Why I'm against open relationships

Hello and welcome back to a new video. So

today I want to talk about open

relationships and why I'm against them

fundamentally. So I've realized a lot of

people have been asking me, Daniel, if you

like variety so much and you can't stop

cheating and you can't stop thinking about

other women, why don't you just have an

open relationship? Why don't you just ask

your wife if you can have an open

marriage? And the, the obvious answer to

that is obviously she's just not okay with

an open relationship, otherwise I wouldn't

have had all this trouble with other women

and cheating and having big arguments with

her. There's no way she would ever agree

to being in an open marriage, so I don't

even know why people are suggesting it in

the first place. And now that I think

about it, Even if she agreed to being in

an open marriage, I don't think I would be

happy in an open relationship either.

Because let's think about it, what does it

mean? Now, an open relationship would mean

that I would be able to meet other girls,

talk to other girls— I should say women.

Girls sounds kind of dodgy, doesn't it?

It means I should be able to meet and

greet any kind of women that I would like

to without getting into trouble. With my

wife. Now that sounds good on paper, but

if you think about it, that would also

mean that my wife would also be able to

meet other guys and do you-know-what

with other guys, and I just don't think I

would be comfortable with that kind of

situation. I just would not be happy at

all if my wife started seeing other guys,

and because I'm seeing other women, she

would think, oh well, if he's doing it,

then I might as well do it as well. And

meet up with a bunch of Jim Bobs down the

street. And if she messaged me one day

saying, Daniel, I'm not coming home this

evening or this night because I'm hanging

out with David from, from down next

downtown, next street downtown, I would

not be pleased with that when I'm waiting

here for her to come home and make me

dinner. If I had to go out and make my own

dinner or buy something from a convenience

store I would be very upset just

by the fact that she would rather spend

her time, her evening, her night with

David down the street instead of me. I

would just feel like a complete sucker

sitting here all by myself waiting for her

to come back when she's out messing around

with a bunch of idiots who are probably

better looking than me, more fun to be

with than me, and more charismatic and

charming and have better personalities and

skills. There's just no way I would ever

be okay with that. I would just feel so

angry and upset and insulted, and I would

feel like I was being disrespected as a

man. If I'm in a relationship with a

woman, it's supposed to mean that she

wants to be with me more than she wants to

be with any other person, and she has to

prioritize me over other people, and she's

supposed to focus all of her attention on

me. To me, otherwise what's the point?

What's the point of being in a

relationship with someone who isn't going

to put you in front of everyone else

as number one priority? The whole point of

being in a relationship is that she loves

you and that she's into you and not other

guys. She shouldn't be thinking about

other guys if she's in love with me and

she's in a relationship with me. So why

would I want to be in a relationship with

a woman who doesn't focus all of her

attention onto me. I don't want to share.

I've never liked sharing ever since I was

a kid. Me and my sister used to fight all

the time over things. For example, when my

parents got us a kitten, we'd fight over

who owned the kitten. When my uncle bought

us a digital camera, we would fight over

who owned the camera. We would fight over

the computer all of the time. Daniel

doesn't share, not with other people, and

especially not with other men. So if I

even found out that my wife was with

another man, I don't think I could even be

in a relationship with her anymore. I

don't think I could even look at her

without getting very, very upset and

angry. I think I would just have to end

the relationship, put my foot down, and

then move on to the next lady. I'm sorry

if that sounds harsh, but sometimes you

just have to set boundaries for yourself,

and you have to set lines that mustn't be

crossed. And if they do get crossed, then

Unfortunately, there's no going back from

that. It's like breaking a plate. You can

try and glue the pieces back together,

but it's not really going to be the same

nice-looking plate that it once was. It's

just going to look like an ugly cracked

plate that should be thrown away into the

bin. Now, I'm sure open relationships work

for many people, but I think you have to

have a degree, a certain degree of

maturity And you have to have

self-confidence in yourself, and you have

to have fairly high self-esteem and feel

good about yourself as a person.

Unfortunately, I just don't think I'm that

kind of person. I'm very needy, I'm very

sensitive, I get jealous very easily, and

I just don't have that level of maturity

to be able to handle being in— being

emotionally invested in a woman who isn't

100% emotionally invested into me. I guess

in an ideal world, the only relationship

that I would think would be the perfect

relationship would be kind of like an open

relationship where I could see as many

different women as I wanted to, but my

main woman, she would only be able to see

me. She wouldn't be able to see other men,

and all of the women I see, they wouldn't

be able to see other men as well. But

unfortunately, we live in the real world.

We don't live in this fantasy world that

I've created in my head. Otherwise, I'd be

the king of the world and I wouldn't have

to do anything and I would just get

infinite money and I'd be 6 foot tall and

I'd be really strong and I'd be able to

fly and stop time. But that's all just

fantasy. It's never going to come true.

And I guess being in a normal exclusive

relationship sounds like a better idea

than being in a relationship where she

doesn't 100% love me, because if

she did, she wouldn't be interested in

other men. And I think in the long run,

my long-term happiness would be better off

in this kind of relationship instead of an

open relationship.

Hello and welcome back to another episode

of Cooking with Daniel. Today we're going

to be making kimchi stir-fried rice.

So for ingredients, we have bacon,

a little tub of kimchi, an egg,

and we also have rice which is in the

freezer. For some reason, my wife likes

to— she likes to freeze rice

rock solid. I don't know why she freezes

the rice because back home in England, my

mum never used to freeze rice. She would

just put it into a bowl Put some cling

film over it and then put it into the

fridge. You really don't have to freeze

rice. But anyway, we have a block of

frozen ice, kimchi, bacon, and egg. 4

ingredients, very simple. So first of all,

we have to take off the cling film from

the bloody rice. And then the cling film

gets stuck to the rice because it's all

frozen and it all breaks apart.

Look at Japanese cling film. It's brittle.

It tears for some reason instead of

stretching. It just snaps off into little

pieces and it all gets stuck to the rice.

Look at this. It's all stuck to the rice.

Makes everything so much more difficult.

Oh my God. So the rice goes into the

microwave. Move that out of the way.

Put that into the microwave.

And then just twiddle this knob until

it goes warm. And then open your bacon,

get out a few

slices. I said a few, not all of them.

Put some back. And we want

to cut these into strips like

this. Very simple,

very simple and easy,

just how I like them.

Okay, next step, we turn on our fire and

then put the bacon into the frying pan.

Okay, now the bacon has fried. I'll show

you how to one-handedly, one-handed crack

open an egg like that, and then split it

open. Da da! Easy peasy.

And now your hand is covered in egg, but

you can just wipe that away and just fry

the egg. Fry the egg like

this, and then get your rice.

Should be nice and warm now. Get your

rice and then just plonk it straight into

the frying pan and give that a mix

around. Get the egg on top of the rice so

everything's mixed together,

and then final Finally,

get the kimchi, put that

straight in, give it a mix. You don't

really need to season it because the

kimchi is already pretty salty. If you add

salt, it would just be way too salty.

Mix it all together, and then it's ready

to serve. And that, my friends, is how you

make Korean-styled fried rice.

Doesn't it look fantastic?

Absolutely beautiful. Very delicious.