SHE DUMPED ME [woOSGr2j4J0]

So if you remember my last video, I talked

about how the girl that I've been seeing

for the last few months hasn't messaged me

in almost over 4 weeks. And then at the

end of the video, I actually talked about

how I messaged her asking her if she still

wanted to meet up or not, and I got a

reply. Unfortunately, it wasn't exactly

the kind of reply that I was hoping for.

So first of all, I do feel a bit

embarrassed that I was the one that

messaged her after all of these weeks

because I guess it was kind of obvious

that she wasn't interested in me anymore,

and I guess I should have just taken the

hint that it is over, but I I just wanted

to make sure, so I decided to send her a

message asking her, do you not want to

meet me anymore? And she replied to it

saying, I hadn't heard from you, so

thought you weren't interested anymore

either. Now that last either at the end of

the sentence was kind of painful because

at this point I wasn't really expecting

that she was gonna say that she lost

interest in me. I thought maybe she wasn't

messaging me because I hadn't messaged her

and she was waiting for me to message her.

And I thought if I did finally message

her, she'd be like, oh, he does still like

me. Me, and then we'll meet up again and

do you know what. But when I saw that

either at the end of the sentence, I lost

all hope, because maybe if that either

wasn't there, then I might still be

hopeful and think that she might still be

interested. So then I tried to explain to

her by saying that I was just stressed out

with driving and I went a bit quiet, but I

passed now, smiley face. And I was a bit

stressed out with the whole driving lesson

stuff and trying to get my driving

license, so I was trying to focus 100% on

the driving lessons and I couldn't really

concentrate or think about her. I was

doing driving lessons almost every single

day because my test date was getting

closer and closer, and the idea of meeting

up with her every weekend or twice a week

just really wasn't on my mind. It wasn't

something that I wanted to do or was able

to do. My mind was just completely focused

on driving, and I couldn't think about

anything else or really care about

anything else during that period of time.

So I didn't really message her because I

was afraid that she might ask me, where

are we going today? Where are we going

this weekend? And then I would have to try

and find someplace last minute or try and

come up with an excuse as to why I didn't

really want to meet up that week. But then

I passed my driving test and my mind

suddenly became much clearer and I felt

like I was less stressed out and I was

more in the mood for a bit of

you-know-what and going on a few dates and

maybe having some female company. Also, I

thought she'd be really happy that I

passed considering that one of the main

reasons I decided to get driving lessons

in the first place was mostly because of

her. And I realized that having a car and

being able to drive is actually very

useful, especially if you're going on a

lot of dates around the countryside. In

Kent where public transport isn't that

great. It's just so frustrating because

when we first started dating and I told

her that I started to get driving lessons,

she was really pleased and she seemed

really happy about it and really

encouraging. And I felt really motivated

to carry on with the driving lessons and

to get my license. I just really looked

forward to the day where I could pass and

then get my own car and then take her out

and go on dates and go maybe further from

Kent and go to places that are further

away and go to more interesting places and

not have to rely on the trains. But no, I

get dumped in instead. So this is what she

said finally. She says, sorry, but I lost

interest. I need to be a priority, and I

didn't get that from you. Well done on

your driving test, full stop. Not even a

smiley face or anything to lighten things

up, just a hard, cold full stop.

Sometimes I just can't believe the utter

selfishness of women. She's complaining

that I didn't make her a priority, I

didn't make her feel special, and I didn't

make it feel like I cared about her when I

was trying to focus and concentrate on

getting this skill, learning this ability

that would have made our lives more

enjoyable and better, and I could have

maybe been helpful with my ability to

drive us around to places. But no, just

because for a few weeks I didn't pay her

enough attention, she didn't feel like I

was making her priority, and she just

loses interest. I just really get annoyed

when women do the whole, oh, I lost

interest thing. It's just so weird how

women's minds work sometimes. They have to

have interest, and once they've lost the

interest, it's like you're basically dead

to them. They don't care about you at all

anymore. So when they have the interest,

all of a sudden they're in love with you

and it's like you can do no wrong and

you're perfect and they're just completely

obsessed with you and they're into you and

they'll get naked for you. But then you

just maybe take a few weeks where you're

not giving them any attention and you're

not messaging much because you're trying

to focus on something that's pretty

important, well, to me anyway, and then

they just magically lose the interest and

basically you're nothing to them anymore.

All the feelings and emotions they

might've had in the past Well, I say in

the past, it was literally just a few

weeks ago. All of that just vanishes,

disappears, gets flushed down the toilet.

It's like it never even existed in the

first place just because they lost

interest. It's so stupid. Oh, I lost

interest. Here's your stupid interest.

I'm sorry, but I just really get triggered

with the whole lost interest set of words.

It just really annoys me. I'm not really

interested romantically or emotionally in

my exes either. But I would still have sex

with them. It's like if when Japan finally

reopens and I'm in Japan and then my

ex-wife Chihiro messaged me saying, hey

Daniel, I missed you. Do you want to hook

up? I'm not gonna say, oh no, I'm sorry.

I lost interest. No thanks. I did really

like you, but because you didn't message

me every single day of every single hour

and you didn't make me a priority— I need

to be a priority. I need to feel like I'm

number one. I just lost interest. That

would just be so dumb. One of the most

frustrating things about the whole thing

is how everyone always keep saying that

you shouldn't focus on women, you

shouldn't obsess over women and you know

what, and you shouldn't make your

girlfriend your priority, you shouldn't

make women your priority because it's kind

of desperate and clingy and obsessive and

needy and that's a red flag, that's

unattractive to women. You're supposed to

have goals and non-women-related goals and

things you want to achieve in life. But

when I finally find a goal that I really

want to focus on that has nothing to do

with girls or getting laid or getting some

action and I put all of my energy and

concentration efforts and skills onto my

goal that I want to achieve, I end up

getting dumped because I focused too much

on trying to achieve my goal and I didn't

pay enough attention to the girl. It's so

frustrating. It's so stupid. It's like you

can't win. If you focus and obsess too

much over women and girls, then you're

like a weirdo, like a creep. But then if

you focus too much on other things or your

own goals, then it's like you're not

showing enough attention to your

girlfriend and then they dump you. What am

I supposed to do if I obsess and I'm too

clingy to my girlfriend and I'm like

constantly trying to have their attention

and trying to talk to them every single

day? Then they'll probably dump me for

that as well. One of the things I've

realized over the years is that I'm not

very good at juggling multiple interests

at the same time. I can be really, really

interested and focused on maybe just one

thing at a time, and then whilst I'm

really focused, hyper-focused on this one

thing, I kind of neglect everything else.

So if I get really into one thing, for

example, something like trying to learn to

play the banjo or trying to code my own

video game or trying to learn Japanese.

I'll get really obsessive into that one

thing and just only want to do that one

thing, and then I don't want to do

anything else. I don't want to go on dates

and walk around parks or zoos or castles

for hours and hours and hours when I could

be at home focusing on this thing that I

really want to get good at. I have these

periods in life where I have a hobby

that's not really related to girls or

getting action, and during those times I'm

not really interested in having a

girlfriend. But then there's other periods

in my life where I'm not really interested

in anything right now. I don't really have

any hobbies or anything else in life

that's happening. So then I go into

girlfriend hunting mode, and I'll dedicate

my entire day, my entire life to trying to

get a girlfriend. I'll go into all these

apps, and I'll be chatting to all these

women, trying to set up dates until I find

someone. And then I find someone, and then

it's great for the first few weeks or the

first few months, but then I get bored and

I find some other interest, some other

hobby. It's just really difficult trying

to balance having a girlfriend or a

relationship and also having some kind of

difficult goal or hobby that you want to

get good at or you want to achieve. I've

never really been good at balancing those

2 things, and that's one of the reasons

why my marriage kind of failed, is because

I was so obsessed with the whole challenge

of being a YouTuber and trying to grow my

channel, trying to make content. I

completely neglected the whole

relationship aspect of being married. I

just feel a little bit sad and

disappointed because I was kind of looking

forward to having someone being happy and

excited over the fact that I can now drive

a car legally. And I thought she would be

really over the moon and it would kind of

take our relationship to the next level

and I'd be able to go on to different

adventures with her or maybe other people.

I was just hoping that passing my driving

test would feel a little bit more exciting

than it feels right now. I mean, it just

feels kind of anticlimactic after passing

my driving test. It just feels like Okay,

so now what? What do I do now with this

driving license? I'm not really gonna do

anything because now I don't have a

girlfriend to go on dates with. It just

would have been nice if there was someone

in my life apart from my mum who actually

cared about me passing my driving test and

I could celebrate it with and maybe plan

to go on some trips with and actually put

this license to use. But as of right now,

it just feels a bit like it's a bit of a

useless skill that I'm not going to use

until I can find a girlfriend again to go

on some dates with. I'm sure at some point

in the future it might be useful in some

future relationship. My ability to drive

might add some extra spice to our

relationship and give us some extra

options in places we can go to and things

we can do together. So fingers crossed I

haven't just completely wasted all my

time. 3 months dedicated to doing driving

lessons. Hopefully that wasn't all for

nothing, but I guess we'll find out.