Recording summary · October 2021
THIS is why I HATE Dating in England…
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Overview
Daniel has encountered minimal dating success since arriving in Manchester nearly four months ago, securing only about four matches per month on Tinder and Bumble, contrasting sharply with past experiences across Japan, South Korea, and Thailand.
Matches on dating apps in Manchester frequently result in unmatching, attributed to poor conversation skills or reactions to Daniel's work involving a failed YouTube channel, OnlyFans, and significant financial losses in the stock market.
An experiment featuring filtered photos depicting Daniel bald, bearded, and without glasses produced significantly higher match rates and positive feedback, highlighting a tension with Daniel's preferred personal aesthetic inspired by Japanese culture, Asian pop culture, and boy bands, which is viewed locally as soft and unattractive.
With Japan remaining closed to travel, Daniel chose to sacrifice local dating opportunities in order to maintain his preferred identity and personal comfort, deciding to pause dating until travel to Japan becomes possible again.
Themes
Dating App Matches and Appearance Experiment
Contrast Between Asian and Western Dating Markets
Aesthetic Preferences and Identity Influences
Impact on Self-Esteem and Video Presentation
Skepticism Regarding Western Appeal of K-Pop Aesthetics
Interpretation of Comments About Looking Young
Cultural differences in male hairstyles and attraction standards between Japan or Asia and Daniel's current location.
Daniel's struggles with dating apps in Manchester, conversation difficulties, and women unmatching after learning about his livelihood.
Developments
Undated: Daniel went on approximately seven dates in South Korea following a divorce.
Undated: Daniel arrived in Manchester and went on one coffee date that led to nothing.
Undated: Daniel tested a Tinder profile picture featuring a filter that added a beard, removed hair, and removed glasses.
Uncertainties & gaps
The reopening date for travel to Japan remains unknown.
Whether broad Western interest in BTS translates into actual dating appeal for feminine Asian male aesthetics on local streets is questioned.
The exact reasons why women unmatch Daniel on dating apps are presented as alternative possibilities: realizing he is boring to talk to or discovering what he does for a living.