My girlfriend is the most boring person in the world

You know, I really can't decide if I want

to use this camera to make a video or to

use my phone to make the video. For some

reason, when I use this camera, I just

feel really nervous. It's because of the

quality. Because it's better quality, it

ends up making me feel really nervous. So

I don't know if you noticed, but in my

last video, I was kind of low on energy

and I seemed a bit depressed. That's— that

was because I was depressed. This is

something you're gonna have to put up with

if you watch my videos. Like, some days I

feel really shit. And then other days,

like today, I feel great. I feel

fantastic. And on the days I feel shit, I

still make videos. So sometimes you might

see videos where I seem like I'm really

upset, like I have no energy, like I want

to die. I've been thinking about this for

a while, and maybe it's better if I don't

make videos when I'm feeling shit. If I

don't make a video, it ends up making me

feel worse because the idea of losing

interest in making videos for YouTube

really scares me. So I end up kind of

forcing myself to make a video even if I

don't feel so great. I'm currently having

relationship problems. My girlfriend is

giving me the silent treatment. I speak to

my girlfriend pretty much every day for a

few hours on Skype, but the last few days

we haven't actually Skyped at all. We've

hardly even spoken online using text

messages, and I kind of sensed that there

was something wrong because we haven't

spoken for the last few days. And I asked

her, is something wrong? Are you angry?

And at first she said she wasn't angry

about anything. And then I said, it's just

that it just feels weird because we

haven't talked much the last few days.

And then just wham, out of nowhere, this

huge wall of text appeared that she had

written saying, talking about all these

things that she wasn't happy about. She

said something like she had only been

sleeping for 2 to 3 hours every day and

she was really tired. And she actually had

a car crash a few days ago that she didn't

tell me about. She said she was so tired

she couldn't concentrate and And she

actually drove her car into the back of

the car in front of her. And she said

every time we speak on Skype, I just go on

about things she doesn't understand and it

makes her really sleepy. Like, I start

going on about YouTube or George, and I

was really shocked and surprised that she

wasn't interested in listening to me talk

about George for hours and hours. If

something exciting happens to me or

something interesting happens, I tend to

get a bit excited and I just start

rambling on and on. To that person that

I'm talking to. I don't— it's not really

like I'm talking to them, it feels like

I'm talking at them. I don't really take

into consideration if they're actually

interested in what I'm saying or if they

actually have any idea of what I'm talking

about. I just kind of ramble on at them,

and that's kind of what I do to my

girlfriend. I start going on about

YouTube, or back a few weeks ago when I

went to London to meet George, I was

really excited about that, so I I just

kind of rambled on about that to her, and

I didn't just say like, oh, I went to

London and I met this guy from YouTube. I

go into specific details, like I start

explaining everything that happened. I

explain like Yes Japan, how I used to

watch his show on Yes Japan 10 years ago.

And yeah, now that I think about it, that

must have been pretty boring for her to

listen to me talk about all these things

that happened to me in the past and this

random American guy that she has no idea

who he is. But the problem is, if I don't

say anything when we're Skyping, she

doesn't really say much either. She's not

a really talkative person, and I don't

know if this is because it's her

personality or if it's because it's pretty

late in Japan and she's just tired. I

think it's a combination of both. Now,

this has actually happened a few times

before where I've actually given up trying

to think of things to talk about, and she

actually fell asleep. She fell asleep for

about 50 minutes. And in order to stop her

from falling asleep, I try very hard to

come up with things to talk about. And

when I've run out of things to talk about,

I end up just talking about my interests

like YouTube or translating or

illustration, stuff like that. And I know

she has no idea what I'm talking about

most of the time. She has no knowledge or

interest about things like YouTube or

vlogging or illustration or translation.

And the thing is, what other choice do I

have? If I don't start rambling on about

my interests, then she doesn't say

anything, and then I don't say anything,

and it just turns into awkward silence and

she falls asleep again. Sometimes I ask

her things like, how was your day? How was

work? But it's always the same answer.

She works in a care home for old people,

so it's not like exciting things are gonna

happen in a care home full of old people.

And to be perfectly honest, I have

absolutely no interest in care homes or

old people or nursing in general. I swear,

if you go into a Japanese dating website

and you look at Japanese women's profiles,

80% of them will have a care worker or

nurse written as their profession. And I

just don't understand what the appeal of

becoming a nurse or a care worker is. I

know it's an important job, especially in

Japan where there are so many old people,

but I just don't understand why you would

want to do that job. It must be a horrible

job having to look after people, and I

don't know what they do in care homes. I

guess they have to bathe them and help

them get dressed. I don't want to see

naked old people. Why would you want to be

a care worker? I'm not trying to be

offensive or rude to people who are in the

nursing profession. I'm sure a lot of

people enjoy looking after people and

helping people and caring for the elderly,

and it's a really important job. I mean,

old people need to be looked after because

they're frail and disease-ridden, but I

have absolutely no interest in that

profession or that kind of work. Anyway,

when I'm— when I'm old in 50 years' time,

I'm pretty sure robots are gonna be

looking after me. But I guess I would

prefer having a nice young attractive girl

looking after me rather than an

emotionless robot. That would be kind of

depressing. And here's another problem:

she has no hobbies or interests. It just

seems like she goes to work and then she

comes home And then she watches TV. Maybe

she keeps her daughter company and she

does some cooking. Maybe she eats and then

she goes to sleep, and then she talks to

me on Skype for a few hours. It's like she

has no goals or aspirations. I asked her,

aren't there any things that you want to

become good at? For example, I want to

become good at speaking Japanese, or I

want to become better at drawing and

illustrating. And I asked her and it's

like I don't sense that there's anything

that she wants to become good at. She's

not interested in learning anything.

She's not interested in learning English

or drawing or artistic stuff. I just,

I can't really relate to that. I find it

really difficult to relate to people who

have absolutely no hobbies or interests

and don't do anything apart from going to

work, coming home, sleeping, and just

repeating that cycle. My last girlfriend

was like this. She had No interests or

hobbies, and I found it really boring to

talk to her. So that's the problem we

have. We have nothing in common. We have

no common interests or hobbies. I don't

know what to talk to her about, and if I

just start rambling on about my interests

like YouTube, she says stuff like, I don't

know what you're talking about. I feel

really sleepy when you're just going on

about those kind of things that I have no

idea about. And then I started to think

maybe it's normal for couples not to have

much in common when it comes to hobbies

and interests. Maybe it's pretty rare to

have 2 people who are in a relationship

and they have really similar interests and

hobbies. I know my mum would go absolutely

crazy if my dad came home from work and

would just start rambling on about

engineering or mechanical stuff because

she wouldn't have any idea what he was

talking about. Okay, so here's another

problem we have. It's YouTube. She knows

that I do YouTube, she knows that I make

videos, and she has asked if she can see

my channel before, and I said That I don't

really feel comfortable with that. I feel

a bit embarrassed showing you my videos.

And she didn't make a fuss about it. She

just said, okay, that's fine. And the

problem is I can't show her my channel

because of the type of videos I make. I

make extremely personal videos about

embarrassing stuff that's happened to me,

and I make a lot of videos talking about

her. I can't show her my channel when I

have videos like that. I'd have to take

down so many videos if I wanted to show

her my channel. And I would lose a lot of

freedom about what I can say because I

wouldn't be able to talk about her

anymore. I wouldn't be able to make

girlfriend update videos, and I really

enjoy making those. How would you feel if

your boyfriend or your girlfriend or your

wife or your husband had a YouTube channel

where they made videos talking about you?

Wouldn't you feel kind of upset about

that? Wouldn't you feel angry if they were

secretly talking about you to hundreds of

random people on the internet? So I can't

tell her that I make videos talking about

her. I'm pretty sure she wouldn't be happy

about that. So I am really grateful that

she's understanding and she hasn't tried

to force me into showing her my YouTube

channel. It's just that she doesn't like

me talking about YouTube because I'm not

willing to share my channel with her. And

this is the problem with doing YouTube.

I'm really interested in YouTube in

general, and I really want to talk about

my channel, the kind of videos I'm making,

the response from people who are watching

my videos. But when I start talking about

my YouTube channel to other people, They

ask me, what's your YouTube channel? Can

you show me your videos? And I don't want

to show them my videos because in the

future I might make a video talking about

that person and they're gonna get— they

might get upset or angry about the things

that I say about them, or they might not

want me talking about them to an audience

of people on the internet. So I was

thinking, why don't I make a fake YouTube

channel where I just put family-friendly

videos that aren't about being lonely and

depressed and having chlamydia, and I just

have a bunch of you guys go over and

subscribe to it? So it looks like a

legitimate channel, and I just use that

channel to show people if they really want

to see my YouTube channel, and this can be

like our secret channel where I talk about

weird stuff. Now that I think about it,

it was actually kind of stressful having

to talk to her every day on Skype, and I

feel kind of relieved today because I

don't have to Skype her. It was just

taking up so much time. It was taking time

away from making YouTube videos and doing

drawings and doing things that I wanted to

do, and I wasn't actually looking forward

to talking to her. I feel really bored

when I talk to her because she hardly has

any response to the things that I'm

saying, and she has no idea what I'm

talking about, and she's not really

interested in what I'm saying anyway. So I

feel like, what's the point in talking to

her? And it's starting to make me think,

is this relationship a good idea? Is it

going to work? Is it a good idea to go to

Japan and meet her? Are things going to be

different if I talk to her in person? Is

she going to be more responsive and

talkative when she's not sleepy, when

she's awake? I don't know anymore. I guess

it's not normal to talk to your partner

every day over the phone for hours and

hours, and that's why we've run out of

things to talk about. That's why it's kind

of gotten boring, because I feel like

we've overdone it. Maybe we need to take a

little break from Skyping all the time.

So now that we've gotten to the end of the

video, I did actually have a question I

wanted to ask, and that is, what are you

supposed to do when your girlfriend is

giving you the silent treatment? Because

in the past, when my ex-girlfriend gave me

the silent treatment, I kind of got

irritated and I tried forcing her to speak

to me, and that just made things worse,

and she just ended up screaming at me for

about 10 minutes in the middle of the

street in Japan. Everyone was watching.

It was really embarrassing. So I know that

trying to force people to talk to you when

they don't want to talk to you isn't a

good idea. So at the moment, my girlfriend

is being very cold to me. She's not

talking to me much, she's being very slow

to respond to my messages, and she's not

really saying much or anything at all. So

I get the feeling she doesn't want to talk

to me right now. So should I just leave

her and ignore her and wait for her to

start talking to me again? I don't feel

like spamming her with messages like, why

aren't you talking to me? I'm sorry. I

said I'm sorry. Can't we just go back to

normal? I don't feel like that's gonna

help the situation. So what am I supposed

to do? I don't want to give up on the

relationship. I still really like her. I

still really want to meet her, and I

really don't want her to break up with me

because I've kind of spent £1,000 on the

airplane ticket, and I don't think it's

refundable.

Hmm.