tinder date ep.1

Hello and welcome to this Patreon video.

Today I want to talk about a Tinder date

that I went on last year in September with

a Japanese lady. I think it was the 2nd

or 3rd Tinder date I went on when I got to

Japan in September last year. Ah, feels

like such a long time ago. So I matched

this Japanese girl. She was about 31, and

she looks quite pretty. I liked her face

on her photos. One thing to note was her

photos only showed her face. None of her

photos showed her body, which is a big red

flag because this is what usually what

very fat girls like to do. If a girl's

fat, she has to be very brave to

voluntarily show pictures of her body.

Anyway, I had no idea how big she was

because there weren't any pictures of her

face. So I went to the train station, we

agreed to meet up, and I saw her and

she was massive. She was huge. She was

like a big round ball of flesh.

Uh, yeah, I was pretty disappointed about

how big she was, and it was really awkward

and embarrassing because Honestly

speaking, I just wanted to go home after

seeing her. But I find it very difficult

to back out of a date once it started,

even if I don't want to be there, even if

I want to leave. There's been many dates

I've been on where I saw the girl and as

soon as I saw her, I just wanted to go

home because she was so ugly or fat

or unattractive.

Yeah, there were lots of moments like

that. Where I just stuck it out through

the entire date and I just grit my teeth

and endured it. Went to the cinema, went

to the restaurant, and then just went home

afterwards thinking to myself, never

again, never again do I want to go on a

date. And then I end up going on another

date the next week. Anyway, let's go back

to this particular Japanese lady.

What did we do? So we didn't really go on

a date. We went straight to Mos Burger,

which is a burger chain in Japan. They

don't put moss in the burger, it's just

called Mos Burger. And we ordered food.

They had to make it, so we sat there

waiting. And we talked about some,

some stuff, I guess. She asked me

something about my parents, where my

parents were from. I told her my mum's

from Malaysia, blah blah blah, all that

stuff. And then the food was finally made

after about 10 minutes. It felt like a

very long time we were sitting there

waiting. And we ordered the food for

takeout, not for eating in. They packed it

in a brown paper bag for us and we left.

We went to her hair salon, beauty salon

place. She said she ran this beauty salon

where they do nails and I guess hair

stuff, massaging. So we went there since

she said that she had no customers or

clients until 7 PM and it was empty. It

was in this high-rise building. It was

quite high up, maybe the 7th floor.

I remember the view from the window was

pretty nice. Got a nice view of Osaka.

I don't remember where in Osaka it was.

It was— it was on the— what's that

train line called where it just goes round

and round in a circle? Loop line? The loop

train line? It was on one of those

stations. In quite a businessy-looking

street in Osaka. Lots of very formal,

serious-looking office buildings and a big

motorway-like road in the middle.

And we went into her beauty salon. It was

all dark. She turned the lights on. It was

fairly small, about the size of my

apartment rooms all put together. She had

chairs here and there. You know, the kind

of chairs you sit on to get your hair cut.

There were sinks, massage beds which had

covers over them, and there was a little

square table with some chairs. And we sat

there eating our Moss Burgers. We were

just talking about random stuff like

dating, relationships, clubbing, going

out, stuff like that. And for some reason,

we started talking about kissing.

We started talking about kissing, and I

thought this would be a great time to ask

her if I could kiss her. I really wanted

to do something with her, but I was too

scared to make a move, so I thought I

would ask her first. So I asked her, can I

kiss you? And then she, she was laughing.

She was very confused, and she said no.

And I felt really disappointed, crushed,

defeated after she said no. I felt great.

Now nothing's gonna happen and I have to

sit here for the rest of the day and we're

not gonna do anything interesting. I want

to go home. We started talking again,

trying to ignore that embarrassing little

moment when I asked her to kiss— if I

could kiss her. And we started talking

about other things. After about 15 or 20

minutes, she pulled her chair over to

mine, next to me, because she was sitting

opposite me. And then she pulled her chair

over to mine, sitting next to me, and we

were showing photos to each other on our

phones. And I don't know what happened.

This is really strange behavior for me.

Usually I don't have the guts to do this,

but something just took over me and I

touched her hand and I held it and I

pulled her body towards mine and I just

kissed her on the lips. It wasn't It

wasn't— what am I trying to say?

She, she didn't dislike it. She didn't

stop me from kissing her. She kissed me

back. It was a full-on snog, not just a

peck on the lips. It was a proper kiss.

We kissed. Her tongue came into my mouth.

My tongue went into her mouth. And we were

kissing for a few minutes. And I was

really surprised and shocked about this

because 15 minutes ago you just said no,

you didn't want to kiss, and now we're

just full-on kissing, making out.

And it kind of taught me this lesson that

even if a girl says no, it doesn't

necessarily mean that she doesn't want to

do anything. If you ask her and she says

no, it doesn't necessarily mean no. She

could change her mind, or maybe she does

want to kiss or do something, but she was

too embarrassed about being directly asked

about it. And her automatic response was

no. So I felt like I learnt

a big lesson that day and something kind

of clicked inside my mind. Something

clicked saying, telling me that just

because a girl says no, don't lose hope,

don't lose faith. There might still be a

good chance that she'd say yes later on.

And that proved itself to be true

on Tinder dates after that.

So we were kissing for several minutes and

I decided to escalate the situation.

Wanted to move on to the next stage. I put

my leg on her— I mean, I put my hand on

her leg. I almost said I put my leg on her

hand. That would be weird. I put my hand

on her leg, on her thigh. She was

bare-legged and she was wearing a skirt,

and I slowly moved my hand up her thigh.

Touching her lady's place. I feel

really awkward saying vagina and pussy now

because I get scared of getting

demonetized. Doesn't really matter because

this is gonna go onto my secret Patreon

channel. Um,

I feel really awkward saying this now

because I've, I've kind of trained myself

to stop using words like penis and vagina.

So I touched her vagina. And then I put my

fingers underneath or into her underwear.

I started fingering her, and she was

already wet, so it was easy to finger her.

I was doing it gently. I wasn't being

rough. So she was pretty wet and horny

already just from a few minutes of

kissing, which is— which was a nice boost

to my confidence. And I wanted to have sex

with her right there, right in that beauty

salon. We stood up and I took down her

panties, took down her knickers. So we

were going to have sex, that was already

understood. It was just difficult finding

a place to do it because we're in this

beauty salon. There were, there were

massage beds, but they all had covers on

them and they were kind of difficult to

get onto. They didn't look very comfy.

There were no big chairs, there were no

sofas. We had chairs for one person,

one-seater chairs. One-seater chairs. I

don't know if that makes sense. We had

chairs that only seated one person, so we

couldn't both fit on the chairs. There was

kind of like an armchair that she sat on.

She tried sitting on and we tried doing it

on there, but it was too difficult. She

was— the problem was she was too fat and

her legs wouldn't bend enough,

and it was difficult getting the correct

angle to get myself into her. So what we

did in the end, after struggling for a

bit, I got her to lie on the floor of her

own beauty salon, and I took down my

trousers and I just put my dick in. No

protection, no condom, just went straight

in. And we had sex for about 10 minutes,

and I finished inside of her.

And she was laughing, actually.

It was weird. I said, oops, I finished

inside of you, and she was like, Oh no,

but we're not using protection. She was

giggling. She didn't really seem upset

about it. I'm pretty sure I didn't get her

pregnant, otherwise I would have heard

And then we got dressed again, pulled our—

put our underwear back on. I went to the

toilet to wash, wash all the lipstick

off my face because she was wearing

lipstick and I was kissing her. All the

lipstick rubbed off onto my lips. I washed

myself up, cleaned myself up, and it was

nearly 7, so it was nearly time for

her to start working, to open up the shop.

She said she had a customer, client to see

that's coming in for an appointment, and I

just left after saying— we said bye.

She said something like she was really

surprised, she couldn't believe what just

happened, and she said she'd message me

again. And I just left and I was pretty

happy. You might remember— I don't know if

you remember this because it's quite a

long time ago, but I did a livestream

straight after it happened and it was

titled something like, the best thing ever

just happened. I didn't talk about this

particular Tinder date because I was

supposed to be with Tomoko, and if people

heard me talking about cheating on Tomoko,

they'd say stuff like, oh, he's cheating

on his girlfriend. I didn't really think

of Tomoko as my girlfriend. She was just

some random Japanese woman that I met on

the internet. I just played up the whole,

oh, she's my girlfriend thing for views

and for videos because I thought it'd be

Anyway, I decided to keep this story

secret because I'd just get a load of hate

for it, and I ended up blocking her

because I didn't want to see her again.

She was just huge and she sounded like she

wanted a serious relationship. She

messaged me things like, I want to go on a

date with you. We should think seriously

about what we want to do now. Let's get

into a relationship. And I didn't really

want to get into a serious relationship

with someone who was 20 times bigger than

me. Maybe if she was slimmer. I mean, she

was pretty. I'm not going to say she was

ugly. She had a nice face. And the sex was

pretty good. It was just on the floor,

pretty animalistic.

Pretty nice, actually. Sometimes I think

about it when I masturbate. I'm pretty

sure this has to be the craziest sex

stories, sex, sex experience that I've

ever had. Usually I usually have sex in a

bed, in a hotel room, or in someone's

room. This was the first time I ever had

sex Outside of a bedroom on

the floor with some random Japanese

girl that I met that day, just several

hours ago. No protection, finished inside

of her. It was nuts now that I think back

on it. So many things could have gone

wrong. She could have had some kind of

STD. Luckily she didn't. I was really

scared though after going back to the

guesthouse after that day. I was really

worried that I might have caught

something.

I don't have any regrets though. It's one

of my best memories actually. I think it

ranks up there in my top 5 memories.

I don't know if other guys do this, but,

um, when I'm masturbating,

instead of fantasizing about porn or, or

some kind of fantasy girl, I usually think

back on past memories that were really

good, and she's definitely up there in the

top 5. Yeah, it was a pretty good

date. I'd say one of my most successful

dates. And it was the first time that

even after being told no, I just kissed

her. I don't think I've ever just kissed a

girl like that before that date. I think I

learned a lot of lessons from that date.

Number 1, asking directly isn't really a

good idea because she'd probably just say

no. And if there was any chance that she

would have wanted to kiss you or have sex

with you, asking her directly kind of

lowers your chance or it ruins the

atmosphere. It makes it awkward.

And it also taught me that even if she

does say no, doesn't necessarily mean no.

You can try again in half an hour or an

hour. You might have made her warm up to

you. You might have made her laugh. And

maybe now she feels more comfortable.

Situations can change really quickly.

The way she thinks or feels about you can

change in a matter of minutes. And if half

an hour goes by and you've made her laugh

and she likes you now, then maybe you can

try again. Maybe she'll have a different

response. So after this date, I used this

experience, this newfound knowledge that

just making the first move and just

kissing her usually works. 9 times out of

10. I went on several Tinder dates after

that and I managed to recreate that

success just by going to karaoke or going

to some secluded place and then just

kissing them without asking. And every

single time, apart from one time,

resulted in sex. The only time where it

didn't work was this 38-year-old Japanese

woman. We went to the movies and then we

We were in the elevator, escalator,

the elevator, which one's, you know, a

lift goes up and down. We were in the lift

and there was no one else there and I

thought it'd be a good chance to kiss her.

I tried to kiss her, she moved her face

away and we ended up not

kissing. We went on a second date, so we

went to karaoke this time and we ended up

kissing a lot there. But then after that

date finished, for some reason she blocked

me. So never got to have sex with her.

But all the other times that I just went

and kissed the girl resulted in

sex. I took her to a hotel, or we just did

it in the karaoke room right there. And I

just wish I knew this earlier. It's such,

such an easy-to-understand concept. I'm

pretty sure most guys know this already,

that if you make the first move, then

you'd probably get what you wanted. And if

you don't make the first move and you just

sit there waiting, 9 times out of 10,

hours will go by and nothing will happen.

I missed out so many opportunities when I

was younger, years ago, when I was with

girls in karaoke, but I didn't have the

guts because I was too scared, or I didn't

think it felt like the right moment. And

hours and hours went past in karaoke and

we just didn't do anything because I was

too much of a coward to even try. Try and

kiss her. There must have been at least 5

or 6 opportunities that I had during my

20s when I should have just made a move,

but I didn't and nothing happened. I

talked about this in my biggest regret

video that I made earlier this year,

and I wasn't joking, I wasn't messing

around. I'm fairly confident that my

biggest regret in life is missing out on

all those opportunities that I had with

girls. When I should have made a move,

but I was too scared to. It's scary making

a move. It's scary getting

rejected. The awkwardness that comes after

being told no is really awkward and

uncomfortable. But after the years go

past, after it's happened and you didn't

make a move, you just end up regretting

not doing anything. Now all I have is

these feelings of, oh, I wish I could go

back in time and kiss her or touch her

hand. Why didn't I try? Why didn't I

attempt to make a move? I just sat there

like an idiot waiting. Oh well,

can't go back in time. I just wish I

learned this faster and

sooner. I guess it's too late now.

Or is it?