How my Ex Wife Betrayed me with my BEST Friend [tOhWXcBAw44]

Hello and welcome back to a new video. So

today I want to talk about how my ex-wife

betrayed me with my best friend, the Hong

Kong guy. So it all started in the summer

of 2018 when I was applying for my spouse

visa with my ex-wife at the immigration

center of Osaka. So we went to the

immigration center so I could get my

spouse visa. And whilst we were waiting,

I felt a tap on my shoulder from behind.

I turned around and it was a Hong Kong guy

tapping me on my shoulder. He said hello

and that he watches my channel and he

likes my videos. This was actually the

second time I got recognized in public

after my channel blew up, and I was quite

excited about being a famous celebrity

getting recognized outside. So I was quite

happy to meet this guy, and he seemed

pretty friendly. It's just one thing was

kind of strange. He kept saying how

beautiful my wife was. He kept saying

stuff like, Daniel's so lucky to have such

a beautiful wife. It's just a little bit

thick and heavy the way he was laying on

the compliments. I know he was just trying

to be friendly and everything, but I

thought, come on, you keep hitting on my

wife right in front of me. But I didn't

really think much of it at the time, and

we exchanged contact details and he added

me on Facebook so we could chat later.

But it wasn't until 2019 that we would

actually meet up for a second time. So

after certain tragic events happened in

the beginning of 2019, and after I had a

bit of an adventure around Europe, I went

back to Japan to get back together with my

ex-wife. And it was a few months after

that happened that I decided to meet up

with the Hong Kong guy again to go for a

yakiniku dinner. And at this dinner, we

started to discuss the idea of making

videos together. I was kind of interested

in having a friend to make some vlogs

with, to kind of have like a YouTuber

friend, because at that point I didn't

really have any YouTuber friends. All of

the other really big YouTubers didn't want

to have anything to do with me, and I was

kind of isolated in my own little YouTuber

bubble. So I encouraged him to make his

own channel, and I recommended him to buy

the GoPro 8 or the GoPro 7, and we started

to make a couple vlogs together, and I

thought this was a great idea.

Unfortunately, this would end up

backfiring right into my face. You see,

the problem was, after making a few videos

with him and hanging out with him several

times, I just didn't really feel like we

clicked or there was much chemistry

between us as friends. I just didn't

really feel like I was enjoying his

company much, and I didn't really feel

stimulated by the kind of conversations we

were having. Also, the videos we made

together just didn't really get many

views. I got more views just making my own

videos by myself. So I decided that I

didn't really want to meet him anymore and

I stopped talking to him. Unfortunately,

he was a pretty persistent guy and he kept

messaging me to try and meet up. And even

though I kept saying, oh, I'm busy, or

maybe later, he didn't really get the

message that I wasn't interested. And this

carried on for several months where he

kept trying to invite me to restaurants

and to dinner and stuff. So I had to make

the difficult decision to just outright

block him. So I blocked him and I thought

that was it. I would never have to deal

with him again. I was very wrong. A few

months later, I had a bit of an argument

with my ex-wife because of something silly

I said on Discord. I was obviously just

joking around, but jokes don't really

translate well into Japanese, and the

Japanese people have a very non-existent

sense of humor. And also, I didn't know

that the Hong Kong guy and my ex-wife were

actually messaging each other behind my

back without me knowing. And the Hong Kong

guy was still trying to invite me to

dinner. He was asking my ex-wife if we

both wanted to go to dinner with him. And

when my ex-wife told me that Hong Kong guy

was inviting us to dinner, I clearly said,

no, I don't want to go. But because we had

an argument over this Discord joke, she

went to dinner with him anyway without me.

She didn't even say anything about going

to see him for dinner. It was just one

night I was waiting for her to come home

and she didn't come home until pretty

late, maybe 11 PM. I just assumed that she

went went to a bar with one of her own

friends, or she went for dinner with one

of her own friends. And I didn't even find

out that she went to see the Hong Kong guy

for dinner until the next morning. And

that wasn't because she told me about it.

I only found out that she went to dinner

with him because the next morning she was

on her phone watching some video and I

could hear her voice. And I thought,

that's strange. I don't remember filming

her or making any videos with my ex-wife

recently. So, so who could have filmed

this video that she was watching? So I

went over to her and I looked over her

shoulder and I see the channel that she's

watching is the Hong Kong Guys channel.

And that's how I found out that last night

they were together filming videos at this

restaurant without even letting me know

about it. And you have no idea how angry I

was. I didn't even know that I was capable

of getting this angry, but I've never been

so angry in my entire life. And I'm

actually getting a little bit angry right

now just remembering what happened. So

I've got to calm down a little bit. She

then tells me that, yeah, she was with the

Hong Kong guy last evening having dinner

and they made a couple of videos together

and she was like, what's the big deal?

What's the big problem? And then I got so

upset having to try to explain to her that

I didn't like this guy. I blocked him for

good reason. And you just went out for

dinner with him without me, just the two

of you. And you basically stabbed me in

the back. And she kept saying, but we

invited you as well. Even though I clearly

said no when she asked me the first time,

and I just assumed that if I said no,

that also means that she's not gonna go

either. So then she starts saying that she

felt sorry for him because I used him for

views and then blocked him, and then she

felt bad, so she was trying to help him

make videos so he can get some views for

his channel as well. And she was just

trying her best to avoid telling the

truth. The truth was we had an argument,

she was upset, and then in order to make

me upset. She decides to go to dinner with

a guy that I clearly told her that I

didn't really like, and I blocked him

because I found him annoying, but she went

to meet him anyway. But she just had zero

understanding of why I was upset about it.

She kept saying that she wasn't attracted

to him in any way, so there was no

possibility of them cheating. So she

didn't really understand why I was so

upset about it. And I kept trying to

explain to her that I was trying to cut

him out of my life, and then you just

brought him back in, and it's weird

because he's my friend, not your friend.

It would have been okay if you went to a

bar or restaurant with one of your own

friends from, from your work, for example.

And then I tried flipping the situation.

So I said, imagine we had an argument and

then I went to dinner with one of your

female friends, just the two of us without

telling you. Wouldn't you be upset? And

then she just lies and says, oh no, I'd be

completely fine with that, just because

she doesn't want to admit that what she

did was wrong. She said sorry and she did

try to apologize, but I just felt like she

didn't really mean it. She was just saying

that so we could move on past this, and I

just couldn't let it go. So I got really

angry and I stormed out. I packed my stuff

and I got on the train and I went to

Kyushu in the southern west part of

Japan. And I spent about a week in Kyushu

just blowing off steam. And I eventually

calmed down a little bit and Christmas was

coming soon. And before all of this

happened, we already booked plane tickets.

We bought plane tickets and we planned to

go back to England to see my family for

Christmas. And I didn't want to ruin

everything. I felt like it would still be

nice to go home for Christmas together.

So I decided to just try and forget about

it. And I went back to my ex-wife and I

brought her presents from the train

station and we made up and everything was

fine. And then after we came back from

Christmas, our marriage was not going to

last longer than a few more weeks for

reasons that I don't really want to get

into right now because it's not really

relevant to this story. But we decided to

get divorced because we were both kind of

unhappy. I was still a bit upset about the

Hong Kong guy situation. And I decided to

say yes when she said, let's get divorced.

I didn't try to fight it. I didn't try to

beg her or anything. I felt like at that

point I was kind of done with this

situation and I just wanted to move on.

So whilst she was at work, I decided to

pack my stuff and I left. I left the keys

in her apartment and I got on a plane to

South Korea to start a new adventure, a

new chapter in my life. And guess what she

does? She starts livestreaming and making

all these videos with the Hong Kong guy.

Whilst I'm in Korea. And all of these

livestreams and all of these videos they

started pumping out were all just bullying

me, just making fun of me, mocking me,

laughing at me, trying to insult me. It

was all stuff like why Daniel was a

horrible husband, what it was like having

a horrible husband like Daniel, why Daniel

didn't wash his feet, why Daniel's

Japanese sucks, all this kind of— all of

this really negative stuff. Like, they

were trying to bully me. I don't really

understand why she felt the need to do

this because it was her idea to get

divorced. She was the one who brought up

the idea of getting divorced, and I just

agreed to it. And then she starts doing

all these livestreams and videos to try

and get revenge at me. It was her idea to

get divorced, so I thought she'd be happy

that I said yes to it. Instead, the way

she was acting was as if she didn't

actually want to get divorced, and she was

hoping that I would beg her and say, no,

please, I'm sorry, I'll do anything,

don't divorce me. And because I said yes

so willingly and quickly, It seems like it

surprised her and maybe hurt her ego a

little bit. So whilst I was in Korea being

pretty depressed and lonely, I had to put

up with all this stuff they were saying on

livestreams, and I had to try my best to

ignore it, but it just became too

difficult to ignore. And things got pretty

messy where they would livestream at the

same time I livestreamed, so I would watch

their livestream whilst I was

livestreaming and then react to what they

were saying live. And things got pretty

ugly when it comes to the kind of things

we were saying to each other. And this

went on for over a year. I thought maybe

they would just do a couple of streams

while she's still angry, but after a few

months they would just stop doing it. But

no, over a year later they still were

doing livestreams together, mostly just

insulting me and making fun of me. I was

trying to move on and meet new girls and

have new adventures, but they were still

streaming quite regularly and just

discussing the same topics over and over

again. I just think it was pretty sad that

they both hated me that much that they,

for over a year, they were still making

livestreams and videos about me. And I

guess the lesson I learned from this story

is that having male friends really sucks.

And I made a big mistake letting this Hong

Kong guy into my life. The first time I

met him, I thought he was okay. But when I

exchanged Facebook details with him, it

was just the beginning of a nightmare. I

should never have exchanged Facebook with

him. I should never have met him a second

time. And brought him into my life. I

think most guys would have the common

sense not to message another guy's

girlfriend or wife, especially if that guy

is supposed to be your friend. For

example, if I had a male friend, I would

never even think about DMing that friend's

girlfriend or wife. I just would feel like

that's a little bit inappropriate. I think

it would have been understandable if they

were already friends before. For example,

if the Hong Kong guy and Chihiro were

already friends before they met me, then

that would have been fine. But the

connection should have only been between

me and the Hong Kong guy as we were

friends. And if there was any connection

between the Hong Kong guy and Chihiro, it

should have been through me. I would have

been acting as the bridge. But I guess

some people just don't understand social

boundaries. And I asked several normal

guys, how would you feel if you found out

that I was secretly DMing or messaging

your girlfriend or your wife? And a lot of

these guys said they would punch me in the

face, and I thought, yeah, that's a normal

response. Anger would be a normal response

to that kind of situation. But at the

time, I had so many stupid viewers trying

to tell me that it's perfectly normal and

Chihiro can be friends with anyone she

wants to, and they invited me as well,

but I said no. Basically trying to

gaslight me and invalidate my feelings of

anger about the whole situation, trying to

convince me that everything was normal and

I was the one overreacting over nothing.

It was probably one of the most

frustrating and stressful situations I've

ever been in in my entire life. And it was

all because I tried to be a bit more

open-minded about having male friends.

Many of you may have found my channel from

the video I made that went viral called

Why I Have No Friends, and I specifically

explained why I was against the idea of

having male friends for this very reason.

The problem was I decided to listen to

other people's advice because people kept

saying, Daniel, you should make some male

friends, it would make your life much

better. And I made a mistake listening to

people. I took their advice and I tried

being open-minded about having male

friends, and look what happened. It

completely ruined my life and ruined my

marriage, and still to this day I feel

very upset and negative about the whole

thing. And because of this, I think I'll

never even try to have a male friend ever

again. I'm just so upset and traumatized

about what happened with this experience

that I don't really feel like I want to

reach out and try and make a friend again.

My theory is that the Hong Kong guy

probably fancied Chihiro and had a bit of

a crush on her and was jealous that I had

such a beautiful wife whilst he had no

one. And in Chihiro's case, she didn't

really feel that way for the Hong Kong

guy, but she was just using him to get

revenge against me. You see, women can be

very manipulative. They'll do this thing

where if they're upset with their

boyfriend or their husband or their ex,

they'll use another guy to inflict pain,

to use as a weapon. It's probably one of

the most powerful weapons women have in

their arsenal of pain, and they know this

very well, that causing jealousy is one of

the best ways to get back at someone. So

my warning to other guys out there would

be, if you have a wife or a girlfriend and

you also have a male friend, and the male

friend and the wife and girlfriend know

each other, Just be prepared that if you

upset your significant other, she's going

to use your male friend to get back at

you. And I've seen this time and time

again in movies where best mates, best

friends turn against each other because a

girl weaponizes one of them against the

other. So you better keep an eye out on

who your real male friends are and start

cutting some of them out if you don't feel

like you can trust them. Because believe

me, 8 out of 10 of your male friends would

betray you and jump into bed with your

girlfriend right now if they had the

opportunity to. All it would take is some

kind of argument between you and your

girlfriend, and then she'll be over your

best mate's house crying on his shoulder.

This is why I recommend not having any

male friends. But if you really insist on

having male friends, at least try your

best to keep them separate from your

girlfriend so they don't have any direct

connection or line of contact between each

other. I just find it so funny when I go

on dates and sometimes I get a girlfriend

and they're like, you should meet my

friends sometime, and I would love to meet

your friends too. And I just chuckle in

the back of my head going, yeah, as if I

have any friends. Yeah, as if I would

introduce you to my friends if I had them.

Let's say, for example, I had some best

mates, Bill and Ben, and I just got a new

girlfriend. As if I'm going to introduce

Bill and Ben to my girlfriend. Yeah,

here's Bill and Ben, my best mate friends.

Here's their contact numbers. Here's the

phone number. Yeah, just chat to each

other behind my back without me knowing.

I'm completely okay with that. Yeah,

sure, just add each other to Facebook,

become friends on Discord. Let's all make

a group chat community and all be best

friends so you can all talk about me

behind my back to each other if anything

goes tits up. No, no, no, I learned my

lesson from this whole Hong Kong guy

thing. I will never let the same situation

happen ever again.