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My girlfriend wants me to move in with her

2017-11-07 · 16 min

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  1. Hey, it's me again. So, um, fuck. Hey, it's, it's me again. So I have quite a few things I want to talk about in this video. In summary, my girlfriend wants me to move in with her, my girlfriend's using an antifungal cream, and the messages me and my girlfriend first sent to each other on Tinder have disappeared

    Segment details0:06–0:27 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_0
  2. and I can't find our message history. So last weekend I went over to my girlfriend's place like I usually do, and I was talking to her about where I'm gonna go in December, and I was saying that I was thinking about going to South Korea or Taiwan, and she asked me when I'm coming back to Japan, and

    Segment details0:27–0:49 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_1
  3. I said maybe around January. And she asked me, she said to me, when you come back to Japan, do you want to come to my place? Do you want to stay at my place? And I said, sure, that'd be great. And then I decided to ask her, can I just move into your place in a few weeks'

    Segment details0:49–1:07 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_2
  4. time so I can spend my last month in Japan living with you? And she said, she said, she said yes. She said, okay, uh, I'm not going to be living there for free. We'll be splitting the rent in half, which is fine. It's really cheap, it's about $200 if we split it in half. So she said she's

    Segment details1:07–1:27 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_3
  5. gonna get a key made for me, and I guess I'll move into her place in a few weeks' time, um, right before I have to pay for the next month's rent at the guest house. I need to find the manager and let him know. It's kind of a hassle, but I'm actually really happy that she asked me.

    Segment details1:27–1:44 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_4
  6. If I wanted to move in with her because I didn't want to be the one who asked her first because that's kind of awkward. If she said no, that would have really upset me, and then if she said yes but she didn't really want me to move in— like, if she just said— if she just said yes

    Segment details1:45–1:59 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_5
  7. just to please me, I wouldn't have been happy with that. I wanted her to want me to move in, if you know what I mean. So I was really happy that she asked me if I wanted to move in with her or not. I was wondering to myself if it would be a good idea or not, but

    Segment details2:00–2:14 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_6
  8. I just— I can't think of one good reason to stay at the guest house. There's no one there interesting. James is never around, the Canadian guy. I haven't seen him for over a week. He never messages me anyway. Apart from the Canadian guy, there's no one else at the guest house that I care about, that I want

    Segment details2:14–2:32 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_7
  9. to talk to, or that I want to see. So the guest house was a huge failure. I guess it's the biggest failure in the history of guest houses I've been to. It's been the most disappointing, it's been the most boring. The only downside of moving out of the guest house would be I can't make vlogs during night

    Segment details2:32–2:51 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_8
  10. anymore. I love coming out at night, midnight, 1 AM. I love walking around this neighborhood making, making my videos, and if I moved in to my girlfriend's place, I won't be able to do that anymore because She would think it'd be weird. She would think it's weird if I kept going out for midnight walks by myself for

    Segment details2:51–3:10 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_9
  11. hours and hours. I guess I'll have to go back to making vlogs in the daytime and stop— stop creeping around the neighborhoods at midnight or 1 AM like some kind of weirdo. I don't think we'll get sick of each other because of living together every day, because she'll be at work. She usually comes home quite late. Sometimes

    Segment details3:10–3:32 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_10
  12. she goes out with friends drinking, so it's not like we're gonna be together every day, all day. It'll just be in the evenings and sleeping together, which, which would be great. I think it's a pretty good idea. I get to live with her, I get to spend more time with her, I get to save a lot of

    Segment details3:32–3:50 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_11
  13. money on rent, and I get to have sex every night, which sounds like a good deal to me.

    Segment details3:50–3:56 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_12
  14. Okay, so on to the next subject. The athlete's foot cream that I bought to use on my penis for my yeast infection is working. It's fine. There's no problems. It's actually helped a lot with the itchiness and it's getting better. But when I went over to my girlfriend's place, when I went into the bathroom, there was actually

    Segment details3:58–4:19 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_13
  15. a tube of antifungal cream just lying there on top of the toilet paper holder. And I don't know what this means. I think it's pretty obvious that she's using it down there, but I don't know. Does that mean that she had the infection before me and she's been using the cream? I didn't notice the cream being there

    Segment details4:19–4:40 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_14
  16. last time. I can't remember actually. So did she have the infection before? That's why she's using the cream, and then I got the yeast infection from her? Or did I pass the infection on to her and then she bought the cream and then she started using the cream? I'm not sure. The strange thing is she didn't say

    Segment details4:40–4:59 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_15
  17. anything about it. She didn't say, hey Daniel, my vagina is kind of itchy and I'm using an antifungal cream. Maybe you should use an antifungal cream as well, or maybe you should use a condom so you don't get infected. She didn't say anything to me, so maybe she's embarrassed about it. Or maybe she doesn't think it's a

    Segment details4:59–5:17 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_16
  18. problem. I don't really think it's a problem since we're both using antifungal cream, but the strange thing is, why did she just leave the antifungal cream lying there out in the open? Why didn't she hide it or put it away somewhere? It's a little bit strange, and there's many possibilities. I guess I could just ask her, why

    Segment details5:17–5:35 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_17
  19. do you have antifungal cream? Is anything wrong? Okay, so let's talk about my situation with my infection. So this is kind of embarrassing, but using the antifungal cream has had another unexpected, surprising, a positive effect or outcome or result. I don't know which word to use. Okay, this is kind of embarrassing to talk about. I haven't told

    Segment details5:35–6:02 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_18
  20. anyone about this yet, but for about— for as long as I can remember, for years and years and years, I've had dozens and dozens of these tiny white spots on the rim of my penis head, and they're like really tiny spots, and I have, I have no idea what these are. And I've tried, I've tried popping them

    Segment details6:02–6:23 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_19
  21. by squeezing them, but it's so painful when I do that. And I even tried— I used a needle once and I poked one of the spots, and this white stuff came out, and it was very sore. And a little bit of blood also came out. And after a few days, it actually healed and the white spot disappeared.

    Segment details6:24–6:41 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_20
  22. But it was so painful, there was no way I could pop every single white spot with a needle. So I just thought to myself, well, there's nothing I can do. What else can I do? I can't pop it because it's so painful, and it's not really causing any problems anyway. So I decided to Google it, and there's

    Segment details6:41–6:59 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_21
  23. actually this thing called purdy white papules that some men have, and they're just like harmless white bumps on the head of the penis— not on the head, but on the rim. There's also this article talking about how a lot of animals have penile spines or penile spikes, which are basically like spikes that are on the penis head,

    Segment details6:59–7:21 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_22
  24. especially cats. Apparently cats have like hooks on their penises to hook into the female cat to stop her from getting away. And apparently humans also had penile spikes tens of thousands of years ago, and we lost them for some reason. But like a small percentage of men have this DNA code where they have like a resemblance of

    Segment details7:22–7:44 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_23
  25. what used to be the penile spines. And I was like, I thought to myself, oh, maybe it's just that then. But after I started using the antifungal cream, the strangest thing happened. The little white spots started fall off. They would just start coming off, and when I started rubbing them, they would start disappearing. It was really weird.

    Segment details7:44–8:06 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_24
  26. Maybe those little white spots were some kind of fungal growth that I had 6 years ago when I had this same kind of yeast infection with the French girlfriend. But back then, I didn't do anything. I didn't treat it. I didn't put any cream on, and maybe it just festered into this, like,

    Segment details8:06–8:21 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_25
  27. fungal spot thing that I've had for years, and then now that I'm using antifungal cream, they're starting to die off or fall off. It's so weird because now my penis looks great without having all those tiny little white spots on it. It doesn't look like I have some kind of disease. I've always been very self-conscious. I've always

    Segment details8:24–8:45 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_26
  28. been very embarrassed about having these white spots on my penis because it looks like I have some kind of weird sexual disease, which I guess I do. But I've always been very embarrassed about girls looking at my penis close up with the lights on. I've always made an effort to get the lights turned off and to make

    Segment details8:45–9:06 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_27
  29. sure they don't give me blowjobs because I was scared that they would see these little white dots and they'd be like, ew, what's that? I'm not having sex with you. But now I feel great because all these little white spots are starting to disappear. All thanks to this antifungal cream. And I feel like I'm not embarrassed. I'm

    Segment details9:06–9:24 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_28
  30. not embarrassed about how my penis looks like anymore. Okay, on to our final subject of tonight: Tinder. So you might remember me saying that my girlfriend asked me a few times if I was still looking on Tinder, if I was still using Tinder, and I thought it was kind of strange. Why she kept asking me. So just

    Segment details9:24–9:45 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_29
  31. out of curiosity, I went onto Tinder tonight and I checked my messages, and I was looking for the messages, our messages that we first started sending each other, and for some reason I couldn't find them. They just weren't there. I searched for her name in my matches history and her name didn't come up. So either she's unmatched

    Segment details9:45–10:04 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_30
  32. me, so she's disappeared, or she's deleted Tinder. Now there's also another thing, because

    Segment details10:04–10:12 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_31
  33. I wonder if she's been checking my Tinder profile, because I didn't even realize that you could do this, but you could just go on to messages and then you could— you can check their profile whenever if you're matched. And I've been changing my photos and I've changed my description several times on Tinder, and I'm not sure if

    Segment details10:14–10:31 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_32
  34. she's been checking my Tinder profile. And I'm not sure if she's noticed me making changes on my Tinder profile, because if she did notice, then it's kind of obvious that I'm still using Tinder, but she hasn't said anything. The second possibility is she unmatched me so that I couldn't check on her profile, because maybe she's still using

    Segment details10:31–10:52 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_33
  35. Tinder and she, she knew about this and she didn't want me— she didn't want me checking up on her profile, so So she unmatched me. That's another possibility. A few weeks ago, she actually had a new match notification on Tinder, so she was still using Tinder. I don't know if she's still using Tinder now. She could be.

    Segment details10:52–11:13 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_34
  36. I have no idea. And then there's another possibility that she just deleted her Tinder because she doesn't need it anymore because she has me. That would be the best answer, but I don't know. Maybe that's the most likely answer. I just can't imagine why she would go onto Tinder and then unmatch me. What reason would she have

    Segment details11:13–11:34 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_35
  37. to unmatch me? Because she's secretly using Tinder to find someone else.

    Segment details11:34–11:39 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_36
  38. All this Tinder stuff is such a headache. If she's gonna use Tinder secretly, why doesn't she turn the notifications off so I don't find out? I keep getting paranoid when Whenever I see like a notification pop up on her phone, I'm like, is she cheating on me? Is she looking for someone else? And every time she goes

    Segment details11:41–11:57 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_37
  39. to the toilet, I try cracking her 6-digit passcode on her phone, but I don't know what it is. And I really want to get on her phone so I can snoop and check her messages. I know that's really creepy, but it's like nagging me in the back of my mind. What is she doing on Tinder? Who is

    Segment details11:57–12:13 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_38
  40. she chatting to? I don't, I don't feel like I can't trust her because If she wasn't serious about me, she wouldn't ask me to move in with her. There's also a 4th thing that I'm not too happy about, but I can't really do anything about it, and that's Meetup. She told me that she's using Meetup, which is

    Segment details12:13–12:33 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_39
  41. this other app where people organize events, and then you go onto the app and then you can participate in the event. And she said that she attends this language exchange event once a week, every week, week, and I was a bit shocked and surprised. I guess I shouldn't really be shocked because she is quite interested in learning

    Segment details12:33–12:54 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_40
  42. English. Maybe that's why she's dating me in the first place. But I have a bad feeling about these language exchange groups because there's gonna be guys there. There's gonna be Western guys there, and come on, let's face it, Western guys aren't gonna go to a language exchange event because they're interested in learning languages. No, they're gonna go

    Segment details12:54–13:13 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_41
  43. there so they can hook up with girls or they can meet someone to date. And yeah, I do get a bit worried that she's gonna meet some really cool-looking muscular white guy at this language event and then say, bye-bye Daniel, I found the real gaijin. The thing is, she's a very sociable person. She has lots of friends.

    Segment details13:13–13:31 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_42
  44. She goes out drinking a lot. She meets up with friends, they go drinking. She's on Meetup. I don't know what else she's doing. She's not She's not— she's not like a loner. She's not an antisocial person. She has a social life, and that kind of worries me. I think in an ideal world, my ideal girlfriend would be

    Segment details13:31–13:49 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_43
  45. someone who's like me, who doesn't have friends, who doesn't have a social life, so then I don't have to worry about her going out and meeting someone else. I know I'm probably just worrying about nothing and making it a big deal inside of my head when Really, it's not really that much of a big deal. So what

    Segment details13:49–14:07 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_44
  46. if she's going to some kind of language exchange course or event? It doesn't really mean anything. I don't know, I guess I feel a bit left out, like she has this whole other life that I'm not included in. This is actually a huge problem I had with my French girlfriend 6 years ago. My French girlfriend also had

    Segment details14:07–14:28 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_45
  47. a very active social life. She had a lot of male friends. And she was always texting them and messaging them, and she would always be very secretive with the messaging. She would always hide her phone or keep it locked or take it with her to the toilet, and I just couldn't handle that. I ended up going kind

    Segment details14:28–14:46 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_46
  48. of crazy and paranoid, and we had a lot of arguments about all of her male friends and her having this, like, secretive social life that she didn't tell me much about. I know I can't talk. I can't— I'm not one to criticize or judge because I also have this secret social life. I also meet up other girls

    Segment details14:46–15:08 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_47
  49. on Tinder whilst dating her. But I think this is kind of like a defense mechanism that I've created for myself. You know, cheat before you get cheated on. I don't want to be the person who gets cheated on first.

    Segment details15:08–15:22 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_48
  50. No, it's better to shoot first than than to wait to be shot. Anyway, that's what I'm worrying about tonight. That's all I wanted to talk about. I won't keep you any longer. You can, you can go back to your day now. Forget about me. And, um, see you next time.

    Segment details15:24–15:42 · rev_c90e9f2ce0c3e44b9b4b6d03377af64a_49