thought she was a

very nice person. She was very friendly,

very reserved, a bit quiet. She wasn't

fierce or aggressive, and I thought

She seemed like a nice person to be in a

relationship with, so I decided to ask her

the question, would you like to be my

girlfriend? And thankfully she said yes.

And then we started planning on meeting

up. I went into work and I asked my boss

if it was okay if I could take 2 weeks of

paid vacation in April, and she said yes.

She said, have, have fun in Japan. She was

a bit surprised that I was going all the

way to Japan just to meet this woman that

I met on the internet. And then I went

home and I booked plane tickets to Japan

in April for 2 weeks. Okay, so this

is the main number one problem when it

comes to online dating. It doesn't matter

how many photos of them you see, it

doesn't matter how many videos of them you

see, you will be surprised and probably

disappointed when you actually go and meet

them. This is just true. Every single girl

that I've met on the internet and then met

up in real life, every single time I was

disappointed in their physical appearance.

And that's because people look better in

photos and videos. They look far better in

photos and videos than they do in real

life. Take this video for example. I look

much better in this video than I do in

real life. If you met me in real life,

you'd be surprised that my skin doesn't

actually look this clear.

So unfortunately, when I got to Japan and

I finally met up with her, I'm not gonna

lie, I was very disappointed in how she

looked. She looked very different to her

photos and her videos. For some reason,

there were aspects, facial features,

aspects of her face that you couldn't

really see in photos or videos. That you

could see very clearly in real life.

And unfortunately, because of these

certain facial features, I just didn't

feel very attracted to her. And you might

be thinking, Daniel, you're being, being a

bit mean judging her by her looks. And I

guess I am, but the problem is, if I don't

feel attracted physically to a person, I

find it very difficult to to have feelings

for them. The problem was I was in Japan.

I had flown all the way to Japan to meet

her, and I couldn't just go, sorry, I

don't feel very attracted to you,

goodbye, and then go home. I wasn't gonna

do that. That would be a huge waste of

time and money. So I decided to give her a

chance. I thought maybe I could learn—

eventually learn how to like the way she

looks. I thought maybe there's other

aspects of her that I could learn to

appreciate. Maybe she has a great

personality. Maybe we have lots of things

in common. Maybe we'll just really click

like a house on fire. Unfortunately, we

didn't have much in common and we didn't

really click. We didn't really talk to

each other much. For example, we were in

the car for several hours, hours driving

to the hotel, and we barely even said a

word, mainly because I was nervous and

shy. And also because I had no idea what

to talk to her about. She wasn't

interested in anything that I was

interested in, and I wasn't really

interested in what, what she was

interested in. So we had nothing in

common. We had nothing in common to talk

about, which resulted in hours and hours

of awkward silence. So you might be

wondering about the daughter. I met the

daughter several times. She was, you know,

a typical kid. Very loud, noisy,

energetic. She would sometimes have

tantrums, suddenly start screaming and

crying. Those were very awkward times

because I didn't know what to do. The

single mother girlfriend would start

getting angry with the daughter, and

there'd be this really weird, uneasy

atmosphere between them. And it's not like

I could step in and do anything. I had to

just keep quiet. And just, you know, not

get involved because I'm an outsider. But

apart from the times when the daughter was

screaming and crying, it was actually

quite nice. We would go to restaurants,

the 3 of us, and it kind of felt like we

were a little family. I got a bit of a

taster of what it must feel like to have

kids, to have a family, to be a dad.

I pictured myself as the kid's dad.

And I wondered what it would feel like if

she was actually my own kid. And, you

know, it actually felt kind of nice. This

is gonna sound funny, but for a brief

moment, I actually wanted to learn how to

drive because the single mother girlfriend

was driving us everywhere, and it felt a

little bit strange. Usually if it's a

family, you'd have the dad driving, the

wife next to him, the kid in the back of

the car. And I had this weird urge to

want to be able to drive and to drive my

family around and take them out on trips.

I felt like the daughter and I got on

pretty well. We would play together. I

think I'm, I'm not too bad with kids

because I'm kind of like a big kid. I'm a

bit childish. I enjoy running around and

chasing them and being chased by them,

doing silly things to make them laugh.

I'm not trying to say that I would be a

good parent, or I know how to discipline a

child, or I know how to raise one, but I

feel like I'm pretty good at playing with

children. I bought the daughter this

little fluffy dog that has a microphone,

and then when you talk into the

microphone, the dog repeats what you say

in a high-pitched voice. She liked that.

My 2 weeks in Japan were coming to an end.

And when the final day came, me and the

single mother, we went to a different

hotel, just the two of us, and we prepared

to say goodbye to each other. Obviously,

she was very sad. She didn't want me to

go. She wanted me to stay in Japan, but I

had to go back to England, go back to my

job at the petrol station. Maybe if I felt

more attracted to her, maybe if we clicked

better, I would have stayed in Japan. And

I would have just quit my job at the

petrol station right then and there. But I

just didn't really feel that strongly for

her. I didn't feel attracted to her

enough. I didn't feel like the

relationship would, would last very long.

So I decided to go back home to England.

It was pretty sad when we had to say

goodbye at the airport. She just looked so

upset. She was crying. She snatched my

passport. Wouldn't give it back to me, so

I couldn't leave. Took me about 10 or 15

minutes to get her to give me my passport

back. After I got back home to England,

we continued chatting, continued phoning

each other for several weeks until I

decided to tell her that, that I didn't

want to be in a relationship with her

anymore. And I told her that we

should break up. I don't have any regrets.

I really enjoyed the experience. I was

thankful that she gave me the

opportunity to experience what it might be

like to be a dad, to experience what it

might be like to have my own family. And I

got to go to a different part of Japan

that I had never been to before, which was

refreshing. I think she was actually

really serious about me. We even talked

about marriage a few times, just, just

lightly, nothing too serious. We were just

discussing ways that I could stay in Japan

permanently, and she even said that she

wouldn't mind having my kid if I wanted,

wanted that. So yeah, she was pretty

serious about me and the relationship,

and I do feel a little bit guilty for

wasting her time. Messing her around. I

was serious about it as well at the

beginning. I wasn't just looking for a

quick hookup, a quick fling, a quick

2-week rumble and tumble in the sack. No,

that wasn't what I wanted. I wanted a

proper relationship, a serious girlfriend,

and I thought that she was the one.

But I met her and things just didn't work

out. That's, that's how things are

sometimes. Unfortunately. So that was the

single mother girlfriend from last year

that I dated for 2 weeks, I guess.

I was only with her for 2 weeks

physically. I guess if you include online

time, then we were together for about half

a year. And I hope this clears up some

confusion because a lot of people seem to

think that the single mother girlfriend is

my wife and that we have a daughter. My

wife doesn't have a daughter. My wife is a

completely different person to the single

mother ex-girlfriend. It's just kind of

funny because I get a lot of comments from

people asking me, Daniel, where's your

daughter? Where's your daughter right now?

Is she at school? I don't have a daughter